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writes: Ok. Here it goes. I'm 30 and have never been in any sort of relationship with a woman. I keep to myself mostly and don't really enjoy going out and doing much of anything. I've been feeling very lonely lately and it's been getting worse. It's gotten to the point that I spend large amounts of everyday thinking about how worthless I am and that I have nothing to look forward to in my life. The thing is I feel that I have nothing to offer a woman and that I would just be wasting their time to even try to have something with them. To top this off I know that I have a terrible premature ejaculation problem. I've never had sex, but about half a minute of stimulation by myself and I have to stop or else go over the edge. Being that fast is completely abnormal and it would most likely be even worse with someone else. I've spent so much time reading about this and seeing posts on forums from men and women about how it's destroying their relationships and how women feel they have no choice but to leave men with this problem regardless of how well the rest of the relationship might be. I know that if I went to a doctor about it the only thing they could do would be to give me drugs, but that's something I really, really don't ever want to do. Knowing I can't perform like the vast majority of men out there makes me feel worthless and useless to any woman. I'm not even sure what I'm asking on here, but I'm just feeling that my life is a waste and that no one could ever possibly want me. Sorry for rambling on for so long, but is there really any chance someone could be happy with a guy who is sexually broken?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 March 2013):
You come fast because you've never needed to slow down and enjoy it before. You've been training yourself to come fast.
And you're right, you don't have anything to offer a woman. Do you know why? Because you believe you don't. Your lack of confidence is ruining your life.
If you want to be self conscious about something, the best way is to search for it online. You'll never hear woman Writing in to say "my boyfriend suffers from premature ejaculation but I'm very patient because I love him soo much."
What does all this mean? Your problems are self inflicted. Until you realize this you'll NEVER have anything to offer. I realize its a catch 22, so you have some work to do to break out of your funk.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 March 2013):
 I think you've written a submittal about a guy who has convinced himself that he has - and never will have - a relationship with a girl.... so he's scuttled anything that MIGHT have happened.... LONG BEFORE IT'S EVER TAKEN PLACE....
Would you go to the DMV and say to them: "Don't give me a driving license, because I will go out the very first day and have a horrible crash that will likely cause a fatality????"
If not, then why would you ask (us) an equivalent question about your prospective love-live????
Good luck...
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (10 March 2013):
Hi - you're not broken... most guys know how to make themselves come very quickly through masturbation... you know exactly the right moves to make it feel best for you - when you're with a woman she will do things that are different and feel different so it will take longer for you to feel that special feeling just before you come.I think you need to address your depression and that means going to the doctor... did you know taking anti depression drugs makes you less sensitive to sex, it takes longer to come when you are taking them. you need to focus on what makes you happy, not on what makes you unhappy.good luck
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