I'm feeling very scared and want to trust my husband but I don't
Q. Hi i have been talking to guy online for 2 years and i went to his country to meet him we got on great and after going to meet him 2nd time after few months we got marraid and im expecting his child but the problem is im still scared hes talking to ...
A. 2 March 2009: Ah, I think you come across as really nervous as you don't use sentences. My Bad.
I think you may just need some mild counselling, and to go out and find some friends of your own.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Bust aint catching up with the rest of me!!!
Q. Hey I've recently been losing weight and have lost over a stone already. The problem I have is that my breast size hasn't reduced at all (and I'm a ff cup anyway)! This means that the clothes I buy are too tight on the top and really baggy round th...
A. 1 March 2009: Have a look on you tube and look for exercises that tone your chest. The muscles under your boobs are called the pectoral muscles.
Then get on them and work out hard one day and then rest the next day. Your muscles have to break down and then gro... (read in full...)
Can you really have a relationship with a man who is unwilling to talk about a problem?
Q. Can you really have a relationship with a man who is unwilling to talk about a problem? But yet talks about it with everyone else except you? time to move on?...
A. 1 March 2009: You give very little info and this question really sounds like it has come from someone who wants to move on but wants someone to give them a push.
If you need a stranger on the internet to make your decision for you based on this one sentence... (read in full...)
How do I repair this problem??
Q. me and my girl fight at least once a week and always about me being moody and distant...i really love her but i feel like we are not meshing well together how do I repair this problem?????...
A. 1 March 2009: Stop being moody and distant?
Listen to what she is saying calmly rather than arguing and TALK.
You need to communicate rather than just shout and provoke.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm feeling very scared and want to trust my husband but I don't
Q. Hi i have been talking to guy online for 2 years and i went to his country to meet him we got on great and after going to meet him 2nd time after few months we got marraid and im expecting his child but the problem is im still scared hes talking to ...
A. 1 March 2009: Oh hun, you got married after 2 months??? It's no wonder you are having doubts.
It does sound like you have some kind of anxiety issues, since you really do sound like a nervous wreck when you type.
You say you can't trust anyone? Not your... (read in full...)
Flirting while dating another?
Q. is it wrong to flirt with another guy when you are in a relationship with someone you truly love?...
A. 1 March 2009: Depends what is meant by it.
If you were just basically playing a game with words, and both of you knew it was just words and that nothing was ever going to happen, and nobody wanted it to happen anyway... then it's fine.
If the implication ... (read in full...)
Husband has went into the military and I am suffering from separation anxiety!
Q. I'm having some issues. My husband has been away at BCT (Basic Training or Boot Camp) for 2 weeks. I know it hasnt been that long, but it feels like a month already. I thought I could rely on the comfort of family while he was away, but instead I'm ...
A. 1 March 2009: Hiya,
I thought I had to send you some advice on this one as I'm an army wife and my hubbie has been to Iraq more times that I've had hot dinners now. (Well, maybe not that much but he's away a LOT)
Over here we wives get briefed on this ... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm fertile!
Q. i think i might be over reacting a little but i don't think i am fertile, my periods are always on time, but before i get my period i get a sore on my ..area and a cold sore in my mouth, i also get a fever.. but this only happens when i g...
A. 1 March 2009: Doesn't matter, exactly the same advice still counts. The cold sore virus can cause ulcers, or it could just be another sign that you're a bit run down.
I tend to get ulcers after I've had a cold or after a week of partying as my immune system h... (read in full...)
I feel as though she doesn't care - should we just go our seperate ways?
Q. Hey guys, I'm looking for some help! Me and my partner of about 2 years recently broke up. It was really her decision over some small things that I don't quite understand, like attention and so on. When we spoke about it at the time of the break up ...
A. 1 March 2009: The way she is acting says to me that she is trying to be strong and put you off. She wouldn't do that if she ever wanted to get back with you.
You said that at the end you tried to raise concerns so that could well have come accross as you putt... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad for "doing things" with a married man?
Q. Last night me and my friend went clubbing, i ended up meeting this guy who brought me a few drinks and we ended up dancing, then he was grinding against me and was touching my chest, then he ended up fingering me in the corner of the club, and we ...
A. 1 March 2009: If you didn't know he was married then it's not your fault.
It's a risk when you go out and have sex with complete strangers that some of them will be married / criminals / violent / psychotic. You don't know anything about them.
Just don't se... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my ex but also for another girl, who do I choose?
Q. there is this girl that i like and she likes me back and now we are getting really close to each other, now the thing is i just have broken up with my girl for about a month and a half now, well now she is coming back to me and even said that she ...
