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writes:Hello,What would you if your boyfriend cheated on you with his ex? The ex confronts you and tells things you never knew (not even that your boyfriend was seeing her behind your back), and all this time you his was over with his ex? What would a rational woman do in this case?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut the thing is that he spoke so bad about her with me. Together we bashed his ex through text messages. But i called her again after he confessed being with her. She told me all the horrible things he said about me. He told me that it was her who would always be looking for him. Turns out she told me that he looked for her too and gave me examples of how and when they were together. I hanged up the phone at the end, didn't even let her finish. If we went back, would this work out? He is telling me he is keeping away from her, and not seeing his son because she is there. Can I believe in him? What if he trully loves me and not her? But why would he be intimate with her after I was the one who lifted him from the ground? I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): You should walk away because he has no respect for you or the other person he is involved with. If she knows about you, then it is really quite wrong on her part. As far as I can understand, the whole time you were with him and he was still with her? That happened to me as I had no idea my ex was still with his girlfriend while he was going out with me, until I found out through pictures and friends.
As a rational woman, you deserve a lot better then this because he will continue to cheat on you as long as you let him. This guy does not deserve you and your time as he is only going to hurt you. This relationship will not go anywhere as you can't trust him and have caught him lying about his ex. There is too damage already, and you need to walk out of this mess.
Give him the boot and don't look back. There is better out there for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh and he hasn't gone to see his son since his ex is there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGuess what was told to the ex? "he is a hell of man, he could f you and f me id doesn't matter" Later he confirmed seeing his ex. Called the ex and expressed a lot of deception from him and that is wasn't worth it. Is this relationship broken or would it be stained with what happened? or can the idea of sharing this guy would be good?
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reader, pebble  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 A rational woman would walk away and realise that too much damage has been done for this relationship to salvaged.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 A rational woman? Isn't that a contradiction in terms?
In my mind a rational woman would not even have to ask.
What exactly is the alternative to the obvious and already given answer? If you can't think of one, then take the answer given below.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): A rational woman would dump her "boyfriend" and move on because she knows she deserves someone who treats her with love and respect. An irrational woman would take him back, punish him, hate him and hate herself for being his doormat. Don't be that woman! Good luck to you :)
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