She cheated with me when she was in a relationship with my best mate... I worry that she might do it to me now

A male age 36-40, *adiesm4n217 writes:

This is a very long and complicated issue, but its kind of bothering me and wanted peoples advice. well im currently seeing this gurl and things are all great but the problem i have is a trust issue. the thing is she used to date a friend of mine which was her first boyfriend. during that time though me and her were close. and we had feelings for each other but we knew nothing could come out of it! it was wrong but for some reason we keeped on going till eventually we became intimate. after that though i felt really guilty so i walked away from it all and got on with my life thinking all my feelings would go away. but everytime we spoke my feelings would come back n vice versa! so i did it again and walked away for a longer time frame. but like it is when we i came back it was the same thing. i knew she wasnt happy with her bf(my friend, who i wasnt close but hung out with randomly for a poker night or so).. ive always been a loyal person! till when things happen with her. but i dont regret it because ive meet someone whos totally different to all the other girls who have came into my life. but back to the story well after afew times of putting her aside she always came back to me!! and always cared bout me but was still with her (bf my friend) at one stage we tried to be friends but we both knew it wasnt gona work we wanted to be with each other, so because i knew it was stupid waiting around, i "finally" decided to got on with my life and before that though we talked and said maybe one day when its right we would be together. a year or so passed i found out that she finally broke up with her bf (my friend) and was kind of happy, but i was seeing another girl at the time so i couldnt really just leave and i was happy where i was. so as time went abit longer she ended up dating some other guy one of her brothers friends. and when i found out i was alittle upset and jealous but i knew i had not right to. but i also knew that it wasnt goin to last very long and that i knew she had something for me! so i just let it slip. about six months passed we havnt spoken she broke up with that new bf because she wasnt happy with him like i thought! and afew months after one night she contacted me and ask how i was etc. so we began to talk and she pretty much put everything on the line and wrote me a letter stating how she felt and wanted one chance to be with me. as for me i was happy being single but i thought to myself it doesnt hurt to try so i took the chance. i had strong feelings for her before perhaps they'l come back again. well currently weve been seeing each other for 2months now, but for some reason i always feel "if she cheated with me with her first bf(my friend)" then wats stopping her from doing it to me! weve spoke about it afew times and she told me that "things are different and that no other guy can and will compare to me and that il be the only guy in her heart" of course i just took it on board but didnt really believer her as im a cynical person and dont believe everything im told. but shes a great girl, shes respectful, close with her parents we communicate great and we just get along etc. i do see a future with her but im just afraid if she could do that to her 1st bf whats stopping her from doing it to me even though i was the guy she cheated with?? an incase u all wondering all this has happend in a 5-6 year time span, so its been a long journey for me.

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