A. 1 March 2009: If you have feelings for 2 girls then it's safe to say that both sets of feelings can't be that strong.
So you do nothing. You get your head together, you see what happens. You might have a really strong feeling to one person but it just be a cru... (read in full...)
I think I am being used
Q. I think I am being used.. I am dating a married man who claims to be very deprived, to the point that she never wants to do it. To complicate matters, he's impotent. Says I make him feel like a man again. What does this line mean?...
A. 1 March 2009: It's easy for him to say that she doesn't want sex, and she doesn't understand him.
It's also easy for him to say that you are new and exciting and make him feel manly and alive - that bit is probably true.
But lets face it, if you are with a m... (read in full...)
Info about sunbeds?
Q. I'm 16 and have I've been thinking for a while about going on the sunbeds because I'm really self concious about how pale I am. I'm just really worried since it will bemy first time I won't know what to do so I just wanted to ask if anyone who has ...
A. 1 March 2009: http://www.itv.com/News/Articles/Girl-suffers-serious-sunbed-burns-836200693.html
First off make sure you go to a staffed place if you have to.
But the best advice is just to not bother. I am pale and if I go on a sun bed I will burn, go re... (read in full...)
Why would girls prefer the chasing of a guy instead of the safety of a relationship?
Q. So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know it's not like she cheated on me but ...
A. 1 March 2009: You've asked this before and got some good answers then, so take that advice and move on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What age do men want to live with someone?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year. he is 26 and i am 20. i want to get a home together. i dont want to buy one with him yet. i just want to rent one with him for a while so we can see if we can handle each other, but he does not want ...
A. 1 March 2009: It's not an age thing. I can't tell yout that you just have to hang around till he's 23 and then he'll suddenly wake up and want marriage and babies and a mortgage.
This problem is about you and him and the only person who can tell you what his... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm fertile!
Q. i think i might be over reacting a little but i don't think i am fertile, my periods are always on time, but before i get my period i get a sore on my ..area and a cold sore in my mouth, i also get a fever.. but this only happens when i g...
A. 1 March 2009: When you are on your period, you lose a lot of iron (rust and blood are both red for a reason) and without iron, you can't use vitamin C as well.
Without vitamin C your immune system goes down hill, and when that happens, a stupid little virus li... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want sex anymore
Q. Im 17 and my girlfriend is 16, we have been together for 14 months we didnt have sex until 7 months into the relationship. It was her first time and we had sex about roughly once or twice a week an then about 4 months after that it just stopped. we ...
A. 1 March 2009: If you were both in your 20's I would be saying that she really needs to get this sorted or she'll lose you.
But at your age, if she doesn't want to have sex then to be honest you have to put up with her or just agree to go back to being friends.... (read in full...)
Casual random sex
Q. seen this women around she is pretty, 25yrs old and just recently sent me an email sayin she wouldn't mind having sex with me because she likes my built body. I'm 18, she knows that and she said she wants to do roleplay sex, which is why she wants ...
A. 1 March 2009: If you are up for it, aren't at risk of developing feelings, and USE CONDOMS!!!!!!... Then no problem.
If no condoms, then no sex. (There are women out there who go out looking for a healthy sperm donor, so unless you fancy being a part time dad... (read in full...)
Is weed worst than cigarettes?
Q. Is weed worst than cigarettes? Which has the worst long term effect? ...
A. 1 March 2009: Canabis has been linked strongly to schizophrenia.
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-wellbeing/health-news/cannabis-can-increase-risk-of-schizophrenia-by-40-459184.html
So if you fancy having voices waking you up and screaming... (read in full...)
I'm too skinny! How do I gain weight?
Q. How do I gain weight? I am 5'5, about 100 lbs. I have been skinny all my life. I don't starve myself, but I also do not have a big appetite. Eating has never been something that I crave or thoroughly enjoy. I have always been very self-conscious a...
A. 1 March 2009: I had exactly the same problem as you at your age.
Ask your mum and I bet she did too. It's a genetic thing. Unfortunately now I've hit 25 my body has decided it doesn't want to be skinny any more and I'm unable to live on my diet of chocolat... (read in full...)
I am 15 and want to have a baby!
Q. I want to keep having sex....i was 14 when i started to and now 15 and want a baby. I really want to have one but my mom don't want me to i wanna fellow my own desires...
A. 1 March 2009: You are going through puberty and your hormones have just gone off like a car bomb. It's no wonder you are having these crazy urges.
I know it feels like you NEED to have sex and have a baby, but please please please trust me when I say that ALL... (read in full...)
Moving country for a bit and unsure what to do with the guy I care for immensely?
Q. Ok. Me and this guy had been texting, bumping into eachother on the odd occasion and having very few one-to-one sit down chat sessions to start off with. But one thing is sure, there was some major sexual chemistry between us both. A month ag...
