My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 9 March 2009: You tried the counselling? What did he say?
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Why do my family not let me be my own person?
Q. hello, i just wanted to ask why is it that my family do not want to see me happy, i come form an asian family and all i ever want to do is be happy, however whatever i do that makes me happy is something that makes them sad, for example im 17 and i ...
A. 27 February 2009: You are a 17 year old young man. It is purely natural that you are going to be pushing for more freedom and your family is going to want to keep you safe as a child. You are their baby and you are still that little boy who looked so cute on his ... (read in full...)
I just realized I really didn't treat my husband the way I should have
Q. Afew days ago my husband told me he wasnt happy anymore. I was completely devestaded, and all of a sudden started thinking of all of the things I had done wrong. I asked him why, and he said he didnt know and that he had been this way for a few ...
A. 27 February 2009: Every now and then we need a kick up the bum to realise what we have really been like. This has been yours.
So rather than telling me all this, write it out and leave it on his truck.
Tell him how much you love him.
Hug him, kiss him, ma... (read in full...)
Why does a guy ignore the girl he likes?
Q. when a teenage boy ignores the girl he likes(everyone is almost completely sure he likes her very much)and it's not the first he does it,could it mean he doesn't like her anymore?or it means he is confused or wants to move on?what reasosns could a ...
A. 27 February 2009: Perhaps he doesn't want to have to deal with "everyone."
If EVERYONE has decided he likes a girl and EVERYONE is pushing him to ask her out and EVERYONE is going to make a big deal of it if he does, it's going to be much easier to just ignore h... (read in full...)
Why do girls do this to good guys?
Q. So I just had to break up with my gf of 7 months today because I found out that a month earlier while we took a one week break she asked an ex of hers out and only took me back because he rejected her. I know its not like she cheated on me but thats ...
A. 27 February 2009: What happened was that she was in love with her ex and not with you. But you come along and are all lovely and wonderful so being with you is clearly the logical choice. It's the right thing for any girl. Guys like you don't appear very often so she ... (read in full...)
Should I snitch on my pot smoking friend??
Q. Okay, so I'm on the bus and my friend Dylan and my enemy Joe were talkin. So, my friend David something and he's like wow dude why'd you take that to school and I'm like you guys have weed or something sarcasticly and they just looked guilty I...
A. 27 February 2009: I wouldn't go to a teacher as they will probably get caught anyway soon enough. Anyone stupid enough to bring drugs to school is not clever enough not to get caught out.
I would however talk to your friend and tell him that you really think we... (read in full...)
Advice needed! Should I let him know how I feel knowing that he will feel pressure from this line of questioning?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend "retired" a year ago, and he is taking some time off to figure out what he wants to do when he grows up. I can appreciate the need for contemplation, but he wants to figure it out before we talk about our future and start...
A. 27 February 2009: If you ask him nicely when he is going to be ready to marry you, get a new job and start a family, then he might very well get defensive because he's obviously enjoying the fact that he's a kept man, and you do all the work and he sits at home ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her that I'm a virgin?
Q. Should i tell a girl i been on a couple dates that im a virgin? Im 22, she is 27 and definitely not a virgin, lol. Please reply soon cause im suppose to see her tommorrow.... Thanks a bunch *Mod Note: Fixed some txt speak. Please try to write out...
A. 27 February 2009: No. Why would she want to know? She's interested in you not your sexual history.
If the subject comes up then tell her you are not that experienced, and don't lie if she asks you directly.
But other than that, announcing your virginity will j... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: Ok, if it was a tragic dead boyfriend then I could understand it. But she's moved on and promised to marry another man and then actually married a third one... so it kind of loses the significance.
I'd really talk to her about it and say that you... (read in full...)
Wearing previous engagement ring
Q. My girlfriend insists on wearing previous engagement rings -- yes, she has a few of them -- when we go out together. When I introduced her to my family, my sister took me aside and asked if I had something to tell her ... of course she drew the ...
A. 26 February 2009: I think Tisha's badges idea is brilliant, but you would end up with a LOT of badges so I would suggest a T-shirt instead.
I would check that her ex's are all alive and she isn't a big black widow who kills for life insurance money.
Either ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon to propose?
Q. Hi Auntys and Uncles I really need your opinions advice on this.. To put it simply I want your opinions on how soon into a relationship is too early to propose? The complicated bit is my divorce from my my ex is not yet final(will be in 5wks) a...
A. 26 February 2009: Woo! 4 MONTHS!!!
That is far far far far far too soon.
I mean technically you are still married to someone else!
I know you are in the first rush of love, and since you haven't felt that in 10 years, that has got to be pretty amazing.
Bu... (read in full...)
