I'm 15, really like this 20 year old girl, will 5 years make a big difference??
Q. I'm 15 living in Nottingham and I'm in a really difficult situation that I don't know how to resolve. I went to a house party the other day at my best m8s house. Before I went it was kinda common knowledge that I liked his sister (even he knew) b...
A. 22 February 2009: Hun, if she has sex with you, then she is likely to be put on the sex offenders register. She is too old for you and I very much doubt she will want a relationship with you as you are still a child, no matter how "fit" you are.
As for the other gi... (read in full...)
Why do girls pretend they don't like to perform oral sex?
Q. why do girls pretend to not like performing oral sex , then you find out that they love it? whats up with that?...
A. 22 February 2009: I love the use of the word "THEY" as though this is all women everywhere.
I am assuming this is one girl, so just ask her!
It could be that she is worried that if she is too forward about enjoying it, men will think she is some kind of whore wh... (read in full...)
Dating a 50 year old woman, she says she's pregnant, another man may be involved, yeeks, what now?
Q. i was dating a 50 yrs old lady by the way iam 45,i knew she was seeing other men but now she told me she is pregnant i dont even know what to say iam pro life its just a mess...
A. 22 February 2009: I think you just have to back away from this one.
Tell her that you are prolife, and since you are then you must be prepared to raise the child if it turns out to be yours. You can't tell her she has to keep it but then not want to pay and be t... (read in full...)
I am seeing an older man, I wish I knew if it's just for sex or he wants a relationship?
Q. i need some advice. I am seeing an older man and i spend 1 night a week with him, i also work with him and no one knows. I really dont know where i stand with him and i feel that i will look a bit mental if i start asking questions- he tells me he ...
A. 22 February 2009: Well if you are ok either way then just ask him.
Do it AFTER sex, not before, and just ask him if this is just a sex thing.
Just be straight and cool with him. Tell him that you really want a relationship and that if he doesn't that it's fine a... (read in full...)
He is separated yet still married, what should I do?
Q. I met a man recently who is 14 years older than me.He is married,but has been separated from his wife for two years.He also has two children.He told me that he is still married because he's worried about upsetting his children if he gets ...
A. 22 February 2009: I have not been in that situation but the fact he was still married would be a BIG problem for me.
You are old enough now that age gaps start not to matter. It's not like you are 16 and he's 30.
I can understand that he doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
My friend's girlfriend threatens to harm herself if he leaves her, what can he do?
Q. My friend is in a bad bad situation. So im here to ask your advice that i can pass onto him because no matter how many times i tell him to come on here hes like... stubborn. lol Ill cut this down so its a long story short but i hope you understan...
A. 22 February 2009: He has to man up on this one.
He has to tell her that neither of them are happy any more in the relationship and that he thinks it should end.
If she threatens herself with harm then he should call her house and tell her mother that she's cut h... (read in full...)
I am very angry at my mother, can I have your advice?
Q. Hiya, i need some advice as at the moment, i am very angry at my mum. To cut a long story short, i have been with my fiance for nearly 4 years, and we plan to marry next November in a different country and hopefully plan to live in this cou...
A. 22 February 2009: We all wish that we could have that mum that listens to our problems and cares and has good advice, but unfortunately some of us don't get that.
My Mum would never openly critisize but then puts massive guilt trips on you. eg. "I do WISH you coul... (read in full...)
My manager doesn't want a girlfriend but flirts with me and texts, what shall I do?
Q. we both have been flirting with each other and we started doing stuff but stopped as he dont want a girlfriend yet but then we started having fun again and we are supposed to be friends and then we stopped it again and he stopped texting me and then...
A. 22 February 2009: Yes but the fact you are here still screams that you are enexperienced, out of your depth and desperately hoping that by having sex with him and flirting, that he will fall in love with you.
THIS NEVER HAPPENS. Have a read of the site and look at ... (read in full...)
She's muslim and she's lesbian AND she's unhappy because of the flack she gets off her family!
Q. I have a girlfriend. She is so special to me, she is my everything. We have been through so much together. I love her and she loves me. There is only one problem. She is a muslim, so it is frowned upon on her religeon to be a lesbian. Most ...
