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writes:me and my boyfriend have been dating over a year. he is 26 and i am 20. i want to get a home together. i dont want to buy one with him yet. i just want to rent one with him for a while so we can see if we can handle each other, but he does not want too yet and i dont understand why. so i want too know at what age do men normally want too move in with a woman? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2009): Willywombat used to say, "How long is a piece of string?" I like that line. I'm not sure if it completely applies to your question. Regardless, there is no overall 'standard' on when ALL men want to move in with a woman. It's simply non-existing. No such thing. Zero. Nada. None. Zilch. Ling.
This is dependent on the individual.
If you don't understand why, ask him. What is your status with him? Girlfriend right? He is your boyfriend right? Aside from social labels, it's supposed to mean more than just a label right? Open communication is a key factor in a successful relationship. So, communicate with him. Ask him and try to understand him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 March 2009):
It's not an age thing. I can't tell yout that you just have to hang around till he's 23 and then he'll suddenly wake up and want marriage and babies and a mortgage.
This problem is about you and him and the only person who can tell you what his problem is, is him.
Some things to think about though:
Is he worried about the financial side? Are you both working? Would you both be able to afford 50% of all the bills?
Is he worried about the relationship moving too fast? Does he see moving in together as an end to the way things are right now as you'll want to get pregnant and tie him down forever?
Is he a neat freak and you have mess every where? Or the other way round? Does he think you'll freak out and go mental if he rolls in at 3am after a night out with his mates, vomits in the sink and leaves half a kebab on the floor in the front room? Does he enjoy throwing his dirty pants on the floor where you'll want him to be house trained?
Figure out how things will change if you live together and figure out which bit of that is putting him off. Also, offer to take on a furnished place on a 6 month lease, so if it doesn't work out in 6 months, then you can both go home with nothing lost.
Good Luck!! xx
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