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writes:How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him for lying to me many times?Im trying to forgive him many times but still he deny the truth i was hurt why he did to me like this i was honest to me him,he promise many things but i know all of that is just only promises not coming true,now we broke im still waiting to him to apologize to me but he got a big pride even if he is the one is faulth still hin on pride i hate him the way i love him,i wan him to forget and delate it on my mind but his i cant?
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reader, Erlyn +, writes (20 March 2013):
Erlyn is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks 2 all of u guys for concerning me to advice I appreciated,now I realize is time to move on my life to find a better man than him.thnks 2 ol...:)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 March 2013):
 how long ago did you break up?
love and hate are actually both the same.. it's Passion just on opposite ends of the spectrum.
perhaps you continue to hate as a way to hold on to him?
the opposite of love is ambivalence...
he won't apologize... you have to figure out how to make your own peace about it
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reader, Serpico +, writes (20 March 2013):
Sageoldguy hit the nail on the head. The opposite of love is ambivalence.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 "..How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him..."
You can't. It's a fine line between love and hate. The "opposite" of "love" is NOT "hate"... it's "indifference") ...and you can only forget him if you choose to discontinue thinking about him IN ANY MANNER!!!... and that includes hatred!!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, blondieee5199 +, writes (20 March 2013):
It's hard to forget somebody you loved, and many people try to deny their feelings for somebody they feel for by saying that they hate them. But what many don't realize is that the opposite of love isn't hate, its apathy. Apathy means you just don't care about the person or anything in their lives at all. If you hate somebody, you still have feelings for them in some way or another, and most of the time, especially if you were in a committed relationship with them, it means you still love them. I'm sorry he lied to you, there is no excuse for lying in a relationship, and he was wrong for that. The only way to really be able to move on from the hurt that you feel is to learn to forgive. Its difficult to forgive somebody who hurt you so bad, but I have learned that learning to let go and forgive is the key to setting you free. You can even let him know that you have forgiven him for lying to you, but just because you forgive doesn't mean you have to forget. You don't have to be with somebody who lies to you, but its obvious that if you hate him, you still have feelings for him, and of course if you really cared about this guy, those feelings aren't just going to go away overnight. First things first, learn to let go and forgive, and the rest will follow the way its supposed to!
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (20 March 2013):
There is a very narrow border line between love and hate .Be gentle with yourself you have been hurt and told many lies by your ex-boyfriend.So now you are in control of your own feelings and for your own peace of mind let this HATE go because hate can trun to bitterness.You deserve to be happy so let the hate go.Its not going to be easy but you will get there. Big pride is a very lonely place to be .Kind Wishes .Nora B.
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