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writes:how can i love my husband. weve been married for 2 years and still i dont love him until now. i married him because i was already 30 and no one courted me. i was afraid of being single.. i was pressured by my relatives and my friends. i thought i will fall on him once we get married but then i realized how i am on hell being with him.. i am pregnant now..should i go away with him for the sake of peacefulness..im not really happy thats why this gives me a problem.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Gosh, 30 isn't old and really you shouldn't have felt pressured to marry at that age for all the wrong reasons -you still had heaps of time left.
Love should form the basis of marriage. Not only did you deceive your husband, but you also deceived yourself by going against your own instincts. Now, you have another little life to care about too.
I think you need to do some real soul searching. I don't think anyone can give you the right answer, but yourself. Listen to your conscience and follow what you feel is right in your own heart.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 May 2009):
 Well, for a western woman the choice would be simple, but you are not from the west.
If you didn't think much of your future before you married, then it certainly won't have improved now. Pregnant, 32 and a divorcee. Something tells me that in certain cultures that ain't all the hot a deal on the singles market.
It is hard to judge from norther europe what your options really are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): you married because you didnt want to be alone rather than being with someone you love. you got married for the wrong reasons and now it's coming back to haunt you. giving in to peer pressure it's also wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): I am confused... your married 2 years and don't love him until now?
are you saying its hell being with him or your not in love with him even now?
Either way now your pregnant--btw i was never happy pregnant. As much as i want to say hormones.. I believe you need to sit down and talk with him and discuss taking a break... Everyone needs to find themselves every now and again.
If you do take the break and you find your self happy without him.(not missing him or calling him or cyber stalking him).. then your answer is pretty obvious.
But if you do find your self missing those late night talks or stupid little things we do in a relationship then you might want to try and work things out.
good luck.
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