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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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Is there a differance between cumming and orgasm?
Q. Ok this may be a stupid question...but I just want to know is there a difference between cumin and havin and actual orgasm? If anyone can answer..thanx...
A. 24 July 2008: When you are cumming, you are having an orgasm.
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No matter how we start... it always ends up "doggie style"! Is he losing interest in me?
Q. Hi! Any input here will be appreciated. I've been happily married for 5 years and thought we had a pretty good sex life. The problem is....lately my husband seems overly interested in doggy style sex. No matter how we start, it always ends up with ...
A. 24 July 2008: Doggy style is just another position and it doesn't have to be "impersonal", no more then say reverse cowgirl. He can use his hands on your entire body, and lips on your back and possible neck maybe even face is you both are agile enough.
Do yo... (read in full...)
Before we met, my BF was not working for 5 years, do I leave him until he finds a stable job?
Q. hi all my boyfriend and i have been dating for a year now and before we wasnt dating he wasnt working for 5years , the thing is im worried i mean 5 years is long time to be out of work . hes 23 and im 27 ok not in a stable job but im working m...
A. 24 July 2008: 5 years is a long time to be out of a job but I suppose it depends on what the economy is like in your area.
Where I life every other company car seems to have a decal "We are looking for co-workers". There is a labor shortage BUT at the same tim... (read in full...)
Does a woman's clitoris move during orgasm?
Q. Does a woman's clitoris move at all when she's having a clitoral orgasm? I noticed that today mine moved like it was opening and closing when I was getting off. I have never noticed that before. Is that normal?...
A. 23 July 2008: Opening and closing?
Yes, the clitoris is famous for playing hide and seek during orgasm, if you were a bit older you might remember countless articles/stories about finding the clitoris.
For some odd reason, when women get very excitited t... (read in full...)
Is there any way of terminating my child support payments?
Q. I was wondering if there is any way of terminating a child support payment. My ex no longer allows me to see my daughter and I don't believe I should be paying for her when I can't even see her let alone talk to her. I could use that money for ...
A. 23 July 2008: You fathered the child, you pay for it. Don't expect much support from me for trying to get out of supporting your own child.
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What are my husband's intentions? Is he tired of this "other girl"?
Q. My husband of 12 years left 8 months ago. He started living with a girl 12 years younger then him right away. As of today he has also not filed any kind of divorce papers. We have spoken in spurts off and on in this time but the day after what was ...
A. 23 July 2008: Why do you care?
He left you. Even if he gets tired of this one, will he celebrate your 13th aniversary by going leaving your for a girl 13yrs his junior?
It can't even be called an affair, he left you for 8 months.
How is the finances? ... (read in full...)
Is 10 minutes of foreplay enough?
Q. hi everybody, i need your answer for different viewers (men and women) my question is how much time would a girl satisfied of foreplay before getting in? its ok if i take 10 minutes foreplay before getting in? Thanks...
A. 23 July 2008: Lets put it like this. If you are timing the foreplay, you are doing it wrong.
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I want to do something special for my boyfriend - a gesture of love. Guys, what would you like from your girlfriends?
Q. ok here it goes i love my bf deeply but we dont have a great time to see each other due to work and what not we have been going out a while..i want to do something special for him from a far i dont quite think chocolates and roses are enough.. so ...
A. 23 July 2008: Sex.... (read in full...)
How can I get the kid I tutor to open up? He's very quiet.
Q. I'm tutoring this kid. He's 15, I'm 19. I met him through my therapist (also a patient). He told me he needed lessons and asked me if I'd be interested in doing so. Sure I was! Extra money that I don't have and experience, as I want to be a ...
A. 23 July 2008: Just be careful that your attempts to open him up aren't mis-interpreted Mrs Robinson.... (read in full...)
What is the etiquette of oral sex?
Q. This is probably a question that will get vastly different answers, but I have been curious to know the answer to the following question: What is the etiquette of oral sex? When you go down on a person, do you expect to kiss them after or do ...
A. 23 July 2008: Never talk with your mouth full.
Say grace after you eat someone out.
hell, it all depends on the people involved. Do what ever works for you. There is only the two of you so who cares what polite society thinks of it?... (read in full...)
Can I brake my hymen by doing martial arts?
Q. I was reading another question, and was wondering if it was possible for the hymen to brake if you did martial arts, i have been doing it for a few years now. If so, it would of broken a while ago, right?...
A. 23 July 2008: No, you can however tear it.
It all depends on what you had to begin with. Some women have their hymen torn during child birth. Your hymen doesn't have an on/off switch. It doesn't just disappear when you 'break' it. Imagine a piece of plastic ... (read in full...)
The romance is gone, our sex life is strange. How long did the honeymoon period last in YOUR relationship?
