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female
age
30-35,
*.me
writes:So yesterday I went with my boyfriend and some friends to a mini concert of a band, the thing is that It was 21 or older (we didn't know) and i was the only one with 21 in the group, so I said: "Stay here, I know people that work here, ok". I got in and manage to infiltrate my boyfriend and his 4 friends. After that my boyfriend wanted a drink but didn't have the money so I bought him a drink (the big one) and after that a Beer. (He ended up drunk)... The whole time I was anticipating from him to be affectionate or something, but he wasn't he just kinda completely ignored me and just went goofing out with his friends . After that around 12:45 am I had to go home (I live in the same area) So I said that and he just kissed me and went on enjoying the party. I felt so bad, I thought that he will at least escort me home or say Thank You. I went walking home all alone and sad. After i got there he didn't even call nor texted me to see if I got home safe or something, so I texted him: "Yes, I got home safety, thanks for worrying, and you welcome" He replied: ( :) I'm Drunk) Me: Yes thanks to me, Thanks to me you and your friend were able to get in and thanks to me you're happy drunk" That's when he exploded and started saying really mean things. he: " Well if you are going to start bugging just let me know, i don't need you to come with me tomorrow to the event and tomorrow i'll pay you the $20 for the drinks" I was in shock, I said to him: "GOSH! i ONLY WANTED for you to be grateful and say thank you or something, not this" and he went on: "What is it, look if you want a boyfriend like your friends has and shit, I'm not AND i'm also not going to last for all your life. AND THOSE TYPES OF instagram boyfriends that you want who give out The biggest present and shit, I'm sorry but I'm not. How does it even occurred to you to argue with a drunk guy. And yes if I'm an asshole and then go get yourself another guy. Because I've already told you that, I'm not the best, and there are a lot of better guys than me out there, bye" I was speechless, and only started crying. What that hell? I knew he was drunk And stuff, but to act that way? Is it because he was drunk? Was i being unreasonable ? He hasn't contacted me, nor say anything which makes me more mad, I didn't do nothing wrong yet He acts as if I did... WHAT SHOULD I DO.?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2013): I think your boyfriends action are totally disrespectful and i would end your relationship now. Have respect for yourself and dont stay with anyone who treats you the way he has!
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reader, llifton  +, writes (12 August 2013):
 first and foremost, your boyfriend is a huge wuss if he gets drunk off of just that. what a light weight.
second, you're not as innocent as you may think. that was very passive aggressive what you texted him. it's like nagging. he was out with friends having a good time and was drunk. so he probably wasn't thinking and behaving like normal. besides, he was with his guy friends. not justifying his behavior. but if something bothered you, you simply could have waited until the next morning, when he was sober, and spoken to him calmly about how his actions made you feel. and given him a chance to explain himself. how you communicated was in not appropriate. passive aggressive is never a good way to go about getting your point across.
i'm not at all saying your boyfriend is innocent. far from it. he was a huge ass. he was drunk and saying shitty things. but if he hasn't contacted you since the fight, i can't just say i think it all came from him being drunk. otherwise, i'd think he'd have contacted you by now to talk. perhaps he was just speaking his mind BECAUSE he was drunk (drunk persons words - sober persons thoughts?).
i would give him some space for a little while and see if he contacts you. if you don't hear from him in a day or two, i would call him and ask if you two can sit down to talk. if he ignores you, it's over. if he agrees, maybe he was just being stubborn and not wanting to contact you first.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 August 2013):
You were being passive aggressive and essentially demanding he thanks you for doing him a favor. I don't call that "not doing anything wrong".
What he did wrong is obvious (so I don't need to go there), but you weren't innocent and you started a fight instead of maturely talking about how what he did made you feel bad.
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