A. 22 February 2009: It's going to be very hard for her mother to realise that not only does her daughter have all the freedoms that she probably wanted but could never have, but that she will never have a grandchild.
If you look at it from her point of view then it ... (read in full...)
Irritated by my sister in law's behaviour!
Q. hi, i am a male of 26 yrs not married n my sister in law is 24 yrs. my sister in law is acting strange towards me. she is married to my elder brother. the problem is that she teases me very often which is embarrassing. the other day when i was goi...
A. 22 February 2009: I think you have given her all the power. She is doing things because she probably finds in funny and the fact you won't speak up about it means she is completely in control.
Just start exposing her in the form of little jokes, it doesn't have to ... (read in full...)
How do I know if it is me he wants?
Q. I met the love of my life in the summer of 2007, we got together pretty quickly and everyday has felt like I am the most special woman in the world. When we got to together, my partner told me he had seperated from his wife and they have a little ...
A. 22 February 2009: You are not being unreasonable. You need to sit him down and tell him that you need to know where you stand.
I know he probably thinks that by leading her on a bit he is keeping her onside so he can see his son but that is not true.
He has ... (read in full...)
We have equal shares in the apartment and he wants out, what can be done?
Q. My boyfriend keeps saying he wants to move out . We share an apartment and have equal share in it. I don't want to leave and he is demanding that I give him half of the security deposit or get out. Is there any way around this or any kind of time ...
A. 22 February 2009: Can't you both move out, get the security deposit back and split it?
Either that or if there is a second bedroom then together you need to find you a housemate who can take over your boyfriend's half of the rent / deposit etc.
If he wants t... (read in full...)
My manager doesn't want a girlfriend but flirts with me and texts, what shall I do?
Q. we both have been flirting with each other and we started doing stuff but stopped as he dont want a girlfriend yet but then we started having fun again and we are supposed to be friends and then we stopped it again and he stopped texting me and then...
A. 22 February 2009: He's flirting with you. It's a bit of fun.
You sound a little bit inexperienced with men so I can see how you would think that if he flirts then he must like you.
He has made his intentions clear. He doesn't want a girlfriend, he just wants so... (read in full...)
All my friends have boyfriends, I feel so unloved because I never had one!
Q. I feel so left out! All of my friends yes all of them have boyfriends and I don't and I've never had a boyfriend. It's never really bothered me before but it's really starting to affect my self esteem I feel that it has to be something physically ...
A. 22 February 2009: Ask your friends for man advice. They know you better than anyone. It could be that you get nervous around guys and send out massive "GO AWAY" signals with your body language.
Also, where are you going and what are you doing? Do you go out to p... (read in full...)
My b/f is stalking me?
Q. I have a problem guys and i need your help. I am with a lovely guy well I thought he was. anyway he seems to want to change me and stop me going out with the girls or any of my mates for that matter. If i do go out he appears from nowhere and...
A. 22 February 2009: Yep this guy has serious issues. He either can't trust you or just wants to control you.
Either way he's only going to get worse over time.
Any man who tries to stop you going out is NEVER a good man to be in a relationship with.
Tell hi... (read in full...)
36A breasts, how can I make them look sexier and womanly?
Q. Hello again everyone, i have a bit of a query. okays i have 36a breasts and i was wondering about ways to make them look sexier and more womanly, just to make me feel better about myself, i always thought they were huge when i was growing up but now ...
A. 22 February 2009: Lace is very in this season, get something with a bit of extra floof around the chest area.
Also, halterneck tops, I have big boobs and can't wear them without looking ridiculous, so I am very jealous of how great you are going to look in them.
... (read in full...)
My GF thinks I have the hots for this girl, but I don't!
Q. Hey, my girlfriend thinks I have the hots for a girl at our uni that I get on ok with and now I feel like she is being a bit rude to this girl who hasnt done anything wrong really. I can admit that we are both pretty comfortable around each othe...
A. 22 February 2009: Well I can see how your girlfriend must feel, you are being a little insensitive.
If she was feeling unwell why didn't you let your pal and this girl go and dance together? You could have sat with her for a while or got your pal to sit with her... (read in full...)
I'm deploying soon and need to be able to trust my wife and her bad drinking problem...
Q. Dear Cupid I am having marital problems. My wife loves to party. The problem is, she doesnt know when to stop or slow down drinking. Im always afraid she will pass out at the wrong party and god only knows what could happen to her. Im in the m...
