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reader, Boatinggirl  +, writes (27 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes we do alot of fore play.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Do you have a lot of fore-play?
Get your boyfriend to try and get you to orgasm using his fingers. Teach him what feels good to you.
Sometimes women just find it hard to orgasm during penetration. And it took me a lot of time to feel anything... Just like you. So yu are not alone and there's nothing wrong or different aboput you. :)
Be patient and tell him that it's not because he's doing anything wrong. You just need time and you need to experiment. You could be putting a lot of presure on yourself to orgasm and this too can make it harder. Try to relax.
Emivia. x
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (25 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes i have orgasimed my self but i still am worried since he is noticing that i don't orgasim so he is now worring he is doing somthing wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): So you do feel him there? That's good.
So your problem is that you do not feel any pleasure?
Sorry about the minor confusion there.
If it's only pleasure you can not feel, then don't worry.
As I said before it took me a long time before I felt any pleasure having sex (A long time being six months, maybe longer). It used to really bother me too, I considered myself "broken", but eventually I began to relax and stop trying so hard to orgasm and I felt something. I felt a little bit of pleasure and gradually it became bigger and I began to feel pleasure properly. And don't think that you should be having mind blowing orgasms because his penis is big... My boyfriend's penis is just a little smaller than yours and I had to wait and be patient for my orgasms.
Just relax. Don't pressure yourself. Have you ever orgasmed by yourself?
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (24 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni feel thing but i don't orgasim its worriing me
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 I would see a doctor about this.
To be sure, we are talking about not feeling ANYTHING, no pain, no pleasure, no rubbing, no pressure NOTHING right?
That sounds worrying. If you touch yourself there do you then feel it?
Again, BIG difference between not feeling pleasure but not feeling anything at all when a rather huge penis enters you must mean there is something seriously wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): He's a BIG guy. MASSIVE in fact :)
Maybe you just need time. You could have been very wet and that would have made it easier for him to slip in and out. Try and relax. I know that first time sexual experiences can be daunting or worrying... Especially when you think there's something wrong with you.
I couldn't orgasm when I first started having sex. After a few times having sex I didn't really feel much, but the first few times it was a little sore. I was worried that I couldn't really feel anything but eventually I found myself completely relaxed with my boyfriend and the magic began. :)
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (23 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno he entered me lol it sounds sill but i saw him enter me it took about a week for me to be tight then i felt alittle but not much
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Maybe just maybe he never even stuck it in side of you. Did you see it go in? Sounds silly I know but I have a personal experance to tell ya about. I was 17 too and with an older man and we were fooling around. we were in his car and he was coming in from behind but not aiming for my behind. If you know what I mean. Well we got it on as if we were having intreecorse but I didn't barely feel anything. I thought he must be very small. After we talked about it I found out that he was using his finger because he felt so terrible due to our age difference. What a nice guy.
Maybe this man you were with did that to you.
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (20 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe concent age were i live is 17
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (20 June 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i mean i didn't feel him going into me like in and out he is my first the first time we did it i had my period i don't know what to do i told my bf and he said we would figure it out but i am worried
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reader, Kadisha  +, writes (20 June 2008):
Huh! Nothing at all? Im sorry.. What did he say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): I'm sorry is no one bothered by the fact that she is a minor. Wait on the sex or your boyfriend could go to jail!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Do you mean you felt no pleasure or that you felt nothing going on in there at all.. Not even a little pressure when he entered you?
If it's pleasure, then it can take some girls time to feel pleasure with penetration. It took me six months of regular sex, possibly longer before I felt pleasure through penetration.
If you felt nothing at all then I’d go and see your doctor.
Let me know which it is.
All the best. X
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (20 June 2008):
Right. That is 7.62 centimeters in diameter and 21.59 centimeters in length for those of us in civilized parts of the world.
With all that you felt nothing? Not even OUCH?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): The only thing I can think of is that you must have suffered a spinal or nerve injury of some sort which has caused a certain amount of numbness.
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