Q. Alright...first let me thank in advance the honest answers I may receive in here. I am 29 years old, old-fashion hopeless romantic and it's really frustating that I am still not married...honestly I miss that special someone is my life. Don't take ...
A. 23 July 2008: To be blunt. A lot of foreplay is there for the girl, not the man. Sure, if done right, and if the girl knows what she is doing and the guy is willing to let her, foreplay can be very good for the guy as well and some of us just enjoy fooling ... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm on a "high horse" and that he has to knock me off!
Q. Maybe this is a cultural thing or maybe just a difference in personality thing... I'm very playful and, when I'm with my friends, guys and girls, we are all very validative of one another. Say someone looks great when they do, etc., so there's...
A. 23 July 2008: Could go both ways really.
Do your friends form a "mutual admiration society" all fake compliments and never any critism no matter how valid? Just how high is that horse in reality?
Or is he just a cantankerous git who enjoys tearing people d... (read in full...)
Have I sacrificed too much for this illegal alien with possible ADD?
Q. Back in 2000 I was a senior in college and met a man from a developing country, 7 years older than me. We fell intensely in love with each other, in a way I've never even remotely felt with anyone else. The relationship had so much of what I was ...
A. 22 July 2008: Wow, if the was an olympic category "finding excuses" you would win gold, silver and bronze.
Why do I get the feeling you are a bit of bleeding heart? That on the whole you think criminals are just victims of society?
Some of the excuses you ... (read in full...)
Anal sex hurts me too much but I want to make him happy. Why doesn't it hurt other girls as much?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now. we have done pretty much everything in bed. except anal, he has asked to before, and says he wants to try it, so we tried. and i find it hurts way to bad.we have tried on more than one ...
A. 22 July 2008: If you are talking porn, then it is because they pre-stretch with dildo's of increasing size. Also, the women are acting.
Also not all women are build the same, perhaps some got fewer nerves or looser muscles or just respond differently to pain.... (read in full...)
I seem unable to carry a baby to full term. What are we doing wrong?
Q. im almost 20 years old and have had 3 miscarriage with my husband in the past year.we lost a set of twins at 7 months in sept of last year and than lost another when i wasnt even 12 weeks in january 2008 and just lost another at 9 1/2 weeks july 3rd ...
A. 22 July 2008: That is really a question for your doctor. There can be so many reasons for mis-carriages, especially as you don't mention the month it happens.
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Can a marriage work when two people care about one another, but don't have 'chemisty'?
Q. My husband and I had a very short "dating" experience, we went straight from meeting to moving in to marriage. We didn't take the time to get to know each other and it has been a very long, challenging road just over the past year. We both admit ...
A. 22 July 2008: There are plenty of couples with tons of chemistry who can't make it work, so who knows if the other way around might work?
But you say that you are not good for each other and that things have been hard? This sounds like more then just a lack of ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by porn. Am I normal?
Q. I get turned on by watching porn and reading kinky stories. I live with my boyfriend and we ahve a healthy sex life but I almost always have to fantasize about someone else or just being in a different environment to get turned on. At work, I go ...
A. 22 July 2008: When you get excited you should get wet although there might be reasons why you do not. Talk with your gynocologist about it since it seems to be a long-term problem.
As a temp fix, you can use lube, water based lubes are best because others c... (read in full...)
Will masturbating stop me from having kids when I grow up?
Q. does masturabatng stop me from having kids when i grow up ...
A. 22 July 2008: Yes, it is sad but no boy ever has been able to resist masturbating, that is why having babies is down to the women.
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We've messed eachother around for 3 years, but he now wants to move on. What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i broke up a week ago, he went out with someone else coz he was told that i cheated on him but i didn't we only started hanging out again recently coz he broke up with his gf. we always get along, we are genuinely in love and evn ...
A. 22 July 2008: Why do I get the feeling he has been shoveling some bovine excrement?
He said he was told you had cheated, so he got himself another girl. Who told him you had cheated on him?
It seems a bit to convenient to me. Right when he allegedly hears ... (read in full...)
I told him I want to have sex with him, so isn't the ball in his court now??
Q. I told this guy at work 5 weeks ago that I want to have sex with him. He seemed very receptive at that time, but nothing's happened yet! I went away on vacation for 3 weeks and just returned to work last week. I've been ignoring and avoiding him, ...
A. 21 July 2008: Yes although he is probably to busy cowering in the corner to pick up the ball.
Did you really just go up to him and say "I want to have sex with you"?
Intresting approach, should have tried it when I was still attempting to date.
I thin... (read in full...)
We're 15 and the condom broke! How long until do I wait to use the morning after pill?
