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anonymous
writes:I was sexually abused when I was younger (I think between 5 and 8). I think it stopped when I was 8 because we moved to a differnt county. Anyway, I'm 17 now and I know I need some help. Ii never told anyone, I hate thinking about it and I don't remember much anyway. I don't know if it's better to tell my parents now or after I've moved out and got my own life. They knew the person who did it, in fact my father was friends with his dad. One of my mates told me of her abuse and later when she saw me upset, she said that I could tell her anything, but I'm scared, I reckon that if I tell anyone especially my parents, they would think I'm dirty, or worse not believe me. I also think my father would want to talk about it or go and confront tht person. I just wanna forget.. anyway back to the question, I don't want to destroy my family and my parents have already suffered enough from me not being the normal child they wanted... so wot do you think ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx every1. i did tell my parents but tht didnt go down well...basically my dad doesnt get a damn....but i have started some counselling, which i might nt have done had it not been for u guys
slowly diggin up the crap so i can bury it properly i guess
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 There are support groups especially for these kind of situations. Survivors of child sexual abuse. Telling your relatives, a partner is always hard because deep down you feel ashamed, perhaps even thinking that somehow you were to blame.
I suggest you search the net for a support group near you. A doctor might be able to refer you. They can help you deal with this and give advice from others who have been in your situation.
Seek support/help. You don't have to deal with this on your own. Sometimes it helps just knowing you are not alone.
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reader, babomi  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 you can t stay alone with this, it s getting too heavy, you ve to talk now, don t be scared
your parents love you and they will always do, they just want you to be happy, they want to help and protect you, that s why they will maybe show signs of sadness and anger, somebody hurt you and they haven t been able to see or stop it!
your parents won t be angry at you and they will never think you re dirty, never, ever, ever
but if you don t talk to them, nothing will change, the pain is just going to grow
even if it was a long time ago, even if u don t remember much, just that you re feeling that it is still there in your life means you ve to talk, it s the first step to get better, yourself and your family
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ps. i totally disagree with what anonymous said
don t go talk to this person now, it seems like you re not going well these days, getting in touch with this person will be a very difficult moment, whatever happens, you don t need this right now ...
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reader, thunderchild +, writes (18 October 2008):
 you have to say something, perhaps before this, why would your parents think you dirty, they love you and it would make them feel bad if you didn't, as though they were bad parents not being able to look after you properly, remember YOUR their priority!
If you bottle it up it can manifet its self into nasty things when your older, like eating disorder and self esteam issues etc. please talk to some one
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): i say dont do it because you need to talk to the one that did it to you are you hurt did it hurt i dont think it did your older now take care of your own thing now go talk to the guy see what he has to say frist then you know what to do after you talk to him
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