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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So, my girlfriend of 4 months broke up with me by ignoring me a few weeks ago. Now she is stalking me online every day and making sure I don't move on. She is also trying her best to hurt me by acting like nothing ever happened, pretending to be busy, happy and unavailable while I've been trying to get closure from her. Now I'm emotionally detached from her but she is still keeping this charade up. I'm not sure if I should just let her "hurt me" to let her feel good about herself or just ignore her. I kinda want her back some day, so what's the best way to make her regret losing me and eventually miss me like crazy? So far I've always taken the high road and never said anything bad to her etc, but always responded to her.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Stop trying to talk to her. Everything she is doing is to get a response out of you, stupid immature childish games. I'd forget her altogether. But the best way to make her decide she wants you and she messed up is to ignore her. Delete her from your life. She will see she means nothing to you, you want nothing to do with her, it'll make her want you. If it doesn't then she isn't interested and there's nothing more you can do. But it'll help you move on in the mean time. Continuing to talk to her and fall for her games is doing nothing but making her play harder. You want what you can't have and you are far too accessible to her for her to want you.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (7 November 2012):
 Hi
I suggest you get off the PC,stay off it for a long while and get out and meet other people.She is controlling you and playing stupid little games.Leave her too it.She is immature and needs to see she doesn't have a hold over you or your time.She finished things so has to realise that means your free to do as you please too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2012): Send her an e mail and ask her what she wants.
Tell her to stop playing games because your done with all that.
If she wants to remain friends / try again say you'll stay in touch.
If she doesn't, cut all ties move on and find someone who knows what they want and happy to express that.
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