Q. Hi Ive Been With My boyfriend for 1 year 8 months and we both love eachover so much he isnt a silly immature boy hes the same age as me (15) and weve had sex quite a few times and weve always used protection well yesterday this time we used ...
A. 21 July 2008: Yes, if a condom splits it is very clear, it is like a balloon that splits, once a tear has formed it will quickly spread.
If you tried to blow it up like a balloon properly and it inflated then it didn't tear.
Wasn't the drop simply your flui... (read in full...)
Why did he remove me as a friend on facebook? Can anyone figure out what he's thinking?
Q. My ex R and I were together for almost a year, before he moved away to another country and wasn't committed. We are both around 30. We tried, but I pushed him away when I kept asking for commitment (yes i know 1 year is not long enough for ...
A. 21 July 2008: That ain't the point, it is what HE believes happened.... (read in full...)
Is it my fault that he hit me, or do I just keep getting with jerks?
Q. My past boyfriends have been abusive towards me and before I got with the guy I'm with now I told him that I was afraid to get hurt again and he promised me that he wouldn't ever hurt me. Well we've been together for 8 months now and he's hit me at ...
A. 21 July 2008: Most likely you just keep picking assholes.
Why do you think it might be your fault? Did you do something that could be an excuse for him loosing his temper 4 times? Kill his puppy? Sleep with his 12 year old brother. Burn down the house. ... (read in full...)
What can we do about my grandma?
Q. I'm so scared right now. My grandmother is very ill at the moment! She has severe memory loss, rarely knows what she's doing and basically has lost her mind. All the family are so concerned about her, she lives with my grandad who tries his best to ...
A. 21 July 2008: There are homecare solutions. Taking people out of their home and into a resthome where they are taken care of is seen by some as exactly the wrong thing to do. A mind that is not used goes to waste. People who go into homes often just wither ... (read in full...)
Does the withdrawal method work?
Q. hi, does pulling out work when preventing pregnancy. We started with using condoms, but we usually finish a packet in a day and nowadays we don't bother using it, cause it kinda ruin the moment and we like to be spontenous and stuff. I was thinking...
A. 21 July 2008: Yes the withdrawal method works a million mothers can't be wrong.... (read in full...)
Why did he remove me as a friend on facebook? Can anyone figure out what he's thinking?
Q. My ex R and I were together for almost a year, before he moved away to another country and wasn't committed. We are both around 30. We tried, but I pushed him away when I kept asking for commitment (yes i know 1 year is not long enough for ...
A. 21 July 2008: You went on a vacation, 2 girls, 2 boys. You posted pictures of this on facebook, a site that he also visits. After these pictures were posted and presumably seen by him, he removes you as a friend.
Do you really not know what he is thinking... (read in full...)
He ignored me while we were with his friends! Should I have been more assertive and talked to them?
Q. I went out with this guy for 5 dates. He's in a meetup.com group and he took me on 3 of the dates to go to the events with this group. On the 5th date he talked to his friends and had his back to me. Then he put his arm around his best friend who ...
A. 20 July 2008: Just checked the site and it seems to be a sort of collection of hobby groups, a way for people with similar intrests to find each other. So presumably the people you were with all shared a common interest.
So was it a date OR was it a social g... (read in full...)
Is love enough to conquer all?
Q. Does Love conquer?? I thought I would ask for opinions on this. How long does anger, resentment and bitterness stay? Does it affect your relationship in the long-term? I am single/40 (never married), but was in a long term relationship (12+ ...
A. 20 July 2008: If this is supposed to be love I got to wonder how you would define hate.
Lets face it, you both screwed up, you lied several times and your past is nothing to be proud off. You could have just worked double shifts cleaning or whatever other tr... (read in full...)
He sleeps separately from his wife and I've waited 2 years! Why won't he give me a time frame?
Q. I've been in love with a man for 2 years who is married. He loves me very much, wants to marry me, and plans to move out of home. I believe him - don't think it's just another married man has an affair episode. He sleeps separately from his wife ...
A. 20 July 2008: A divorce doesn't take 2 years. Time to take of the blinders.... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong to make him only view me as a sexual partner?
Q. I have recently ended a long-term on again/off again relationship with a married man. It went on for 14 years. I finally broke it off with him -- for good. This all happened in the last month and I am still sad about the whole thing, though I ...
A. 20 July 2008: First you got for 14 YEARS with a married man, I can only hope that you didn't select your age properly, and then you go for a divorced guy.
Lets do a reality check shall we.
"I feel like maybe I did something wrong to make him view me as a pot... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his internet activity?
Q. I've never been bothered by my boyfriend reading "lads mags", in fact I got him a subscription as a gift. These magazines are tame though, some topless pics but mostly about sport and cars. However, I have noticed a number of pics and videos on hi...