Manipulated, lied to, and cheated on by whorehouse
Q. I don't know what to do! My husband and I have almost been married for a year and we have a 5 month old baby. He had been going out a lot for "business" and would never answer my phone calls or even call me regardless of the fact he was out WAY ...
A. 26 February 2009: I know you love him but I am sure you realise after your first divorce that you have to be strong and not walked all over by a man.
You say you love him. What is there left to love about him? He has cheated on you, lied to you, emotiona... (read in full...)
Try again? Or lost cause?
Q. Okay there is this woman I care for, I have know here for eleven or twelve years, since we was kids. Now she is grown up and has one child, and getting ready to have another. She has told me that the relationship she is now is over but she cannot ...
A. 26 February 2009: Well you could try DATING but I think you would be tempted to move her in with you, take on the 2 kids and jump in with both feet.
I think if you try to date her and take things really slowly then there is no reason this couldn't work, but if y... (read in full...)
Can an emotionally abusive man change with therapy
Q. can a self centered emotional abusive man change with therapy or it is a long up hill battle. He only sees things one way his - even if everyone disagrees. He is stubborn. He even gets mad at doormen and if you dont agree with his views on eve...
A. 26 February 2009: Well he's got this far so in life ok.
If he really really completely AGREES with you that he has a problem, and really really really WANTS to change then with therapy etc and a LOT of hard work on his part then he may change. But you'll have to ... (read in full...)
My husband is "gay for pay"?
Q. Earlier this week I came home from work and found my husband in the living room on the floor writhing with another guy. The windows were blacked out. I asked him what the hell he was doing, and he was brazen enough to say he was making guy-on-gu...
A. 26 February 2009: I don't know why he doesn't get that this is NOT the kind of thing you just do on the side for a bit of extra cash.
How could he not consider your feelings???
I think you need to take a tough stance on this and tell him that it WAS cheating and... (read in full...)
I can't stop arguing and crying!
Q. Please help me. I love my boyfriend, he treats me like a princess. Lately I seem to start arguments and I moan about everything! I am certainly not the fun loving person I was when we met! I cry nearly everytime I see him, I just get upset at lit...
A. 26 February 2009: Go and see your doctor to talk about if you need some drugs to help you. Eat well and try to force yourself out of bed to go swimming or do some kind of exercise.
See your boyfriend a bit less and just MAKE yourself go out with your friends ... (read in full...)
We plan on getting married, but I want kids and he doesn't!
Q. We plan on getting married someday he doesn't want kids and I want a big family and always have! How can we make this work?...
A. 26 February 2009: Sometimes although you love someone, something comes up like this and you realise that although you want to be with them, it will never work long term.
I met a few guys who I knew I could very easily fall for but I knew it would end in tears.
... (read in full...)
Disappearing partner
Q. hi my partner and i got married in Jan in New York after being together a year in a long distance relationship... He is in the states and i am in the UK. We have agreed that he is going to come to the UK in the summer to stay a year and then go...
A. 26 February 2009: Well you have only known him for a year and then not even that long because you only really REALLY get to know a person face to face. Online etc you can be who you want to be and edit every word to only show the side you want.
So you have married ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend does not wish to make our relationship official, do you see a future for us?
Q. My gf split with me a few months back but now we see each other again. It's all unofficial so we not bf and gf as such, in name only. All of her friends knew we split but none of them know we seeing each other again, and thats how she wants it to ...
A. 26 February 2009: Nope, it sounds like she doesn't want to be with you but she just hasn't quite been able to let go.
You don't give any details about the split up or why it happened and who it was that decided to end it. I think that probably would explain ... (read in full...)
He is very good at running away and hiding!
Q. Everytime he gets angry over anything he runs and hides for days, even weeks. he is very good at running away and he admits it. What to do with this behavior...
A. 26 February 2009: If you've tried talking and it doesn't work then it might be time to kick him up the bum.
Are you content for him to do this for every argument for the rest of your life?
If not then tell him that if he does it again then it's over. Then if he... (read in full...)
My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 26 February 2009: It could very well be that she is going through a hormonal change.
I think you need to get outside help on this one since it is a sudden change and it hasn't always been this way.
It could be she is at the very start of the change and some ... (read in full...)
My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 26 February 2009: It could very well be that she is going through a hormonal change.
I think you need to get outside help on this one since it is a sudden change and it hasn't always been this way.
It could be she is at the very start of the change and some ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex boyfriend wont leave me alone!
Q. hi everyone, I broke up with my ex over a year ago (31/12/07) because he hit me. things were not going well before that because he was a bully and used to called me names like ''fat'' and ''ugly'' to hurt me. I made a police statement at t...
A. 25 February 2009: Call the police again. Harassment is illegal in most countries. (although I don't know the exact laws in Ireland.)
