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female
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anonymous
writes:I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: we're both too embarrassed to buy. As a result we've been putting off sex. In our society we both seem too young to be engaging in sexual activities especially in a conservative society. But I think it's only responsible for us to practice safe sex. In other news, does the size of a guy's package matter when trying out certain positions? Many thanks for the advice!
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (10 November 2012):
 Why is the burden on you to buy them? Is there some law in your country that says the woman has to take care of everything?
If your boyfriend is man enough to have sex, then surely he is man enough to buy the protection himself. Don't you think so?
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female
reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (9 November 2012):
 If you can't be rational, adult and mature about doing something as blase as buying condoms, you are far from ready to deal with the risks of having intercourse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): sorry i never realised where you are from,order on line
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (9 November 2012):
 Hi
no condoms = no sex
OR
no condoms + sex = pregnancy
Either go buy them where nobody knows you or get a friend to get them.Its not embarassing it's extremely sensible and its not funny or odd to those who sell them to you.When you do go, why not buy quite a few so you don't have to keep returning?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 November 2012):
 Order then online?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): Can you not get a friend, a married friend of brother or sister to get them for you?
"does the size of a guy's package matter when trying out certain positions?"
It can OP but there's only one way to find out and that way is a hell of a lot of fun.
I have to disagree with the others, Singapore is very conservative and status, honour etc. are still highly valued there, get someone else to get them for you.
Also don't carry them around in your bag or in his pocket, keep them somewhere safe, you don't want to deal with one falling out by accident. Always use condoms until you want to have children OP, getting pregnant outside marriage is not a risk you want to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): if you are embarressed about buying condoms you shouldnt have sex. dont u buy pads or tampons? just as embarressing, even more so. but whats worse, condoms, or pregnacy test? then at every prenatal appt you give a urine sample... hold off until you are mature. buying condoms goes both ways, you can get them too. i buy condoms n so does my bf, heck he even buys my feminine products! i wish u luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 November 2012):
And I forgot to add - I DO NOT believe it's ONLY the guys responsibility to buy condoms EVERY girl should carry some for peace of mind.
BUT if a guy can't buy them or refuse to wear them, he shouldn't have sex.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 November 2012):
I will echo SVC
IF you are too embarrassed to buy condoms you are not ready to have sex.
It's THAT simple.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 November 2012):
 This reminds me of an interesting story from my college days.....
The guy who lived in the dorm room next to mine was intimate with his G/F, and - like you - was too embarrassed to purchase condoms....
HOWEVER, he has a great car (a nice Pontiac Tempest)... and I didn't.... so we struck up a deal.... I would take his car to go downtown and purchase condoms for him... and he would loan me his car for the evening so I could go on an off-campus date....
Perhaps this will inspire you to find a new and novel way to address this issue....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous12345150 +, writes (9 November 2012):
dont be silly....you just go and buy them if your not ready or adult or mature enough to buy them then you certainly are not adult or mature enough to have sex
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 November 2012):
 IF you are too embarrassed to buy condoms you are not ready to have sex.
as for 'the size of a guys package' honey he's not going to the grocery store. call it a penis. IF you can't say PENIS you are not ready to have sex.
and yes some positions work better for smaller men or larger men depending on bellies and penis size when erect...
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