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writes:I'm beginning to get quite down on myself. It's been a long time since I've had a relationship. I'm not giving up hope on finding that someone, it's just the advice I keep getting from friends seems so contradictory. For instance, everyone keeps telling me that that special someone comes along when you least expect it! But, I'm always looking for someone, I'm always thinking when I go out could this be the day I meet someone. Since many people have told me this and they are in relationships, I'm starting to think this it true. So how do I stop thinking about wanting to meet someone when I go out? Reply to this Question
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 November 2009):
It's okay to think about wanting to meet someone. However, it's kind of more along the lines when you go out to just have fun and not give a care about whether you meet someone that night or not. Just go out and have fun, but don't be in the mindset thinking that if you don't meet someone that your night sucked. Have a good time with your girlfriends, of course be open to meeting someone new, just be carefree and don't focus on meeting someone.
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reader, generalist  +, writes (6 November 2009):
see dear,first and foremost its important to know that you are not the only one who is going through this feeling.Secondly stop getting troubled by this feeling...you know instead start visualising the kind of person you want,start visualising the things which you will do with him...start visualising the best times you are gonna spend with himmm.your entire focus should turn from WHAT YOU DONT WANT to WHAT YOU WANT....chill dear......just dont panic...and FEEL GOOD...and then it will happen...the problem is you want to put a time boundary and its not fair
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reader, generalist +, writes (6 November 2009):
see dear,
first and foremost its important to know that u r not the only one who is going through this feeling.
Secondly stop getting troubled by this feeling...u know instead start visualising the kind of person u want,start visualising the things which u wwill do with him...
start visualising the best times u r gonna spend with himmm.
your entire focus should turn from WHAT YOU DONT WANT
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (6 November 2009):
 You are going through what I call the "mid-twenties lull" too young to go out and get it out of that gnawing, desperate "I'm getting older" feeling, too old to have the same wild sense of adventure that usually leads to trouble. Allow yourself to be excited to meet someone and accept mens' attention no matter who they are (unless of course they are insulting)When you flirt it kind of stirrs up a certain law of attraction so don't hesitate to flirt back, feel confident and sexy. When it rains, it pours! Do a little rain dance, but don't go too far out of your way. Have fun!
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