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writes: I am 47. My gorgeous boyfriend is 25.. my son is 27, I initially could not believe a guy younger than my son would be interested in me... but I have looked after my figure. We have a mind blowing relationship and both his and my parents have no problems... my son is the only one that is not happy but respects my decision in life. How should I deal with this? For the first time ever I am now truly happy and so much in love... my boyfriend and I are at the place where we may want to become more physical and express our love through sex… two issues are concerning me. Should I solve the issue with my son before my boyfriend and I have sex? How can I get the issue involving my son out of my head to enjoy sex with my boyfriend?I am not used to considering sex with someone who is younger than my son. Do you think it is ok? Any thing to consider? Do you think it can be good for both of us and our relationship? Any tips for making it good for both of us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): As long as you're happy, that's all that matters. Take your son out to lunch or dinner, have a talk with him and tell him that you are happy. I'm sure it's awkward for him, since your bf is 2 years younger than him, but he should want to see you in a happy relationship above anything else. If he can't give you his blessing, then let him pout and be a baby. Your son is a grown adult and needs to start acting like one. I lost my dad last year and if my mom got a bf who was younger or around my age, it would be weird at first, but as long as they were happy that's all that matters. Cheers to you!! All the best!
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (10 November 2009):
If he makes you happy then that's what matters. I don't think there's much you can do about your son being somewhat uncomfortable with the situation since your boyfriend is younger than him. I mean, if my mother or father started dating someone younger than me (I'm also 25) I would be a little weirded out by it, but if that's what they wanted then that's how it would be--but anything they would say wouldn't change the fact that I might be a little uncomfortable with age difference, but I would respect their choice.
Of course it's okay to have sex with your boyfriend and it will be good for your relationship. But I don't think you should let it interfere with how your son feels about your relationship. You need to respect how he feels just as much as he needs to respect how you feel. From what you said, it doesn't sound like your son is shutting you out of his life because of your relationship, he may not be completely understanding, but he's respecting your decision. As long as you know that you can't do anything about how your son feels, yet he respects the relationship you have, I don't think you should let it effect you. It's your life; not his.
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