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writes:This may sound like a stupid question but can you make someone miss you - my friend has this theory and I've tried to tell her it won't work but she's not listening.She broke up with her bf about 4 months ago and she does miss him but I dont think he misses her, anyway she does things for him like top up his phone and pick him up from work but I know for a fact that he's talking to other girls (which to me shows he doesnt miss her), our other best friend said that if she stops doing things for him and not ring him then he would see what he's lost and miss her but I dont think that's the case.Can anyone give me advise or is our other friend right in what he says. Please help!!!
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reader, Ches +, writes (20 February 2009):
Ches is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can't let her read this thread but then again i had to have other advice. i have seen first hand what he does and its like he relies on her to help him. for example he needed to ring this company to pass on his number now he could of rang his mate or this "new female friend" he has but he didnt he rang her and she helped him - stupid cow. she doesnt love him but i know she misses him, she has told him but he said that he doesnt want to hear it after 4 months (and that was in front of me) - this is really starting to worry me now.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (20 February 2009):
 Yeah it would have to be completely for atleast two weeks, he needs to believe that she has moved on and looking for someone else. If he does text her tho, she shouldn't ignore him, just give a short polite reply without getting into a conversation with him, like "sorry i'm really busy at the moment, i'll talk to you later".
It doesn't always work, it didn't work for me, but it is worth a try if she does still have feelings for him. Also cutting contact will help her heal anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Oops, my mistake...babyin' a Grown Man...even worse:[
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): Wow, she's trying to be his mom...and babyin' a teenager is a disaster in itself. She must be in denial. Why don't you let her read this thread. It could be an eye opener.She deserves a guy that wants her, not to use her.
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reader, Ches +, writes (20 February 2009):
Ches is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Ed1337 you have a valid point - so should she ignore him and see what happens.
I've said to her if he does start missing her I will show my bare back side on the town hall steps lol.
Should she cut contact completly or not?
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (20 February 2009):
Its not really forced, its more like the realization of how stupid you are to let someone slip out of your life, but if shes still acting like his servant, he will never realize what he could miss.
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reader, Ches +, writes (20 February 2009):
Ches is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks LaxyGuy, I said the same thing as you that he is using her, but when I met my friends for lunch today, our male friend said this to her - "Best way to let someone miss you is ..Time with out you ...Letting them realize what they have lost if they dont feel they have lost something they want to hold on to they wont miss the what they had" but what I would ask myself is why do I want to try to make someone miss me if you have to make it happen it forced, I dont want to be with anyone that doesnt want to be with me in the same way that I want to be with them.
Do I have a point or do you think she should see what happens?
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 February 2009):
 Your "friend" is an idiot. She pays for his phone AND drives him from work. Geez, why not simple tatoo doormat on her forehead and be done with it.
He is using her, if she stops doing it he might miss those things but it is the services NOT her that he will be missing.
Your "friend" should get a clue, it is over and frankly she should be grateful for this. He sounds like a loser and a user all rolled into one. Charming combo.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (20 February 2009):
I've actually tried this with my ex. I cut all contact hoping she would realise that going back to her ex was a mistake. I stopped logging onto IM, stopped texting etc, but after a month I realised that she doesn't miss me at all, or not enough to leave him. After a month of not being in contact with her, I discovered that i'm better off without her anyway and I don't miss her at all, i've even started to see someone else.Why is your friend still running around after him is the real question, when he does start dating other girls, its going to make her feel really low. I would try cutting contact with him, he will either miss her and want to get back together, or she will move on and let him go. What shes doing now is putting herself through torture and why would he even need to get back together with her, if shes still wiping his behind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): i dont know tough question but no i dont think so if he dosnt miss her he dosent miss her so dont bother...she has to move on x
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