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writes:I am 17 and still at school (at the moment it is the summer holidays). At the end of July i went on holiday, whilst i was away my friendship group met up, which is fine, but while they did this one member of the group starting bitching about me, and then another joined in, and these two, out of the six that were present, decided that they apparently did not like me. Two other girls stuck up for me, whilst the others did not say anything. One of the girls that stuck up for me told me that this happened, believing that i deserved to know. This was obviously very hurtful to find out when you've been friends with the same people for about 6 years and everything has been normal. What do people suggest i do? do i confront these girls some how in a nice way, or ignore it or..? Thanks for any help xx
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reader, llifton  +, writes (12 August 2013):
 girls. god, i swear. i sure wish i could understand why girls feel the need to be so back stabbing and bitchy to one another. i say girls like i'm not one. but i don't do that shit. never have. anyway, you confront the girls and tell them it's not acceptable to speak that way about your "friends", especially when the person isn't around to defend themselves, and then you stop speaking to them.
friends DO NOT treat each other like that. i would kick someone's ass if they spoke harshly behind one of my close friends backs. that's what friends are for. to be loyal and stick together. you don't need these girls and their caddy ways. they aren't your real friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): this high school bitching won't matter anymore once you're in college, which should be soon since you're 17, anyway when I was in high school I had a group of friends but in the group I had a best friend, so it was normal for us to gossip about other girls in our group, which we still do, now years later ( facebook is to be blamed)but it's all very harmless really and years later we laugh it off, when you go to college you'll make new friends, keep those who were "loyal" to you as someone suggested as friends, but let the others go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): Hello..
To be honest, you should confront them about this situation..especially since you knew these girls for 6 years before the other two came in. To make things more comfortable with you, who is the person that your closest to in the group? If you are then go up to them and tell them how you feel..or not, go to all of them..it wouldn't hurt to tell them how you feel..if they turn you down after you talk to them, then obviously they are not friend's and you have seen there true colors.. Six years is a long friendship...and it should not be something that you should walk away from and letting it bother you..go up to them..definetlly..:)
hope all goes well hun..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): Those girls are no longer your friends; so you don't hangout with them anymore. You find new friends.
It isn't necessary to confront them, they already let you know they don't like you. Jealousy is usually the reason.
Time can change people. When they become hostile for no reason, you toss them out of your life for good. They don't deserve to have anymore of your time. They want you to confront them, so they can gang up on you.
If you meet them "one on one," you can ask what's their problem. They're not so brave when they're alone. They always need backup.
I think just being nasty is enough, I wouldn't care what their problem is. As long as they keep their hands to themselves.
You can't stop high school gossip from a ring of nasty girls. They're usually in gangs, or on their way to trouble. That's reason to distance yourself from them, and the people they hang around. They're looking for trouble.
You have two friends that stood up for you. Just stay loyal to the people who watch your back. Just let the others alone. Let them talk. You know the truth. They can't prove their lies. All they can do is talk.
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