A. 20 July 2008: Oh shit, she found out the secret about our mags. The women are just a cover, we really read them for the car reviews, latest gadgets and interviews. Damn.
Nice touch with your own cellphone but unless you got a high-tech phone he likes to play ... (read in full...)
I have strong urges to hurt him mentally, is this normal?
Q. I have a wondeful boyfiend and he loves me so much.I do love him and i know im extremly lucky to have him.I dont know why but for some reason i get irritated with him.Even when he hasnt said or done anything i just get this rage in me and i get ...
A. 20 July 2008: No, it is important to remember that not just men are abusive in relationships.
Why you are like this is something you need to figure out before it is to late.
There is no difference when a man constantly puts his wife down with when you do... (read in full...)
Lately it's taking me an hour and a half to orgasm. How can I cope?
Q. I feel sexually trapped.... masterbation doesnt work anymore... lately its taken me about an hour and a half to orgasm which is extremely long for me. i dont have a gf and im left feeling in the dark alone. my world just isnt bright without meeting ...
A. 20 July 2008: An hour and a half of masturbation to come?
Either you do it extremely badly, have done it WAAAAY to roughly, have some emotional block or have something seriously wrong with you.
From what you said about your first time, might it be trauma? Wh... (read in full...)
Do guys REALLY want skinny girls?
Q. ok heres my question do guys really want really skinny gf's???? i know its talked about all the time but nobody ever asks real everyday men! i'm 14/16 is that too big? is that normal? what do you guys think of women and their bodies...
A. 20 July 2008: Some do, some don't. Turn it around, do women REALLY want tall dark and handsome? No?
We all got different tastes and even then, some women look great with some fat and others look great when skinny. It is the total image you produce that mat... (read in full...)
I really miss seeing my brother. Is it normal to want to see him more than once a month?
Q. Hi all and thank for reading this. I'm 31 and I've always lived with my twin brother, first to save money, then just because we were both single and we've always been best friends. Then 6 months ago he moved in with his fiancee and her kids. I...
A. 20 July 2008: You lived, with a man, for over 30 years and suddenly he is gone. Of course you miss him, but right now all his attention will be on his fiancee for obvious reasons.
You don't have to fall out with his fiancee, but you could tell him and her how ... (read in full...)
Who wants to marry someone when you can't trust what they say?
Q. I have posted several times before about my relationship but just when I thought the mass confusion was over..... Basically we have been together for 7 years and have a 4 1/2 month old son together. He can't hold a job so we all live with my par...
A. 20 July 2008: Well, you analyzed yourself pretty well. You are a doormat and he certainly has been busy wiping his feet on you.
So the question that remains is, what next?
Do you really want to life like this? No? Then end the relationship NOW because it a... (read in full...)
What's the best way to leave my rageful husband?
Q. i am 24 and have been married for almost 5 years. things were wonderful for the 5 months before the wedding, but afterward, everything went to chaos. he goes through these frequent periods of what i can only assume to be depression (sinc...
A. 20 July 2008: Classic abusive partner. All the signs and behavior is there.
Good thing you realize that your only option is to get out of there. Lots of people in your situation take a long time to even come to this point.
"i tried to leave him once before,... (read in full...)
I don't seem to be quite a normal shape "down there". Will guys have a problem with this?
Q. My vagina, a lot like a handful of other girls has large lips. I have been reading all of the answers saying 'oh! its no problem!' and i soon became fine with them. But i also have another problem. The hood on my clitorous seems a lot larger them ...
A. 20 July 2008: Women compare the size/shape of their vagina? Guess there is more to the penthouse letter page about things that happen in the women's lockerroom then I thought.
Vulva's come in all shapes and sizes.
http://www.tr... (read in full...)
My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped in front of me on two occasions. Do I tell her mother?
Q. My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped naked in front of me on two occassions and i am confused as to tell her mother or not....
A. 20 July 2008: Why you are seen as the guilty one is because so often we men are.
However, it is also a fact that young women do not know the meaning of the word fear. Young men don't either and jump head first of bridges. Young women don't and flirt with men... (read in full...)
He still watches porn but we have sex very rarely, then he is only focused on his own pleasure and there is no foreplay, etc. We talked about these in vain...
Q. Please help I am at my witts end! My partner has gone off sex. Well he has kind of, as he still enjoys watching porn, he just has gone off sex with me. I am 26 and my partner 27.We have been together for nearly 8 years and are happy in every o...
A. 20 July 2008: Frankly, he sounds like a very selfish lover although it depends on your relationship how true this is.
For instance. How desperate are you? You describe him as a good boyfriend but for many woman that means a guy who only beats them once a week a... (read in full...)
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