Curious: how long do guys in LT committed relationship hang out with their best friends?
Q. how often do guys in long-term committed relationships hang out with their best friends? and for how long in a single time?...
A. 10 March 2009: We live quite far away from our friends so my hubbie disappears off for a few days at a time.
But it doesn't really matter what my husband does. What matters is the fact that you aren't happy with something so you should tell him you are not happ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend looks at other women when hes with me
Q. Is it normal for my boyfriend to look at another woman while with me? It really makes me feel awful and I've told him this many times but he doesn't seem to stop. Please help! ...
A. 10 March 2009: He probably doesn't even notice he's doing it.
It's probably subconscious.
So next time he does it, slap the back of his head. Once you've done that several times, his subconscious will associate looking at other women with pain and he migh... (read in full...)
What should I make of his remarks and what would you do about them?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together over a year now. I asked my boyfriend if he was serious about me. Our circumstances have not changed. He still has no job, still drinks a lot and has not hinted around any about marriage. His answer to my ...
A. 10 March 2009: I'd give him a month or two more and if he doesn't get off his bum and get a job, then move on.
Give yourself a deadline of say, the end of April, and if there is no improvement and no end to the cocky remarks then leave.
I mean, you are no... (read in full...)
I want to still be a virgiin
Q. Hello, I have had expierences in my past life and I can not stop thinking about them. when i think about them i reallize how stupid i was and wish i could go back and change it. I am a straight male and awhile back me and a friend humped eachother ...
A. 10 March 2009: Hey, this is the third time you've asked this so I really don't think you are listening to any of the answers any more.
If this is bothering you and you want to talk about it then go and talk to a counsellor or a priest or someone.
Coming ... (read in full...)
Curious why my FWB never initiates
Q. I'm in a friends with benefits situation with a guy i dated for two months, so here's my delimma: It was my idea to do the FwB thing after I told him he was treating me terribly and he seemed to lose interest in pursuing me as a gf..so now we have ...
A. 10 March 2009: Think of it like chocolate.
If someone offers you a nice chunk of it on a plate - you'd take it and eat it and enjoy it.
But you might not go to a shop and buy a bar and pay for it and unwrap it and put it on a plate in front of you, just to ... (read in full...)
He won't leave me alone for a day!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 years and have two children together i was young when i got with him and he was very controlling of me so i lost alot of my friends, anyway i found out he was cheating on me and he promised to stop, coming ...
A. 10 March 2009: Jezebel has got it right:
Tell him to piss off.
When he calls answer and say "is this about the kids?" and if he says no then tell him you don't want to speak to him and hang up.
If he shows up tell him that it's not a good time and he h... (read in full...)
Do I have reason to worry about what's on his facebook?
Q. My mum looked at my bf's facebook and had some very negative things to say about it. This has caused me to have so many doubts in our relatiosnhip. She critised alot, such as how the majority of his friends are girls, he has photos of himsel...
A. 10 March 2009: Yes but YOU have told him that as his GIRLFRIEND it bothers you and you think it IS flirting.
If he just doesn't care about what you are feeling then he doesn't care about you.
Tell him you want a man who wants YOU and not just another girl to ... (read in full...)
I think we have tiny crushes on each other!
Q. Wooooooo! I think i'm majorly crushin' on my Band Teach! That's just akward! And since he's my Arts and Hummaities, Band, Music Theroy, Sunday School Teacher I pretty much see him ALL THE TIME. I don't really know why I sorta like him, though. He's ...
A. 10 March 2009: Hey, saw you asking this last week and on the articles to.
You seem to know that this is just a crush, you know it's never going to happen and you understand why it has happened.
I'm not entirely sure what you hope to achieve by getting even ... (read in full...)
Confused in Iraq
Q. So, Im a US soldier currently deployed to Iraq for the third time. I met my wife in 2006, shortly after returning from my first deployment. We had a very strong, and wonderful relationship. Right before I left in February of 07 for a second ...
