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writes:So, at the moment I am researching in a chemical engineering lab at my university over the summer with one of the professors. Going great.Last week or so a girl was working in the lab space close to me on a different project. I reckon she is studying for her PHD. Thing is she is really quite something (beautiful!!). Now here's the problem, I'm an undergrad in his very early 20's and she's probably later earlier 20's. We don't talk since I've got my stuff to worry about not going tits up and likewise her.Is it alright to maybe get to know her ask her out sort of thing? Plus how would I approach this having never spoken to her before?Sorry to be another one of those guys! Much happier with technical knowledge hence the reason I'm researching.Thanks for all your help everyone!
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reader, jjnsna7  +, writes (27 August 2012):
You need to set a few goals that you can achieve since you are unable to go up to her, introduce yourself, tell her that you have seen her around and wondered if she would like to go for coffee sometimes.
Now set goals that are achievable and do them in order. If your goal is to sweep this woman off her feet with just a look or smile that is unachievable. Pick ease goals and build on them. As an example:
1. Walk up to her.
2. Introduce yourself.
3. Tell her that you have seen her around.
4. Ask her for coffee.
Get the idea? 4 achievable goals. If you act like a player, or cool, or what ever she will probably not be interested.
If she says no, you completed 3 of 4 goals. A no is just a no, not a death sentence.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 August 2012):
 I suggest you go up to her in the lab, some day, and say to her: "Excuse me, lovely lady.... but I find you BLISTERIN' HOT... more than the 451 degrees at which paper catches fire.... and I'd like to know and learn more about you. Any chance that you'd like to spend some - or a lot - of time with me over the next 6 to 8 weeks?"
If THAT doesn't work... then NUTHIN' will!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 August 2012):
You have your starting point - you 'reckon' that she's studying her PHD. So, next time you meet her, just say hi, and explain that you saw her doing something, and wondered what she was studying, and why. And listen to her. Hopefully she'll take notice.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (27 August 2012):
 You could take the get-to-know-her approach, but I prefer something much more direct! Why don't you just go up to her, smile, say good morning, then say "I know this is out of the blue, but I wanted to know if you'd join me for dinner sometime?" Only a few scenarios are possible, but regardless, she will feel very flattered and won't think you're a creep or anything: 1) she is taken and will politely respond with, "I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend." 2) she will take you up on the offer and hopefully you two will hit it off, or 3) she won't be interested for whatever reason, and she will politely decline. If she says no, just know that it's nothing personal- there could be dozens of reasons why. But, she could say yes! Why beat around the bush? I say just go for it. What do you have to lose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): Well you're a guy with brains, establish a starting point for creating a bond with her. I would recommend starting with simple conversation about something you both have in common - the fact that you're both studying in similar areas of science (I guess?) maybe a good place to start.
Start the conversation from there and see how you get along and whether or not you have other things in common to base a friendship on.
If you get along well enough, who knows, perhaps something will develop between you. (I almost forgot, if at any point she mentions a boyfriend, forget proceeding with anything else)
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (27 August 2012):
 Just say hello and try to begin conversation. Don't make your romantic interest evident from the very beginning. Give it time, become friends and then see where it leads...
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