A. 22 February 2009: The thing with alcoholics is that they have to hit rock bottom before they will realise they have a problem.
I would try and find another family to take care of your dog, and call up all the people you have bills with and see if they can put you ... (read in full...)
Got drunk, unprotected sex, now afraid of pregnancy!
Q. Umm ok... on the seventh of this month I got drunk and made a mistake with a guy. I had sex with him and we didn't use protection. Well... I was supposed to start my period like the next day after that or so but I didn't. I sort of have an irregular ...
A. 22 February 2009: Well I hope that you are not pregnant. Do you know about the morning after pill?
If you scream and shout at the therapist then you are not going to look any more sane. Shouting people always look mental.
Why not be calm and mature and expla... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he wants to take this further or not.
Q. I have known this guy for almost two months and have been on couple of dates. The thing is that I'm not sure if he wants to take this further or not.. A couple days ago we were texting and he said he didn't want to be kissing me if I wasn't his ...
A. 22 February 2009: Sounds like he was trying to come up with some excuse to split up with you so invented the reason of you being a game playing frigid woman, even though you clearly weren't in any way.
In any event you have learned that there are some mental p... (read in full...)
Should I meet with my ex?
Q. Got a bit of a dilemma. Kieran wants to meet with me. We started talking about 3 months ago having gone over a year with no contact. Now ordinarily I'd be pretty laid back about this kind of thing, but in the past 2 weeks he's broken up with h...
A. 22 February 2009: Quite honestly, there is a very good chance that he is coming back to you for rebound sex.
Guys often look to ex girlfriends for this kind of thing so be very very careful.
The fact you are here asking us says to me that you have doubts abou... (read in full...)
I love the man I have been with and I made a very big mistake...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for three years now. I am 21 weeks pregnant and we are both very excited. I was wondering, we had been having unprotected sex for a while and he had been ejaculating inside me. I finally got pregnant, but why ...
A. 21 February 2009: If you have unprotected sex then it's possible you can get pregnant. The withdrawal method is only 30% effective.
Your best bet is to stick with the conception dates.
Ask yourself why you cheated and get yourself checked for STDs.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
Could she just be an outgoing social person, or did she want to spend time with me in particular?
Q. Hi, I have a somewhat strange situation. I recently met a girl in one of my classes through a team mate of mine. The girl turned out to be very nice, and in the same major as me. Anyway, yesterday I got an email from her asking to meet so she could ...
A. 21 February 2009: Shockingly not all girls are shallow and manipulative.
It is entirely possible that she is a nice person and she was enjoying your chat and probably now sees you as a friend. I'm not a super model or anything but I'll chat to anyone as long as ... (read in full...)
My bipolar hubby is abusing me, how much longer should I tolerate this?
Q. my hubby has a lot of problems such as pstd,bipolar,aniexty,ocd... anyway he has had counseling for 2 years but not enough. and i been married for 5 years. he has hurt me, mentally,verbal abused me i want to know how much longer i should give him ...
A. 21 February 2009: If you have come to be sick of him and his behaviour then sell as much stuff as you can to pay off the bills in your name and get out of there.
It's worth having a bad credit rating if it means your children get to be raised in a safe home and... (read in full...)
The shop assistant caught my attention, what now?
Q. I was in a shop waiting to be served when this guy caught my eye, he was looking at me and smiled, i smiled back and flirted a little. He served me and seemed really nice, and interested in me i think. it may sound silly but i'd really like to see ...
A. 21 February 2009: Go in to the shop, smile flirt, subtley find out if he has a girlfriend... ("I hope I'm not going to get you in trouble with your girlfriend flirting like this....") and then if he doesn't have one then give him your number and then go.
If he... (read in full...)
I even dropped out of uni due to my fear of meeting new people, help me?
Q. Hi, I am a seemingly normal happy 19 year old male with a loving family and a lot of friends! However I have a huge problem on my hands. My question isn't laid out very clearly and I'm literally just writing as I think so sorry for structure is...
A. 21 February 2009: Sounds like you have some kind of anxiety disorder. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Some people just find modern life very difficult to deal with.
In fact people have probably always felt this way, but just suffered because they didn't understa... (read in full...)