A. 9 March 2009: Hiya, I'm an army wife here. We Brits only do 6month deployments but much more often. My husband has done Iraq 3 times, Kosovo twice and Northern Ireland.
Let me tell you from a wife's point of view - It's shit.
She's basically a single mum. Bu... (read in full...)
Do I have reason to worry about what's on his facebook?
Q. My mum looked at my bf's facebook and had some very negative things to say about it. This has caused me to have so many doubts in our relatiosnhip. She critised alot, such as how the majority of his friends are girls, he has photos of himsel...
A. 9 March 2009: A lot of people have male and female friends, a lot of people put pictures of them and their friends on facebook.
BUT it is all about respect. If my husband has pictures of him and some of his girl mates up on facebook that would be fine, if he wa... (read in full...)
Because we don't have sex he accuses me of having it with someone else?
Q. Ok I've been dating this guy for a few months. Things moved pretty quickly as far as emotions are involved. I have deep feelings for him, and from what he says the feeling is mutual. I decided to wait a while before we had sex. He said no problem. ...
A. 9 March 2009: This is why you did EXACTLY the right thing by not having sex with him....
You've now found out nice and early on that he is a nut job and now you can dump him and go on your merry way.
Any guy that acts like this will get worse with time ... (read in full...)
Falling in love with friends husband
Q. I think i'm beginning to like my best friends husband. i know the stigma's involved with that, but let me explain the situation first. they have been together for about 6 years, married for 2, and both are quite young (i'm talkin early 20's). A...
A. 9 March 2009: I can understand why, if this is the first guy that you've just hung out with and had nice times with, that you may feel you have feelings for him.
But hun, he's married. He's married to your friend. He probably relaxes and is nice to you because ... (read in full...)
Should I contact the ex and wish him good luck?
Q. hello. My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2months ago due to arguements and he said that special something isnt there anymore. he said he would always love me. he begged to be my friend and i told him i have reservations i.e still have feeli...
A. 9 March 2009: I think you have to give it a little more time.
You know you don't want him back and that is great. It means you are getting over him.
But if you see him you may still want the intimacy just because you have always had it - what I mean by t... (read in full...)
Do I have reason to worry about what's on his facebook?
Q. My mum looked at my bf's facebook and had some very negative things to say about it. This has caused me to have so many doubts in our relatiosnhip. She critised alot, such as how the majority of his friends are girls, he has photos of himsel...
A. 9 March 2009: It really depends on his personality and your level of acceptance.
If he has always been like this, was like this when you met him and you are fine with the fact he's obviously not that in to you and you are just one of his girls and not his ONLY... (read in full...)
What does a spontaneous back massage mean?
Q. when a guy just comes up randomly and starts giving you a back massage. what does that mean?...
A. 9 March 2009: It means he wants to touch you / make you happy.
This means he is either:
a) a friend of yours who is being nice.
b) a boy who you know who might fancy you.
c) a psycho at the bus stop.
If A or B then it's fine, if C then you should proba... (read in full...)
A date turns into a FWB, but I'm confused as to WHY?
Q. I dated this guy for 2 months, we had sex on the first date and continued to date for several weeks. i was unsure about him the whole time, and he kept hinting that i could see him and date others. about two months in, he became a bit distant and ...
A. 9 March 2009: I'm not sure what you actually want here and I'm not sure you do either. Do you simply want him to be a guy you can call for good sex and no strings? Or do you want a boyfriend?
If you offer a guy no strings sex and he knows you REALLY don't... (read in full...)
Should I save the marriage or just get the courage to leave it?
Q. I've been married to my wife for just over 18 months, recently she has become really cold and unloving towards me and our intimacy is now more or less non-existant (it was fine until 6 month ago), before and even just after the wedding we spoke of ...
A. 9 March 2009: Something MUST have happened to this girl to make her feel this way.
She has to know that this is not normal.
I think you have to tell her that you think it's not working and you are heading for break up.
BUT you also have a duty to try ... (read in full...)
