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writes:hi everyone. ok i went on holiday a few weeks ago and went on a date with this boy who was a year older than me. within 1 hour it was clear all he wanted was sex.(i didnt give him it!) i told him i was a virgin but he was still eager saying stuff like i'll teach you. so one question is do boys like virgins better than none virgins? Also would girls actually have sex with him when they just meeet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): I think u did a gr8 gr8 job..................m a virgin 2...........n i seriously think dat guys jus want virgin gals like some drug........i still don understand y guys r so so damn obsessed wid virgins........gives me a really creepy feeling.....i went on a date once wid this guy........he wanted to sleep with me.........obviously i said no......n also told him that i was a virgin......he went crazy.........he asked me to marry him..............he followed me home for weeks...........n finally i had to place ham 4 him..........yipe i told my best friend to act as my bf.........lol......
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reader, marasaur  +, writes (12 June 2009):
hmm i think that its the idea of getting to teach a girl HOW to "do it".
and they might think that virgins are cuter because of thier lack of experience. and theyre gonna let the guy do whatever because "he knows what to do".
and "scoring one" is another thing.
so you were pretty brave to say no.
haha but im just a 14 yr old girl xD
hav a nice day nyaaa X3
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (25 June 2008):
 Many younger guys would prefer a virgin. So do men from narrow, traditional cultures.
Personally, I don't want a virgin. A girl with a bit of experience is better because she is a better lover. If she only knows what I like, she'll never break out of that comfortable mould. (I've been through this. A girl who cheated on me came up with several new angles that she would never have come up with if she'd only slept with me).
As others have said, however, if a guy is looking for a conquest, a virgin is better because even if the sex isn't very good (very few virgins are good at sex), you get the honour of being the first one.
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reader, Anonyman +, writes (25 June 2008):
 You did the right thing standing up for yourself, it probably wouldn't of been as good with him as it would of been with someone you loved. Look for the type of guy who will help you along with it and will be patient. It will be better for you in the long run.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Not many guys WANT an experienced partner.
They tolerate experienced partners because it means they get laid without having to buy anybody a ring, and it means their partners have more skills in the sack.
But after sleeping with tons of girls when they're single, most guys would love to find a totally inexperienced girl to marry & settle down with. (But of course it would be preferable if she sleeps with just HIM before marriage though, so he can test-drive the machinery before buying.)
I am not talking about what's fair or what should be tolerated here. I'm just talking about biological drives. I'm talking about what men would want if they could have their cake and eat it too.
(Please don't get on any high horses with the critism, women. It's no secret that your gender goes from wanting a bad-boy to wanting a nice-guy in a pretty similiar way.)
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Look at it from 2 sides.1 : If a guy is looking to get laid, then usually a girl with experience is better.. because.. and no offence, but virgins don't know what they're doing. Its not a bad thing but its the basics of it. If you don't know what to do or expect then... you know it'll be still ok but its amazing when both people know what they're doing.2: Yes. some guys do like the idea of a virgin, i guess you could say because they're untouched, and the whole " I'll teach/train you" is basically a way of saying,"I'll get sex a little more often, just the way i like it."of course there is the other part of the guy actually liking you and wanting to take it slow,etc etc and all that jazz
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Well, there are TWO different reasons for wanting a virgin.
In your case, it is about scoring, getting to be the first but and this might matter to you, NOT THE LAST! He just want to add a cherry to his list of achievements. He has no intrest in keeping you, just in taking. Well spotted in seeing that what this guy was after.
For other men, finding out the woman they are in love with is a virgin is a welcome bonus. Oh it shouldn't matter but it does. The way people are, men are, we just aren't comfortable with the idea we are #325 if you get my drift. Oh we can life with it, might never mention it, but if you find out you are #1 then. Well few men wouldn't be pleased.
Yeah yeah, some might say this is out of date, well people are the way they are.
Mind you, there are women who regret not having waiting until they found the right guy. Even in our modern age virginity still is considered something of value.
Would girls who are virgins fall for the first type of guy who just wants sex? All the time.
Ask any woman here to what type of guy she lost her virginity. 99% will have to admit it was to a guy who turned out to be just after sex. You my dear are a rarity. A young woman with a brain. Lucky the guy who wins your heart for real one day and not because you are a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): A few guys would prefer virgins.
Some people might have slept with him if they had just met him... But it would have been for very shallow reasons, and in my opion would have been silly... Goodness knows where he'd been :P. You were right not to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): ok, everyone else has already told you that you did well to not do it with him, so i won't tell you again, even though I agree. For me, being a virgin is not that big a deal. Sure, if I had the choice of the same GF being virgin or not I'd choose virgin, but I don't really care. If guys only dated virgins, there would be a lot less children in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): I think its just an ego thing with guys to be honest its just so they can boast to the lads!
And How rude of that guy i hope u hit him wher it hurts!
But people do actually meet up and have sex just like that! As your still a virgin i would say to wait until your in a relationship with someone that you are completely comfortable and confident with!
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Hi there,
at your age if a guy tries to have sex with you within one hour, he is a freakin creep who if he gets what he wants will blast it out to all his mates in record time. Good call by you.
If a guy tries it on so soon you know that he is not interested in you, he is only interested in your body.
Don't worry, teenage boys have a lot of difficulty keeping it in their pants ( its called testosterone).
You will meet someone who will be prepared to wait before going that extra step, it just may take some time.
good luck
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reader, Yos +, writes (23 June 2008):
 A few guys would prefer a virgin, but for most it's not a big thing I would say. However, when it comes to getting married and settling down, many guys prefer a girl who's not slept around too much. ('too much' being a very subjective term)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): I just want to say to you well done; Congratulations; don't let any guys sweet talk you into having sex unless you are ready; and when you do decide to have sex; make sure it is with somebody you know well; somebody you really love and respect; sombody that loves and respects you too; make sure it is very special; a time that you will always remember;
as for the guys: I cannot really answer; but I think it becomes a bit of a challenges to them if they know you are a virgin; more reason to be extra carefull.
Good luck, save your virginity for the right guy the right time; don't rush!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2008): Well see, there are two sides to each of us. There is our nice side, and then there is this naughty side. The nice side, wants to settle down and have a family, and have respect among our peers. The naughty side wants to have all the fun we can get, before we settle down and let our nice side kick in.We all must strive to be with people we are compatible with, meaning that both people in the relationship hold the same values. You have pledged virginity to your future spouse; he hasn't. Kick this guy to the curb, and he may come around. My younger sister did this, and ended up marrying one of these guys who had come around.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (23 June 2008):
 Well first up, good on you for standing your ground and not letting yourself be pressured into anything. =)
As far as I know, there /are/ girls who will sleep with a guy they have just met. But it's the choice of the individual. I personally don't understand it, but to each their own, right?
As for the virginity question, not being male, I have no idea. I can only assume it's got to do with some weird alpha male thing - being the first man to conquer you, or something. But I'm just theorising here.
Good luck to you. =)
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