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writes:I have just recently become a teacher and one of my ex teachers is working at the same school I am and he is older then me and taught me for a year. However we have become friends and are getting to know each other but I was thinking would it be okay if we went further with our relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2013): Hey I'd like to thank you all for your answers as I have read them and taken them into consideration.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (23 August 2013):
 There's no reason why not. You're both adults and you're no longer his student. Go for it.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (22 August 2013):
 If it's okay with you and it's okay with him, then there's no shame in that. Just make sure that your place of employment doesn't have any rules against employees dating each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): I agree, morally absolutely but take it very slowly at the min- get to know each other as friends a while longer because if you rush in or read into things too soon, it would be awkward if he didn't feel the same and don't want to risk him telling his friends in the staff room about it...
Is important not to rush things... Establish a stronger friendship and cool things down. If he starts giving you romantic signals, still play it cool, move forward but slowly. :)
Good luck! :) xx
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Morally it's fine, but are you sure you want to get romantically involved with someone you have to see every day at work? Your colleagues will gossip like crazy and if you were to break up it would be very uncomfortable.
If you want to go for it and you're both interested and want the same thing, then by all means go for it, but I would take things very very slowly.
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reader, babyzbird  +, writes (22 August 2013):
 I personally don't think it's a good idea. How does your school feel about co-workers dating? Would you have to hide it from your boss and other co-workers?
Usually when you date a co-worker it turns out messy in the end.
However there is nothing stopping you from asking him out. Unless there is a school policy where co-workers are not allowed to date.
I would take it very slow and see what happens. Trying to push it might result in his rejection or just a one night stand.
Good Luck!
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (22 August 2013):
 Subject to the usual caveats about workplace relationships, there's no problem. Now that you're an adult and he's no longer in a position of authority a relationship would no longer be inappropriate.
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