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writes:Hi. I like a Canadian girl who is Jewish, too. I am Mexican. She came to my country once, for work, and we had a very good time together. I think she was flirty to me, to some point, and we have been corresponding ever since she left.This girl had not given me her home address, so I had sent her a few things to her work address. Then, this girl sent me a package with two books and two CD's. She sent me a postcard with a note about one of the CD's. She mentioned the singer is the daughter of a Jewish woman and a Mexican man. The CD is called "Lonely", which is how the girls says she feels sometimes. She wanted me to take notice of a song that goes like "I'm so lonely; kiss me, hug me. I have forgotten all of my memories, but If I can go back to you for a few minutes, I will". I have an opinion made, but, is this a hint?
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (19 July 2007):
 This does seem like a pretty big hint she is making to you.People like to be symbolic and they do put great store in the meaning of objects and things connected to any relationship. I think it's why we do stuff like pressing flowers from a bouquet he bought us, save a menu from a romantic meal we had. I once knew a guy who slept with a sweater from a long lost girlfriend because to him, it represented that he still really loved her, even though she had moved on.
I am a little confused as to why she said you didn't know how to respect boundaries?. Maybe she sees herself as a really special person, who wishes to be treated in a certain way (maybe to avoid being hurt) and she is almost guiding you slowly and carefully to her, so that you become aware of how she wishes to be treated and trust is established?
I have to say that by sending the CD and keeping communication with you, she is obviously wanting very much to keep you as a friend and maybe eventually it may develop into more, as many good friendships do.
Check how you feel about it at every stage. If you are happy then continue and see what happens. If you feel unhappy then decide if its really what you want.
Keep the channels of communication open though and as long as its a two way thing, then anything is possible.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, MYP and YummyMummy, for your comments.
I took this to be quite a hint from her, the way I had taken other things to be hints, too. But, she says she never meant anything but friendship. She claimed I could not respect boundaries. I don't wanna get into details, but that would be a valid conclusion, too. So, I just wanted to check whether I saw just what I wanted to see, or someone else could have fallen for this, too. Seems that, yes, someone else could have made the same mistake I did. What keeps on puzzling me is why she did this when she was already trying to avoid me.
Again, thank you very, very much. You've been extremely helpful.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (23 June 2007):
 I think that could be quite a big hint. Let her know how you feel before she thinks you didn't get the hint!
Good luck!
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reader, myp  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 Jeez she couldnt be more obvious. Thats a hint if i've ever heard one. Child of a jewish woman and a mexican man huh? thats cute :)go after herbest of luck-Myesha
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