You may be able to get a restraining order banning him from texting you or coming near you or your new man.
Talk to a domestic vi... (read in full...)
Is this guy just keeping his options open talking to me?
Q. I've been talking to a guy online since November, we would go 2 weeks without talking and then talk... I started it. We haven't met in person. Lately he's been onlilne more so we talk. They say if a guy isn't interested he'll just not talk to ...
A. 25 February 2009: You must have 2 hours in a week to go out of the house!! What about weekends?
There are clubs and groups and gyms and projects to volunteer on.
Don't just sit there moping that your life is over, get out side and meet people.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Mum fell out with me because I went round to see my friend!
Q. I have a friend who lives round the corner from my Mum's boyfriend's house. Mum decided to go round to see him one night so, by the way, I dropped in on my friend too. I had a fab time with my friend and spent almost four hours there! When I went ...
A. 24 February 2009: Appologise to your mum and promise that id she gives you a lift round there again, then you will always get a taxi back.
A bunch of flowers never hurts either!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What exactly IS flirting and is it okay to flirt when you're in a relationship?
Q. What exactly is flirting? How would you define it? And do you believe it is ok to flirt with anyone when you are in a relationship? Why/why not? Yes, a very broad, general question I know, I'm just looking for peoples opinions, so I can see h...
A. 24 February 2009: Flirting is chatting to someone that you know but not in a friendly way, it's more playful and can imply a sexual attraction. It's FUN!!!
Whether you flirt seriously or not is a differnt matter.
Flirting just with words and then laughing at... (read in full...)
My wife is chatting to hundreds of men online even though I have asked her to stop!
Q. I've been married to my wife now for almost 5 years now. We met online in an animated avatar chat room called Habbohotel, and things on the whole are great. but... Basically, i have an issue with her talking to men online. When i knew her...
A. 23 February 2009: There was a divorce case earlier this year where some one married another woman online and his wife got a divorce on the grounds of adultery.
You guys basically met and thought you knew eachother and so jumped into marriage when really it may not ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to find god first, should I wait for him or move on?
Q. Hi, what should I do. I just broke up with my bf, we were together for 3months. At first it was happy then he got stressed with work and we both dunno how to handle it He needed space while I felt neglected but we both tried to work it out. Ov...
A. 23 February 2009: If he's moving overseas in a few months then this is either a doomed relationship or he wants you to be his long distance girlfriend and let me tell you, that is NOT fun.
If you like closeness and contact every day then you will hate only speaking... (read in full...)
G Spot pr Clitoris orgasm more explosive?
Q. I always thought a clitoral orgasm is more intense then a gspot orgasm ,, but a male friend said it was the gspot orgasm that is more intense . Iv heard many woman have never had an orgasm and I am fortunate to be multi orgasmic.. And I know I have ...
A. 23 February 2009: Are peas more tasty than carrots?
Well for me I know its carrots all the way, but the other day at a carvery I noticed my friend was really tucking into peas, and it made me wonder: Which one is actually the better vegetable? Which actually... (read in full...)
We flirt. He's not ready. We make out. He's not ready. Should I ask?
Q. Hey all, I have a slight dilema and i would love some advice. so heres the situation. a few months back i told my guy friend (ill call him X) that i had feelings for him. X responds by telling me he isnt looking for anyone right now and he would pr...
A. 23 February 2009: I'd give him a small kick up the arse as he can't mess you about like this.
Text him and tell him that since he hasn't got back to you that you assume he doesn't want to be with you. Then tell him that since you want to be more than just friends ... (read in full...)
My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian.
Q. My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian. She says The Dike (that's what she calls her when my friend isn't around) will eye up all the bridesmaids and also she doesn't want her to come because there going to be a lot ...
A. 23 February 2009: Wow! How can you marry someone who is so full of hate that they are homophobic? Is she racist as well? She sounds lovely!
Tell her that it's your friend and she has to get over her ridiculous prejudices. Tell her it's not the 1890's and you don'... (read in full...)
I just want to escape North Carolina, but I'm so scared that dream is dying.
Q. My family and I are "immigrants" from Florida who came to North Carolina for "a better life in North Carolina." I did NOT have a better life in North Carolina. Instead, I became VERY depressed and had a really rough time adjusting to the culture. I ...
A. 23 February 2009: Family is important, but my Dad once said to me that if I got offered a great job in Canada or Hong Kong (I'm in the UK) he would miss me very much but would slap me if I didn't take it.
Your family wants you to be happy, they want you to be succe... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend stuff her bra and want a boob job? I love her as she is!
