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writes:Hello everyone I'm new to this and hopefully will get some advice ... I've been sleeping with this guy for about a year and half I guess we are friends with benefits. Even though he has said he likes me, and one time after sex he told me I was going to fall in love with him. I met his mom brother and friends (left before I could meet his daughter). We chill with his friends and have a good time. I'm starting to like him and I want to know how or if I should let him know ...ps one time he said let's do it the right way, but I was in a relationship...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnx guys I really appreciate ur advice but I just like him not love I'm dating sumone else and he's the one lookin at my phone to c who I'm textin and he's the one who said he wanted to do it the rite way by goin out on dates and things I do like him jus not sure if I can take him serious
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (26 September 2011):
 I agree with the two individuals that commented on your post. And this is a classic example of how Oxytocin affects sexual relationships. (For more info on this go to: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ladies-what-you-should-know-before-you-have.html )I would also advise you not to let him know how you feel because it's a 50/50 shot- and you could not only ruin your sexual relationship with him, but scare him off enough, and ruin the friendship as well. IF you must let him know how you feel, find out first from him to see where he stands. Tell him a thought ran past your head a day or two ago, and you was just wondering if has he ever considered (or would ever consider) you to be more than FWB. Depending on his reaction/answer you could either choose to express how you feel- or just say "ok" and let the situation be.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 September 2011):
 You write: "...I'm starting to like him and I want to know how or if I should let him know ..." Of course you may let him know by telling him....
HOWEVER, doing so (telling him) involves risk... IF your FWB is content ONLY being FWB, then your revealing that your feelings go deeper may well have the effect of him discontinuing the FWB arrangement.....
Good luck.....
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (26 September 2011):
I think now that you have been sleeping with him whilst not in a relationship I doubt that he will see you as girlfriend material. Why would he want to be in a relationship with you, when is already able to have sex with you with no commitment? FWB nearly always ends badly, and even more so for the woman involved.
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