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writes:I am in long distance relationship with my boyfriend..This time when we were at a store picking things up for the house,he got a call even before we entered the store from a friend who is a girl who happens to be in the same place and she wanted to meet him..he spoke to her for over 25 mins leaving me at the store alone to pick things,and when I confronted him he told me he was trying to buy time,and that make her understand he can't meet her(the girl happens to be someon he knows for years) I just felt very offended because the distance doesn't permit us to do things that normal couple do often!I'v been mad at him..am I wrong!?
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reader, llifton  +, writes (13 August 2013):
 shady!! i'm sorry, but my shady alarm is going off. maybe he's got another ldr? or two? who knows. but why would he need to walk away from you to talk to her? couldn't talk to her in front of you? only reason for that is if he's got something to hide. i'd get to the bottom of this and figure out what he's up to.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 August 2013):
 did you ask him why he spent 20 minutes talking to a local friend instead of being with his LDR gf?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe used to study together he is a year senior to me but we only started dating in the last 4 months..he works in a different city and we see each other say every month..he came to visit me In my city and his friend lives in the same city as me so when she found out he came down she wanted to meet him,he asked me if I wanted to come with him and meet all of them which includes this girl and one other guy but I dint want to cuz we rarely get such time together and I dint want to share him..what I found wierd was he could have just told her he's busy or with me and hung up,he took 20 mins to talk and then he apologises to me profusely!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 August 2013):
I agree with Honeypie... all he needed to say was "hey FRIEND, I can't meet you this weekend my GIRLFRIEND is here" or even BETTER would have been
"hey friend, did you forget that my girlfriend his here this weekend, I'm sure I told you. why don't you come meet both of us"
and then hang up.
btw FRIEND would be where her name would go...
I'm betting she's more than a friend or he wants more and she does not even know about you or she's told you are just an acquaintance from out of town that needed a place to crash.
how far apart are you?
how often do you see each other
how long have you been together
what's the plan to end the distance
do you know his family and friends?
does he visit you?
so many other questions to be answered before i can tell if you over reacted or he is a lying dog....
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (11 August 2013):
 I don't get what it was that he was buying time for. Anyway i say talk to him and tell him exactly how it made you feel and explain to him that since you guys don't get to spend time together as often as you should, you would appreciate it if he didn't leave you in a store on your own when you're trying to spend time with him. He could have told the person on the other end that he is out with his gf instead of having a 25 minute convo leaving you by yourself. I'm not saying that you two should be stuck at the hip, i'm just saying that there's a time for entertaining convoz for that duration and that time is not when you're out with your partner. Don't shout, don't scream, just talk calmly to him about it and hopefully this will very soon become a concern of the past.Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013): Now you realize that long-distance relationships are 99% make-believe.
You are placing your love-life on hold trusting a "guy" miles away, to be committed to you. That's the risk you take. It's hard enough when you actually live together in a committed relationship.
Long-distance relationships are for people who like mobile devices and Skype. They find it easier communicating on a digital device, then living in real life. They enjoy a fantasy relationship instead of dealing with life with all its true complications. You can make believe everything is perfect. You can turn it on and off.
It's one thing to be forced apart by unforeseen circumstances. Work, school, or military deployment. These are true responsibilities. This puts a lot of stress even on a marriage. Let alone a promise to be a faithful boyfriend or girlfriend.
It's another to voluntarily cling to someone hours and miles away; and hope they don't have another life without you. He has a real girl, whom he can touch; and see anytime he likes.
Should you be upset???
Seriously!?
How long do you really think a guy is going to wait for sex, and he isn't even your husband?
You have a right to be upset, but maybe you've also learned something valuable in the process.
Dump him like a sack of stones, and never speak to him again.
Get over him.
Find yourself a real boyfriend. One who can call you on the phone, pick you up in an hour, and treat you like a real girlfriend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 August 2013):
 Why couldn't he JUST tell her, look my GF is in town I can't meet up? That would take less then a minute.
But shopping alone for 25 minutes is not a catastrophe. Since you two have limited time, why spend it arguing? Tell him how it made you feel and move on.
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