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writes:I am 69. I love a girl who is just 23. I am madly in love with her and have a full grown sexual and complete relationship with her. Is it wrong or ok? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2012): I think its ok if the gal also wants to be with her 69yr old.But for sure things will start boring her as time goes on.There many things u wld like to do that he won't wanna do cze of his age.Think about it before u decide
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (10 November 2012):
OP, why are you asking? I will cut you some slack and say if it truely is love then go for it. If you keep youself fit and healthy then sure, you still have more milage than the average modern relationship needs. Never forget what a lucky guy you are and make sure your gf gets all the love and respect she deserves.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (10 November 2012):
Age gaps are fine, but there's a line. Almost 70 dating a 20-something? I'll be honest with you: I think it's disgusting. She could be your granddaughter. What in the world do you want with a girl like that? Love? I don't buy it. There are plenty of mature women you have more in common with to choose from. Answer all the questions in IAmHereToHelpYou 's post and you'll figure out what's truly going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): I say go for it because she's got what you want (sex) and you got what she want (money)!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): my 84 year old grandpa is dating a 65 year old lady and we always kid him that she's too young for him, lol. Now I take that back!
well it's certainly unconventional, and as such there isn't really a 'script' to follow as there is for more 'normal' relationships so you're just going to have to play it by ear and see where it goes. But precisely because there's no script for it, be prepared to encounter lots of problems both societal as well as between the two of you. She is still maturing and finding out who she is and what the world is about. Be prepared for her to become a very different person in the next 10 years or so as she experiences more of life, be prepared that in the coming years as she sees all her friends marrying and having kids and she looks to where her relationship with you is headed, that she may not want to be with you anymore. But until then, you could have a very good time with her so why not if she's also interested in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2012): I cant say i personally think its right because i dont, but you cant help who you fall in love with. Your not breaking the law and your both concenting adults, so as long as ur both happy does it really matter wat we think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): I think it's wrong. She's young enough to be your granddaughter for goodness sake, doesn't that bother you? Why not find a woman who is more comparable to yourself in life stage and life experience? seriously, I think there is something amiss if you can only connect with someone who is very far behind you in life experience.
I don't think it's practical either. Where do you see this headed? If I were you I would highly suspect her motivations for being with you because sooner or later she will probably want to be with a man her own age who is younger and hotter. At some point she will want to get married and settle down and start her own family. She will probably want a man closer to her age to do that with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2012): "Is it wrong or ok?"
Do you have money and did grow up without knowing her f
father? What do you expect to get out of it? What are your plans if you knock her up? Do you plan to knock her up?
If you're tacitly asking for permission, then I suspect yours and/or her motives are NOT entirely altruistic.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 November 2012):
 I agree with oldbag it's not right, it's not wrong. it just is.
the problem is that at 23 she will want very different things than you do at 69 and in 20 years she will be 43 and you will be either nearly 90 or already gone...
I'm 52 my husband 39 and some days I feel the age way more than I want to....
if she's ok with it
and you are ok with it then have fun and be safe.
but it's probably in a few years she may want children and to settle down.. then what?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (9 November 2012):
 Hi
Its neither right or wrong but thats a huge age gap..your 3 times her age. She may eventually decide to find a man closer to her age, somebody to have children with.Thats the risk you have to take.
If it was a 69yr old woman with a 23yr old man people would call them all sorts of names,but when its the man who's older it seems to be more acceptable,not sure why.
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