A little boring...need advice without spending a fortune
Q. Hi all I have become a little borining in my relationship and I wonder if there is somthing I can do to be less boring or hum drum without going wild and spending a fortune what will my wife enjoy. Thanks in advance....
A. 9 March 2009: You sound like a great guy so I am sure it will all be fine.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 9 March 2009: You tried the counselling? What did he say?
x... (read in full...)
I started birth control and my period stopped then came back. Why did this happen?
Q. im on the contraceptive pill at the minute which i have just recently started using, i finished my period the other day but then the next day, it started again for about 6-8 hours. it was quite heavy and i was just wundering why this has happened? ...
A. 7 March 2009: When you take the pill, all kinds of crazy things happen. You are going in and messing up your body's most natural function here and making it do un natural things.
Your periods will be messed up for a good few months and you'll probably get othe... (read in full...)
Do women actually enjoy being "fingered"?
Q. I've never really liked the word "fingering"... but is being fingered something that women actually enjoy, or is there a special way to do it other than just shoving your fingers in...? I'm just curious really... ...
A. 7 March 2009: Well you see, we girls have this thing, called a clitoris.... It's very sensitive and is the cause of the vast majority of female orgasms.
Quite often, a penis will manage to bypass this thing and although sex is fun, the best way to get a girl o... (read in full...)
Is going on the pill at 16 normal?
Q. ive been married to my wife for over 20 yrs. She was engaged to a guy before she met me, she also went on the pill for him at the age of 16. This is crucifying me after all these yrs. Can someone help me? Is this a normal age to go on the pill? I ...
A. 7 March 2009: Going on the pill is often NOTHING to do with having sex.
It can clear up acne, it can stop period cramps, it makes your boobs bigger, your periods get lighter or stop.
The pill I am on at the moment has helped my skin no end and I very rarel... (read in full...)
Have I created the impression I am available and easy??
Q. I met this guy at his families hairdressers. I could tell he liked me by the way he looked at me and the questions he was asking. He and his family know my current boyfriend but I am not happy. this guy has brought up twins on his own with the ...
A. 7 March 2009: You'll have to look long and hard at yourself to find out. Ask a friend to be really really painfully brutally honest with you.
What do you wear? Do you flirt a lot? Do you mention that you have a boyfriend?
I have this problem sometimes as I f... (read in full...)
A little boring...need advice without spending a fortune
Q. Hi all I have become a little borining in my relationship and I wonder if there is somthing I can do to be less boring or hum drum without going wild and spending a fortune what will my wife enjoy. Thanks in advance....
A. 7 March 2009: What you need is romance!
Romance is free as long as you are creative. It's just about letting her know that you love her.
Walk past and kiss the back of her neck. Bring her home a bar of chocolate with a ribbon and a little note with an X o... (read in full...)
He thinks my body BELONGS to him!!!!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months says I'm his... therefore so is my body, supposedly we love each other. He says he does, his hands are always all over me, alone or not! Once we are in a private place and he wouldn't stop! I don't mind that but I do mind ...
A. 7 March 2009: This guy must have been brought up by baboons in the 17th century.
There is NO excuse for that attitude and to be honest he sounds like he could be dangerous.
He clearly has no respect for women and especially not you.
He sounds like a rapi... (read in full...)
Do I have to chose between b/f & Best friend?
Q. i've been dating my boyfriend for just over seven months, and i definatly love him. And he definatly loves me back. Although, one of my best guy friends was recently rejected, so i was trying to make him happy, and i knew he liked me before, but he ...
A. 7 March 2009: You say you are not leading him on... but you completely and utterly are.
He knows you like him, he knows there is a small chance that you might be with him. You are "being yourself" around him so basically you are constantly showing him what he ... (read in full...)
What a boring sex life!!!
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been having sex quite a lot within these 18 months. The problem is, every time we have sex, we are just simply kissing and caressing each other's genitals. Then, my boyfriend will be on top of me and poopps! He comes ...
