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writes:Hiive recently met this girl and shes amazing, and the only thing wrong with her is her acceptance, she wont accept shes beautiful no matter how many times i tell her, how can i prove to her shes beautiful, bear in mind that ive only said she is over the internet as i said it recently so i think it will have a different effect in person.I also get very paranoid when she doesnt answer me or gives me blunt answers / texts... is it because i like her loads or love her? I haven't even known her for more than a month!thanks
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 You have goo-goo eyes for someone you haven't seen yet?
Cute.
A passing fancy; however, you take this seriously. I understand. It could be the beauty she exudes from her writing and not a picture? YOu are so young and sweet.
Try writing poetry....it sounds like you have that talent.
Gena
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hey there :) Well to be honest, there's alot of girls out there that don't know... or just won't accept... that they're beautiful. The last realtionship I was in was with a girl that's similar to the one you're talking about. When we started dating, she had never been with a guy that treated how she should be treated and told her how beautiful and gorgeous she was. So I decided I'd be the first. I told her she was beautiful and the most gorgeous girl I'd ever seen, but she didn't believe me. She was kind of tall, and pretty skinny but she was absolutely amazing. I loved her so I just kept telling her, everyday. You just have to be persistent with it. After quite a while, she began to believe me and at first it made me happy because I wanted her to know how amazing she was. You have to be careful though, because the way that me and this "amazing" girl split was pretty sad. We dated for quite some time, one of my longer relationships, and she met some other dude. He was the typical guy... not like me... and he never told girls how beautiful they were or how much they meant to him. So she meets this guy, and SOMEHOW falls for him. I don't see how, but she did. She left me. Dated him, and it only took 4 days for him to leave her for yet another woman. She got played, and we were both hurt for a long time. We still don't talk but I do see her from time to time, and I can tell she's MUCH more confident. Maybe this would've worked better if I told her alot, but maybe not everyday. It can backfire on you. So just let her know, but try to keep it subtle and don't over do it. If they get too confident, it can spell disaster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Perhaps she doesnt believe it and has low self esteem or maybe she likes that you keep saying it and you keep saying it because she disagrees... could be attention seeking.Either way if she is beautiful, whats the harm in telling her. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi HunnyShe may be just a little insecure about her looks, I do no many girls that are lovely to look at and my sons g/f is one of them you tell her she looks beautiful and she always says YEA OK!!!So then someone will say it again in a more WOW U ARE!!!!!:} Kind of way..But nope!!!!She isnt...I give up were she is looking hunny as she is lovely and thats that...Just talk about everything but, How lovely she is and see how it goes. Goodluck sweetheart and dont worry to much It can be a girl thing TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): You sound like such a sweetheart! But maybe she's just insecure or perhaps she is scared that maybe you are just saying that and that you don't really mean it. But that's her problem not yours. That's an insecurity no can help her with but herself. All you can do is just keep expressing yourself without fear of what she might think. Telling a girl she is beautiful is a compliment so you've done nothing wrong. You are just being absolutely sincere. So just shrug it off when she refuses to accept your compliment. That is who she is right now so just accept her as she is and try to work around it. Maybe if you stop looking at her hesitance as a bad thing you might find it kind of endearing. Just accept who she is. You can't change people.
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reader, natasia +, writes (25 March 2008):
 erm, this is sounding a bit bizarre, i have to say. You haven't met her in person. You've only known her a few weeks. I think you need to calm down. When you meet her in person, it will all fall into place. I think the sooner you do that, the better. I"m sure she'll believe you about being beautiful then.
Re: the answers/texts - it's just that you want her to like you. Sounds to me, though, like you're obsessing over her - you need to stand back a bit, get some distance. She's just a person. Hell, you might not even like her so much when you meet her!! : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): To be honest, unless she's very confident in herself, no girl's going to accept they're beautiful! However, it does make a difference if someone always says it to you. Obviously, not constantly. But maybe whenever she makes a special effort to look nice, or when she asks if she looks okay. It definitely makes a difference when it's in person too.
When you like a girl loads, its natural to want her to answer or text back - you should see me, with my bf I'm proper paranoid when he doesn't text back or answer haha. It doesn't necessarily mean you love her, only you can decide that honey :]
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