A. 28 February 2009: If it's going to be long distance and hard and horrible, I think that could ruin what you both have now.
Go to France, have a great time, grow as a person.
When you come back you can see what happens but I think you should not make any promise... (read in full...)
Is this really a size zero diet?
Q. If I do a 2-4-6 diet, for example, one day fast, the next day eat 200 cals, the next day 400 cals, the next 600 cals, and then the next fast again, and go round in this cycle would it be possible to get to size zero? With only doing small exersise, ...
A. 28 February 2009: You are aware that this size zero fad is based on American sizes so the actual "size zero" you are aiming for is a uk size 4.
In answer to your question if you really want to look like a crack addict / little boy and stunt your growth and give you... (read in full...)
I say I love you when I don't think I even mean it
Q. I really dont understand myself ya know, ok this is complicated, sorry if its a bit scatty and a bit of a jumble but yeah, lol, ok basically whenever I get into a relationship, (i'm on my 3rd in 6 months) I don't know why but I really get this ...
A. 28 February 2009: We're all immature in some way. Maybe this is yours?
Just because you are completely sensible and grown up and boring and responsible in 98% of the areas of your life, doesn't mean you won't completely lose it when it comes to love.
I don't... (read in full...)
More romantic & less painful?
Q. Im still 14 and my boyfriend is still 16. He has been hinting that he wants to finger me. As we are making out, he slides his hands dow my body to my waist and on my thighs. Recently, he has made his way down to my vagina, but with my clothes on. He ...
A. 28 February 2009: Stick to the clit area, that's where all the fun is. I know he wants to get inside you as he's a boy and that is basically their aim in life.
It's going to hurt you for the first few times as he is damaging your hymen and stretching you in a way... (read in full...)
Why do I have a problem with the fact she's not a virgin?
Q. Hi. My girlfriend's 17, and we get along really well. We've only been dating for about a month, and everything's happy fields of candy dandilions, etc. A small sticking point for me though, is the fact that she's not a virgin. I don't know why this ...
A. 28 February 2009: Deep down, all men are still stuck in the Victorian times when it comes to girls and sex.
This is why, in 2009, if you have a sex with a guy on the first date then you KNOW they won't call you back.
They either label you as a slut to be used ... (read in full...)
Bad reputation to see 2 guys from my office?
Q. Hey there! Just a quick question. I am separated from my husband and currently going through divorce proceedings. Basically he started sleeping with another woman and I found out about it - so that was that. Anyway since then I started dating a...
A. 28 February 2009: I really think that yes, this will give you a bad reputation - and also it's hardly going to be fun for your 2 men to work together. I would hate to think of phrases like "sloppy seconds" appearing on the men's toilet walls.
If you are tempted ... (read in full...)
He treats me like his girlfriend but on myspace he says he is single
Q. I am best friends with my ex. We have twin sons together. He has started wanting me over all the time. He is kissing on me in public and cuddles me all the time. If i am in pain he tries to help me get rid of it. He is treating me like his ...
A. 28 February 2009: Ask him where you stand.
Tell him you don't want to be messed about and want to be with him as his girlfriend - or not with him at all.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Am I just a rebound for when his relationships end?
Q. ive been friends with a guy for 8 years now. we've always got along well and flirted a little. when his 1st relationship ended 5 years ago we slept together but it went no further. then we had a couple of dates 2 years back but things got confusing. ...
A. 28 February 2009: Yep, you are an easy lay when it all goes tits up with girls he actually likes.
If you care about a guy, you don;t have sex with them. If you have sex with them, they won't respect youfor it and will just use you for more of the same.
Surely ... (read in full...)
I say I love you when I don't think I even mean it
Q. I really dont understand myself ya know, ok this is complicated, sorry if its a bit scatty and a bit of a jumble but yeah, lol, ok basically whenever I get into a relationship, (i'm on my 3rd in 6 months) I don't know why but I really get this ...
A. 28 February 2009: I hate to sound patronising, but it's because you are still immature.
Young girls can't control their feelings. That's why they will have no interest in a boy, but as soon as they find out that the boy fancies them, they'll be madly in love.
... (read in full...)
How can I erase him from my head when she keeps talking about him??
Q. I cant get this out of my head and i know i should. I used to go out with this guy dave. when we started talkin, i found out he just got out of a on and off 3 month relationship. I didnt really care since he was single, because whats the harm in ...
A. 28 February 2009: Tell her to stop talking about him.
Stop being near him or contacting him.
This went on for far far far too long. As you grow older you'll learn to tell a guy like this to bugger off LONG before it gets to this stage.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What does she mean by "She doesn't deserve me?"