A. 7 March 2009: You really shouldn't be having sex if you can't even speak to him.
Tell him that until you can talk about things, see each other naked, and have cracked the basics of foreplay first, there will be no more sex.
You should never be in a sexual r... (read in full...)
Why is my daughter-in-law jealous of the bond I have with my grandson.
Q. Why is my daughter-in-law jealous of the bond I have with my grandson. I have brought him up since he was 3 month old. I had him every day while she works, he's nearly 3 now. Because I am very close to him she has put him in full time nursery....
A. 7 March 2009: You don't say how you know that the move to nursery is DIRECTLY because you were close to him.
This really sounds unlikely and unless you have some proof of this, it sounds like you are just sad at losing all that time with him.
She could hav... (read in full...)
How do I make her understand my problem?
Q. How do i make her understand my problem? help ......? hi, im going to get married next year and the wedding date is fixed after talks with my and my bf's parents.im doing a day job and he is doing a night job. my parents are BUYING me a house ne...
A. 7 March 2009: If she is ill then she is probably scared of being left alone with no one near by.
Why not suggest that she moves to near where you are going to live in the city?
Tell her that you will not be threatened and the fact she is capable of this ... (read in full...)
Under British law, anything I can do to get my money back?
Q. Rightio, I was with his guy for a few months, met over the net, he was lovely, but in the end it didn't work out, one of the main reasons being that he was just in it for my money, like, we'd go into town for a look about and he's be like "I need ...
A. 7 March 2009: Unfortunately, you didn't tell him it was a loan, you have nothing in writing and under British law there is no protection if you choose to give your money away.
Same as if you threw a lot of £30 notes in the air in the high street. People c... (read in full...)
He gave me the ring after he found out that there is another person interested in dating me.
Q. My boyfriend gave me a ring on Feb 2006 and I accepted it but he didn't propose. He gave me the ring after he found out that there is another person interested in dating me. After he gave me the ring he said that we're engaged. And now I feel ...
A. 5 March 2009: He assumes a lot and so do you.
You both need to actually talk. fist off you should have made it clear that you are not engaged since he didn't propose. Wear the ring on your right hand till he gets down on one knee.
Next off you both need to... (read in full...)
Abrupt silence. What's going on here?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some help/advice/opinions. So i recently contacted an old flame. First of all, Im terrified of rejection, so I'm generally not too forward when it comes to relationships. But I feel so strongly for this man I took the chance ...
A. 5 March 2009: He could have lost his phone, he could be having emotional breakdowns over his girlfriend, they might be trying again on the condition that he stop talking to ex girlfriends, he could have been hit by a bus!
90% of the time it's not about you.
... (read in full...)
Why do people like seeing their partner sexually excited by someone else?
Q. Why do folks like seeing their partner sexually excited by someone else?...
A. 5 March 2009: They don't!
They would get very jealous.
If you are referring to a specific problem come back and ask advice on it. Don't just assume that everyone does and be vague or you'll get vague answers.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I just feel like crap. Help!
Q. I love this girl so much (lets call her K), I just can't stop thinking about her. I've known her for 6 months, but we get along really well. I was going to ask her out ages ago, almost just after I met her, but then I found out she's already got a ...
A. 3 March 2009: I think you need to cut yourself off from this girl for a while. She obviously has a pretty high opinion of herself and may love the fact that she has you following her round like a puppy.
Get some space and get your head together.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Sickeningly happy but how to propose?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about a year. She's the most beautiful and sweetest girl in the universe. I was over the moon when she agreed to go on a date with me. I was taken aback by her response when I asked. She said, "What took you so ...
A. 3 March 2009: Sweetie, I find the best way is just to surprise her.
Take the ring out with you and then just wait till you have a moment where she looks beautiful and you kiss her and it's just a bit lovely and then BANG - straight down on one knee.
Doing s... (read in full...)
Is there any way to tell if a woman is a virgin? How can I ask without offending her or sounding stupid?
