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writes:Hi, I have a bit of a dilemma, I've recently started seeing a guy who is 4 years younger than me (he's 21 and I'm 25). Although I don't mind the age gap I'm just finding him a little immature and I don't know whether I should continue seeing him and give it a chance or do I let him down gently. Also lately I have been in touch with a guy from my past and I think this has made me realise he's a bit young for me. Thanks in advance for your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): I am going through the same problem he is 27 and I am 31, when we are together all he wants to do is drink and hang out with his friends then a incident happened where we were supposed to go to Vegas him and I and a couple of his friends and my son got sick so I could not make it his friends were upset because they ended up not going now he tells me that his friends are telling him to choose between me and them and he is torn between the two of us then he tells me to be patient because he is immature and he knows that he needs to grow up then he tells me to be patient I rally like him what do you think I should do.....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 October 2008):
 The poster blow says men act two years younger then their age. This is true. For two year old boys. As boys grow up, the gap increases, roughly 1 year for every birthday.
There is a reason most age gaps have the guy being older.
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reader, ~little~lady~ +, writes (31 October 2008):
hello young ladyYou need to bare in mind that men act 2 years younger than their age! I think you should confront him and tell him how you feel, maybe not so much tell him you think he's immature but in the nicest possible way just ask him how he feels bout the age gap and if he thinks maybe you're too grown up for him!I think where people go wrong is they are never honest enough and don't talk enough to eachother!Things can be worked out if people try!But if it's really not making you happy being with him because of his immaturaty then i think you should end it with him and remain friends. Because this is him and if he was to change for you then he wouldn't be him!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): Dear Poster
I think you know the answer to the question but just need some confirmation. If you feel the guy is to immature there is no point in wasting your time or his time to pursue the relationship. It will only make things more difficult to split later.
You sound like a wise person and will know how to end the relationship. (Might be a good idea to remain friends).
Best wishes and keep us posted.
Keep smiling.
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