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writes:I really dont understand myself ya know, ok this is complicated, sorry if its a bit scatty and a bit of a jumble but yeah, lol, ok basically whenever I get into a relationship, (i'm on my 3rd in 6 months) I don't know why but I really get this stupid urge, well it's not even an urge it's more like something just stuck in my head, that I feel like I should tell the person who i'm with that I love them, I think i've even done it when I don't mean it, I think? It's not like i've been love starved, i've got a very loving family, friends and long term real love type relationships, so I don't get it, and I wish I could stop myself from thinking the way I do cos it's just not quite right, is it? I'm with a guy at the minute and we have had our moments where we've been so close it's like our hearts have been entwined, specially during sex, and moments like that just make me think 'love love love' but I just don't understand why if it's not actually love? I mean heck, i've only been with this guy a month!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 February 2009):
We're all immature in some way. Maybe this is yours?
Just because you are completely sensible and grown up and boring and responsible in 98% of the areas of your life, doesn't mean you won't completely lose it when it comes to love.
I don't mean immature as an insult, I mean it more in the way that you may have a certain innocence and purity in certain feelings that you have. This could be great! You could just be a very loving person, even if you find out your feelings are very influenced by the moment.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really wouldn't say that i'm immature though, I have had many people tell me that I have the maturity of someone ten years older than me, even from the age of 12 i've been far too mature for my age, so I really don't think the fact that i'm still young is the issue, I think it's something deeper than that, but I just can't dig out the roots. I don't even know if this is a question someone can answer for me, I just know it's something deeper.. Spose this is just more of a rant in a way..
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 February 2009):
I hate to sound patronising, but it's because you are still immature.
Young girls can't control their feelings. That's why they will have no interest in a boy, but as soon as they find out that the boy fancies them, they'll be madly in love.
It's also why I always advise people not to have sex so young. It makes us girls think love love love, and it's so easy to think a guy is the same and will love you if you sleep with him.
This will change as you grow older and realise that every little hormone rush is not actually rush, but just a good feeling.
Also, really try to stop saying things like that as you will really hurt someone when they realise you don't mean it.
Good Luck!! xx
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