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writes:A man and woman have been living together on and off for four years; the man moved out a year ago, however they have maintained contact and have stated they both want to work on the relationship and renew it.. the man had no place to go (he has no job) so he moved in with his best friend of ten years, however its a female that he had an intimate relationship with for two and a half years then she decided she didn't want to have sex anymore and told him he could go get his physical needs met as long as he came home to her ..they mainted living as a "couple" if you will . Now he's living with her spending time with me .... couple of days and one night ... and stated he needs to divide his time equally between me and her .. yet he ststed she is like a sister to him now ... am I wrong for saying no, that's not what couples do? He says he needs to spend days or weeks without seeing or talking to me so he can miss me .... huh??Please post your view of what I should do ...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 September 2013):
 Tell him what iAmHere said, "Buddy you can have you whole life to miss me". Then let him. Great answer by the way, iAmHere.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 September 2013):
 JUST SAY NO to him...
NO you can't come over
NO you can't have sex with me
NO you can't use me and toss me aside when you are done...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (3 September 2013):
 He's doing exactly what she asked for...having sex with you but going home to her.
He is emotionally invested in her, you are just there for the sex.
Remove yourself, because nothing good can come from this.
(Not bad for a low life who doesn't work...two women hanging on his every need...he must think he's died and gone to heaven)
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reader, CMMP +, writes (3 September 2013):
Leave him alone, find someone who gives you what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2013): I wouldn't even try to fix that. He obviously is not in the right frame of thought and by his actions, I doubt he will ever be in the right frame of thought for you.
I'd drop him faster than a hot potato. You deserve so much better.
Sorry you had to go through that.
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reader, llifton +, writes (3 September 2013):
 You've become the "getting his physical needs met" woman in his life. She is his emotional needs. Move on.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (3 September 2013):
 This sounds dodgy at best. Leave. You and your concerns should be his top priority if he's a loving boyfriend.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 September 2013):
 I'd find a better boyfriend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 September 2013):
 I'm so with iAmHereToHelpYou - I'd done with that. I'd not be someone's odd days GF or second best.
Nope. He can go kick rock with his "ex".
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