Q. okay girl this question is mostly for you but guys feel free to answer too. okay well my gf(ex now) broke up for many reasons but one i didnt quite understand is she said she doesnt deserve me. or she thinks she doesnt deserve me i forgot which one ...
A. 28 February 2009: What is there not to understand. She does not think she deserves you. Look up deserve in a dictionary.
Ask her why not. She may think you are better than you are.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Feeling terrible after having sex
Q. i just had sex i feel terrible is this how this is soppose to feel and another thing thing is i didt use a codom should i tell my parents...
A. 28 February 2009: If you JUST had unprotected sex then you need to go and get the morning after pill RIGHT NOW.
You have 72 hours to take it from the time you had sex.
What were you thinking, not using a condom? Does your boyfriend really want to be a dad so y... (read in full...)
I'm bi, and want to be with my friend "straight" friend?
Q. I'm bisexual, and my friend knows but she thought she was bi-curious but now she says she's straight, and we play around like stare into eachother eyes and lay in bed together but I try not to touch her sexually. Thing is I'm sexually attracted to ...
A. 28 February 2009: I think you have to tell her that she is going to really hurt you if she carries on like this.
It might be nice for her to lie in bed with you and be super best friends, but if she doesn't want to be with you then she is leading you on and it's... (read in full...)
Your comments are appreciated!
Q. My b/f has been very much involved in the behaviour management of my 17 year old. My son is very intellient but very rude and argumentative and drives me mad and I have had to get social services and counselling organised for him. I turned to my ...
A. 28 February 2009: If you are going to him for support... are you still going to him because you love him as well??
It could be that he only ever sees you using him as an emotional crutch at the moment because you only have your sons problems in your head.
... (read in full...)
What makes me unattractive?
Q. I don't know if this question is out of place on here but basically Im 24 and no one thinks im attractive guys blank me all the time yet I think I look ok so it must be me thats deluded lol. At college in a sociolly lesson the teacher did this ...
A. 28 February 2009: Wow your sociology teacher is a horrible, how did she think that exercise was going to not going to hurt someone badly????
I think you need to ask some friends about this. Putting photos up on the internet is never a good idea.
Go and get yo... (read in full...)
I know I should wait to have a baby, but it's soo hard!
Q. I'm gonna be 18 soon and like a lot of other girls my age I really want a baby....I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I know it doesn't sound like a long time but I know he's the one..we live together were together everyday and I ...
A. 28 February 2009: As far as I can tell, he has said all this stuff about wanting to be with you etc... and yet there is no ring on your finger.
As Jessica quite rightly says, anyone can SAY they love you and want to have a ffamily with you forever - talk is cheap... (read in full...)
Would a romantic getaway be our chance to deepen the relationship?
Q. I have a relationship with a gorgeous older woman. She is over 15 years older than I am. I am considering inviting her on a romantic weekend away. I am debating about whether or not it is a good idea to ask her on a weekend away. Is it a good ide...
A. 28 February 2009: How would it not be a good idea?
You don't seem to be sure whether you are in a relationship with this woman or not since you are not sure she'd actually want to spend time / have sex with you.
Just ask her if she would like to go away with you... (read in full...)
Questions about masturbation
Q. Hi. I've heard that women can tell if you mastrabate. Is that true? Also, (women) what do you think about guys who do it? I know it's natural and stuff, but really... Thanks...
A. 28 February 2009: As women we assume that all men masturbate so unless we catch you with your hands in your pants we won't look at you any differently to anyone else.
Personally I'm not keen on the idea of it, but I'm not keen on the idea of you farting either. ... (read in full...)
We made out, does this mean he fancies me?
Q. I told a guy i fancied him, he didn't say the same back but we made out, does that means he fancies me or just thought he would because i like him....
A. 27 February 2009: It means he doesn't find you physically repulsive and would happy snog you.
However it means nothing when it comes to actually LIKING you in a boyfriend kind of way.
Leave him to it and if he likes you he will call you.
If he doesn't call th... (read in full...)
Bite the hand that cooks for you
Q. what would you do if your boy friend breif case is open and you went to get a stamp for your letter, and you find pictures of some women and him? what would you do or say?...
A. 27 February 2009: I'd walk up to him with the photo and ask "who's this?"
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why do my family not let me be my own person?
Q. hello, i just wanted to ask why is it that my family do not want to see me happy, i come form an asian family and all i ever want to do is be happy, however whatever i do that makes me happy is something that makes them sad, for example im 17 and i ...
A. 27 February 2009: You are a 17 year old young man. It is purely natural that you are going to be pushing for more freedom and your family is going to want to keep you safe as a child. You are their baby and you are still that little boy who looked so cute on his ... (read in full...)
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