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writes:I'm dating a woman for the first time and my girlfriend and I just started screwing around (rubbing against each other, mostly). Before we started dating she had always said she wanted to wait till marriage to have sex. I asked about this and it came to the question 'What is considered sex between two women?' because there is no penetration. We'd really like to know because she asked me if I'd wait for her if what we're already doing isn't considered sex. I'd like to keep this promise if we're not. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much to the first two responders! I think we'll definitely be talking and defining for ourselves what is and isn't sex.
As for LazyGuy, it has nothing to do with purity or marrying in white. More than anything to her it is a value she has set for herself and wishes to uphold it. That's why I asked.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 I think the whole notion of pre-marital sex having some magic boundary is a bit silly.
"Oh yeah I am a virgin and can marry in white, yes I have taken it up the ass by a dozen guys and blown the fifth fleet but I am pure!"
Sex is sex and it is everything that involves more then kissing. Only lawyers and presidents who were lawyers would dare to claim various forms of foreplay are not sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2009): Really there is no set rule for lesbians as to what premarital sex is(the concept was afterall devised long before homosexuality was a socially accepted norm), perhaps penetration and oral would be considered sex before marriage.
I'm pretty sure clitoral stimulation isn't, I think you both should set a personal definition, perhaps only allow yourselves to use your fingers to stimulate each other's clitoris and leave penetration and oral 'til after marriage.
If you decide to set a personal definition not only will you both get clarity on the issue, but you'll both get to know each others bodies in the mean time and also have something to look forward to.
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