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writes:I know several asexuals but only a handful of antisexuals. It's disheartening that I often feel I am alone on this. While asexuality is gaining acceptance, people ridicule those who are against sex. The only sex I am not against is procreational mating. I teach abstinence and explain the risks but most people don't get it. Nearly everyone I know who isn't a virgin has bad experiences such as pregnancy, diseases and injuries. I will explain more and provide good reasons based on facts, not religion. Oh and I was never sexually abused. Reply to this Question
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 LOL, LazyGuy.
Actually, as I understand the teaching of the Catholic Church, the joy of sex within marriage is something to be celebrated - "the ultimate expression of love that unites couples", and not purely for procreation.
This view being presented here doesn't, I think, match with that of any religion that I know of unless we're looking at it as something only for select individuals who cannot afford the distractions of worldly matters! Certainly, I'm fairly sure that it's not something that is extended to everyone as he suggests he feels should be the case.
In fact, reading his other replies to various questions, it looks as though he goes one step further. He appears to condemn dating and associating with members of the opposite sex except when absolutely necessary. I think it's a rather extraordinary view. I don't have a problem if that's what he wants to do, although I worry a little that he could be missing out on one of the greatest joys of life. As DoubleM said, to each his own life, but I find it difficult to understand any basis for trying to preach it to everyone else.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 So you want to tell the world they should only have sex to make babies?
Pope, is that you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Your view that sex besides procreational sex will result in a bad outcome seems a bit warped. I have never had anything bad happen from sex and I am sure there are millions out there who could say the same. Sometimes bad things happen but just about anything has the possibility of having a bad outcome.
I am not sure why you would be anti-sexual. Is sex that bad that you must abstain? Are you that afraid something terrible will happen?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Why?
If the basis of your philosophy is that everyone has a bad experience with sex then, quite simply, you're wrong.
You might possibly have a valid argument that by avoiding sex you can allow your mind to focus on "higher things" - on the same basis that monks, nuns, priests etc avoid sex, but as you present it here your argument just doesn't stack up.
Perhaps, assuming you aren't just trolling for an argument (as your username suggests you might be?), then you might tell us some more about the reasons for this unusual way of life?
I look forward to a little more clarification. Perhaps you should write an article rather than a question.
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 What the hell is an anti-sexual?
You mean that you won't ever have sex with your wife unless you're planning to have a baby?
If you can find someone who is opposed to having sex, too, go ahead. But don't complain if you marry a person with healthy sexual desire and she starts looking elsewhere for what you're not giving her. It's up to YOU to communicate your beliefs to your partner before you ever become involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I'm there. I will not have casual sex with anyone, I respect myself too much to treat my body in such an irresponsible and dangerous way. I am not religious, I am however spiritual. Just wanted to mention that so no one thinks I am a religious fanatic.
My reasons are mental and physical health.....yes, mentally you are better off not being dependent on superficial ego stoking casual sex, physical is obvious, std's, unwanted pregnancy........and no I am not ugly. I am in fact a very attractive female with an above average body.
We are out here :-) What are your reasons for living this way?
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Yes, but sex is also alot of fun, when done with plenty of regard for proper procedure and safty!
However, I fully respect a-sexuals, and to an extent, anti-sexuals.
There are many, many reasons (STDs and pregnancy) not to have sex.
Personally, I never have sex on the nth date, where n is a single digit number :-D I enjoy sex while I can have it when I'm young, and I do it with enough preparation (Character analysis, history questionaire, checking for problems) that I always feel safe. I believe safe sex is with the slim chance of consequence.
And I do take into account the possibility of pregnancy and spread of infection: To me, riding the coaster is worth the 1:10000 risk of the belt breaking!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (24 June 2008):
 To each their own life, and . . .
Live and let live.
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