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writes:Okay, I have this thing... I am absolutely terrified of men! My older brother cheated on his wife and left his children, and since then I have been paralyzed when it comes to dating. I figure, man that was my brother and I thought I knew him, what makes me think that some random guy wouldn't do the same? I am 18 years old now - and getting rather lonely, as time goes on. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Tell him what has gone on and take things slowly with him. You may find as you get to know him more you will trust him more. If this guy really likes you he'll want to take things slowly and gain your trust.
Suugest going for a coffee or something one day and see how it goes. Maybe just be friends to begin with and move on to dating later. :D
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reader, free2rhyme18 +, writes (25 June 2007):
free2rhyme18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYummy, thank you very much for your advice. I am trying to open my eyes, but it is oh so hard. There is a guy who is interested in me, and he asked me out three days ago... but I am just so scared.. I told him it wouldn't work. This guy is everything that I like in a man, but I am just so scared and I don;t know what to do. We see eachother everyday, he is a regular customer at my job, but I just don't know what to tell him. Any other advice? Should I just get to know him and hope the fear surpasses? *Courtney*
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 m brother in law cheated on my sister and after lots of quarreling they both assumed their part of responsibility and have made up for it, I think unfaithdfulness is not the worst thing which can happen to a couple and they sometimes cam make up for it.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (24 June 2007):
Try to put that thought out of your mind sweetie or you'll never date & drive yourself nuts. It's harsh because somebody could do it too you, but that's no excuse to not live your life.
When me and my partner first met I was so paranoid because of what my ex had done I almost drove my guy away. I still get little niggles now but I read a book or come on here or sleep or somehing to take the thought away from my mind. It doesn't mean I'm messed up or anything as I trust my guy. It's just a fear I have about everybody I meet.
It is hard to trust people, especially when someone so close to you turns out to do something you never thought they would do, but you may miss "the man of your dreams" walking through your life if you shut your eyes because of your brother.
Good Luck hunni!
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