Q. I am a virgin and i am going to wait to have sex until i meet that right woman. But my question is, is there anyway to tell if a woman is a virgin? there is a woman that i don't know all that well but I am interested in dating her. Is there any way ...
A. 2 March 2009: I think you have to take a risk, ask her out, and then when you are out you can ask her about her views on sex.
Bring it into conversation. If you tell her that you want to wait for the right person and lose it to them ONLY on the conditio... (read in full...)
I'm feeling very scared and want to trust my husband but I don't
Q. Hi i have been talking to guy online for 2 years and i went to his country to meet him we got on great and after going to meet him 2nd time after few months we got marraid and im expecting his child but the problem is im still scared hes talking to ...
A. 2 March 2009: Ah, I think you come across as really nervous as you don't use sentences. My Bad.
I think you may just need some mild counselling, and to go out and find some friends of your own.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I am scared in case my b/f gets caught for using and selling pot, what do I do?
Q. I'm dating this guy. The other night he asked if I would be his girlfriend so were together officially lol. But this guy smokes pot and sells it too . Its totally got me shaken up just because I think that its dumb and if we were together I'd always ...
A. 1 March 2009: Hun, he might just change but not if you put up with it for more than 5 seconds.
Tell him that you think he's a really nice guy but would never want to be with a scum bag drug dealer, or a useless pot head.
Then tell him to give you a call ... (read in full...)
Is this diet safe?
Q. This is the new diet I want to try... One day eat 200 cals, the next 400, the next 600, and then 200 again and repeat the 3 day cycle over and over again. Also, to do half an hour of exercise 3 times a week. Will I lose weight by this and how much...
A. 1 March 2009: You asked this yesterday and we told you that you are an idiot for even thinking about it.
Did you think we'd be nicer about it second or third time round?
No, we get meaner.
IF YOU THINK THIS DIET WILL WORK, LET ALONE BE SAFE, THEN YOU ... (read in full...)
How far does the penis have to be in, in order to get pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex a couple of hours ago, (the worst idea we've ever had) but when he comed he didn't fully pull out but he wasn't anywhere near totally in, it was as he pulled out he did. What are the chances of becoming ...
A. 1 March 2009: Go to ANY chemist. You may have to pay for it but you chose not to pay for condoms so you get to lose £20. It's a lot cheaper than a baby.
Or go to ANY doctor, who can prescribe it. Or go to the hospital and there will be a clinic where you can ... (read in full...)
Bust aint catching up with the rest of me!!!
Q. Hey I've recently been losing weight and have lost over a stone already. The problem I have is that my breast size hasn't reduced at all (and I'm a ff cup anyway)! This means that the clothes I buy are too tight on the top and really baggy round th...
A. 1 March 2009: Have a look on you tube and look for exercises that tone your chest. The muscles under your boobs are called the pectoral muscles.
Then get on them and work out hard one day and then rest the next day. Your muscles have to break down and then gro... (read in full...)
I'm feeling very scared and want to trust my husband but I don't
Q. Hi i have been talking to guy online for 2 years and i went to his country to meet him we got on great and after going to meet him 2nd time after few months we got marraid and im expecting his child but the problem is im still scared hes talking to ...
A. 1 March 2009: Oh hun, you got married after 2 months??? It's no wonder you are having doubts.
It does sound like you have some kind of anxiety issues, since you really do sound like a nervous wreck when you type.
You say you can't trust anyone? Not your... (read in full...)
My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 26 February 2009: It could very well be that she is going through a hormonal change.
I think you need to get outside help on this one since it is a sudden change and it hasn't always been this way.
It could be she is at the very start of the change and some ... (read in full...)
My wife feels sex is nasty
Q. I am a happily married man, And have been for ten and a half years. When we first got married my wife and I had a great sex life. We have four kids and still love each other very much. My problem is that now my wife says that she feels sex is ...
A. 26 February 2009: It could very well be that she is going through a hormonal change.
I think you need to get outside help on this one since it is a sudden change and it hasn't always been this way.
It could be she is at the very start of the change and some ... (read in full...)
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