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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:A few years back I had a breast reduction surgery...and while I am more comfortable in my clothes I must say that I'm not so comfortable outside my clothes...the surgery has left me with scars and one of my nipples is a different shape than the other. Although I'm a very attractive woman and generally receive a lot of male attention, I've never had sex before because I'm so self conscious of my breasts. How much would it matter to a guy if they ever saw my breasts? Would it be a total turnoff? Would it make them not want to have sex with me? If I were to have sex with someone is it something that I should tell them beforehand? I'd really appreciate some guy's opinions on here...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Personally it wouldn't be a turnoff for me. I don't think it would stop most guys from wanting sex with you.
I would want to know about it beforehand because if you can't confide something simple like that to me then why would you give yourself to me? Also if you didn't tell me I would worry about the cause of the scars. Suddenly being confronted with questions like "Did she have cancer?" "Does she have cancer?" "Did she cut herself?" and several others would ruin the mood.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Most women have uneven breasts. The likes of playboy disguise this by not photographing women with uneven breasts directly from the front so it isn't that noticable.
Nipples also vary in size, how much, well that depends. Women who are not happy with their bodies will not appear naked. Read at least one comment from a female star who would not do nude because she had uneven breasts.
So, while the media might try to potray breasts as perfect, they rarely are. A common scar is stretchmarks from them growing to fast.
On the whole, most people know that people aren't perfect. How would you react to someone having a skin blemish on their ass? Hairy back? Scar? Fat? Knobbly knees? Stick-out ears?
Would you reject them? The answer really should be no, if you only want physically perfect specimens for a partner you are going to be very lonely. Men aren't going to be that different. Sure, some might be put of by it or feel sorry for you. A decent guy, worth your time however will simply accept that this is what you look like and so be it.
I am not going to lie and say that most guys, as most women, secretly do not hope their partner is a super-model, but neither will they reject someone because they are not perfect.
Presuming they are like the scars after breast enlargement, they should be pretty minimal, not like say the scars after a breast amputation. It depends a bit on the maturity of the guy, how aware is he that playboy is NOT real?
On the whole, see it as a key indication about the quality of the guy. After all, if your breasts were perfect now but you got an apendix scar next year, would he then dump you because your stomach is no longer perfect?
No normal guy would be turned off by some minor scars.
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