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writes: My girlfriend has stopped having orgasms from cunnilingus. This is unusual because the first time I went down on her, she had an orgasm and was going on and on about how good I was at oral sex. In fact, she had several orgasms one right after the other, and would have multiple orgasms every time I performed oral sex on her. She also told me that I am the first man ever to make her orgasm from oral sex (which I found hard to believe because she has dated half a dozen men and was engaged twice). She told me that she usually didn't like it when other men performed cunnilingus on her because she never orgasmed from it, but she loved it with me because she had an orgasm every time I did it for her.We have only been dating nine months, and about two months ago she stopped having orgasms from oral sex. She says she still enjoys it when I perform oral sex on her. I have not changed my technique or anything. She says she thinks she is just getting used to my technique, so perhaps that is why she has not been been orgasming. Do any of you females here have any idea as to why my girlfriend suddenly stopped having orgasms from cunnilingus? Has anything like this happened to you? What can I do to bring back the great ogasms she used to have before from my performing cunniingus on her? Thanks in advance for your advice.
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reader, whatevergirl26  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 this is comming from a woman of similar issues in the past. and i agree its a mental thing. she might be insecure about her area or her relationship or you are not getting her hot enough before doing the deed. get more mentally and emotionally creative for her. oh and makes sure the tv isn't on maybe turn on the radio. my main problem was insecurities within myself wandering what he was thinking or worried if he was getting tired, i had to clear my head before i could enjoy.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Hard to say but having an orgasm that way is a very mental thing, and if you can't, it's usually because of a mental block. What I mean is, if there's the slightest hangup in your head, you can't. Maybe she's started to think too much about it - had a bit too much of a good thing, and then once didn't have an orgasm, and then that planted the seeds of 'oh no, now I can't with him either' - that would be enough. Maybe it was a subconscious recognition of 'oh, this is supposed to be something that always makes me come' - only a short hop to it then not doing so.
I think you need to not make a thing of it. You may end up having to stop it for a while, to make it more of a 'treat' again. Or perhaps only do it for short periods, with no intention of making her orgasm - somehow you need to take the pressure off. Sorry, but it's a mind thing, I'm sure, and as such there's no quick fix - tricky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): just to let you know that when she says you are the only man that has givin her an orgasm from oral she is probably telling the truth I have had 6 partners one of them I was married to for 11 years and he never gave me an orgasm through oral or sex. my partner I have now has giving me orgasm through oral the first time he did it I was so shocked that it worked it blew me away as I was expecting to have to fake it there are some times where he cant give me orgasm its not often I usually find I dont orgasm if im not horny enough so maybe get her going before you start and you will find she will orgasm
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reader, yeahsureyoubetcha +, writes (26 March 2008):
 An orgasm for a girl starts in her head. Are you sure there is nothing going on in her life that might be occuping her thoughts/
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reader, pyan  +, writes (26 March 2008):
Hi
my wife said try playing with her her clit first then use your tong.
does she cum by other methods
message and she will give you more of her thoughts
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