Q. I was making love to my girlfriend (of two years) and I unhook her bra without her knowing. There was padding and toilet paper everywhere. Before I could say a thing she ran of the room. I called her a few times with no answer. I really don't thing ...
A. 23 February 2009: She obviously has a massive issue with her breasts and in her head she is probably convinced that you are going to dump her if you find out how "flat chested" she is.
Text her and email her and write her letters and bombard her with messages... (read in full...)
Crush on someone you've never even met?
Q. Is it stupid to have a crush on someone you've never even met? I have spoken to him on msn and on the phone and stuff but I've never seen him in real life. I feel really stupid but I REALLY enjoy speaking to this guy. Shall I suggest that we meet ...
A. 22 February 2009: You can like him in the same way you like an actor off the TV. You think you know him, you've imagined him and you together, you've made him into someone who you could fall in love with.
Unfortunately the fact is that you DON'T know him. You only... (read in full...)
His porn watching is so bad I've even thought of having an affair!
Q. I'm 42 and in a relationship with a man who is 40. He has recently been injured at work and since then he would rather sit in the bedroom in front of the computer every waking moment.. He watches so much porn that one would think it would make him ...
A. 22 February 2009: He's had an accident at work and now he's sat at home all day.
THAT is your problem. He's depressed. A guy will lose his sex drive if he is depressed or stressed. So he's sunk into a little pool of porn and internets and feeling sorry for himself.... (read in full...)
Is this guy just keeping his options open talking to me?
Q. I've been talking to a guy online since November, we would go 2 weeks without talking and then talk... I started it. We haven't met in person. Lately he's been onlilne more so we talk. They say if a guy isn't interested he'll just not talk to ...
A. 22 February 2009: Sounds like he likes making friends and chatting to people.
I like chatting to people too. It doesn't mean I am in love with them. It just means I have a bit of a boring life at times due to geographical location so talk to my friends online. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop him from making me feel worthless?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and 8 months and I love him to pieces - more than anything but the problem is he does not make me happy. A few reasons are: 1) He will never admit he plays any part in any argument we have- he will al...
A. 22 February 2009: I know you don't want to hear this but this is the way you are going to be treated for as long as you are with him.
If he truly loved you he would care about you and respect you. He only loves himself.
There is no way that he is going to sudd... (read in full...)
Why am I so unlucky in love?
Q. I am 30 years old and never had a boyfriend and I don't know how to get one. At this stage giving is my only option. It's very unfair why I have no luck at all. The guys have it easier. I am shy and quiet with a weight problem....
A. 22 February 2009: Get out there, meet people, meet guys and talk to them.
Your weight will not have anything to do with it. Attitude is everything. Be approachable and chat to guys when they are introduced to you.
If you are quiet and shy it will seem like y... (read in full...)
Need ideas on how to break up, without hurting her too much?
Q. I want to dump my girlfriend but i dont know how. We have been going out for a year and i have gone off her. I know it sounds really mean but i cant help how i feel. I have fallen out of love and dont fancy her anymore. I dont want to hurt ...
A. 22 February 2009: You just have to be honest with her. Tell her that you don't feel the same as you used to.
She will cry and ask what she did wrong and you are going to hurt her. But you have to just be honest, and tell her you love her more as a sister and frie... (read in full...)
She has taken over my group of friends and left me out, how do I cope?
Q. i know this sounds really petty but here goes I hang around with a large group of girls. We are in our mid-20's. I would say that I am probably one of the shyest of the group but we all have a laugh and get on. Over the past year a new "friend" h...
A. 22 February 2009: I'm going to be a bit harsh here.
What do you want us to say? That it is all her fault and if you have a quiet word then they'll dump her and flood round to see you? That new friends will fall into your lap and love you dearly and you'll never ha... (read in full...)
Pregnant, in undesirable relationship, what do I do?
Q. I had a one night stand got knocked up and moved in with him he doesnt love me or care he tells me he does but no sex no kissing has got physical I pay half bills and buy all food he gots out wiyh ex sleeps with her and others yet wants us to raise ...
A. 22 February 2009: I think you have to sit down and talk about what relationship you both want.
It sounds to me like you act just like housemates, yet he's keeping you trapped as though you are his girlfriend.
And why should the mother of his child have to HI... (read in full...)
I'm 15, really like this 20 year old girl, will 5 years make a big difference??
Q. I'm 15 living in Nottingham and I'm in a really difficult situation that I don't know how to resolve. I went to a house party the other day at my best m8s house. Before I went it was kinda common knowledge that I liked his sister (even he knew) b...
A. 22 February 2009: Hun, if she has sex with you, then she is likely to be put on the sex offenders register. She is too old for you and I very much doubt she will want a relationship with you as you are still a child, no matter how "fit" you are.
As for the other gi... (read in full...)
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