Masturbation at a younger age?
Q. Is Masturbating at a young age 'good' for a girl?...
A. 21 February 2009: Well it's not "bad."
It's when she gets boys involved that the problems come.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about using viagra but concerned it may be dangerous?
Q. hi i'm a 26 year old man who was wondering would it be dangerous or silly to use viagra or a safe substitite.the reason i ask this is because sometimes during sex condoms make my erection a bit soft and i was thinking if i took viagra i wouldn't ...
A. 21 February 2009: You DON'T get viagra without going to the doctor. It's a PRESCRIPTION ONLY drug. That means it's exactly the same as trying to get hold of morphine: VERY illegal.
If you order it online using a credit card there is a good chance you'll get caug... (read in full...)
Got drunk, unprotected sex, now afraid of pregnancy!
Q. Umm ok... on the seventh of this month I got drunk and made a mistake with a guy. I had sex with him and we didn't use protection. Well... I was supposed to start my period like the next day after that or so but I didn't. I sort of have an irregular ...
A. 21 February 2009: The fact you are getting drunk and having sex with strange boys and risking disease and pregnancy says to me that you do have problems, considering you are so so young.
You can't be selfish just because you "don't want to get in trouble.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about using viagra but concerned it may be dangerous?
Q. hi i'm a 26 year old man who was wondering would it be dangerous or silly to use viagra or a safe substitite.the reason i ask this is because sometimes during sex condoms make my erection a bit soft and i was thinking if i took viagra i wouldn't ...
A. 21 February 2009: Viagra is a prescription drug that seriously affects your heart. It was invented as a heart medicine.
Also, because it is prescription drug it will be illegal for you to get it without a doctor giving it to you. If you buy it on line then more tha... (read in full...)
Boyfriend nightmares
Q. Hi I have a problem - I have a long term boyfriend who used to treat me really badly and he used to make me do things I didn't want to do - and this has affected our relationship, as I don't feel like I can ask him for anything or approach him for ...
A. 21 February 2009: Well your first mistake is staying with a man who treats you badly and forces you to do things.
By staying with me, you have laid down in front of the door and written WELCOME across your forehead. Now you are here asking us why he's treating... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 21 February 2009: You hit it right on the head, just try and relax and be yourself, go with the flow.
If you ask her out then it's best if you pay. It's one of those traditions that has not faded unfortunately for you
Just be a gent and let her get to see your ... (read in full...)
Can anyone understand why my b/f makes such loud strange noises?
Q. I have tried to understand and am at a loss. Please help me if you can add any insight. My boyfriend is a wonderful person and seems very loving and compassionate. But... Sometimes he scares me. He will vocalize very loud at strange times. Such as ...
A. 21 February 2009: To be honest, we all make noises like that. It sounds like he is comfortable around you and is just relaxed and being himself.
Saying ow, when hurt, or making noise when you read an email from a friend is NORMAL.
If you have trouble reading ... (read in full...)
How do I let a guy know I like him?
Q. How do I let a guy know I like him? What do I do?...
A. 21 February 2009: Ask him out on a date.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How can you be friends with benefits, but not be in a serious relationship?
Q. umm..how can u get ur friend be friends with benefits with u.with out doing a serious relationship like going slow.and flirt with them...
A. 21 February 2009: Well just try kissing him one night when you are both drunk.
Whatever his reaction, just tell him that you know you will only ever be friends, and that you don't want him to EVER be your boyfriend but you would be up for a bit of harmless fun on t... (read in full...)
He looks a lot older than me and my family is overprotective, help!
Q. i have a boyfriend that i really like, and that i really want to keep seeing, he cares about me and my opinion, but my dad and older over protective brother have seen him and think he looks alot older than me, but ive told them that his 16 years old ...
A. 21 February 2009: You say you have told them he's a month younger than you.... but you don't say he actually is.
The simplest way to solve this is just to show them some of his ID and talk about all the school classes you have together.
He could also have a man ... (read in full...)
My GF wants to go to the prom, but I don't... what's a good alternative?
Q. i am a senior dating a sophmore. prom is coming up and she seems interested in going but i really don't want to. i've been to a few dances and just didn't like it at all. so i would rather offer up an alternative. how do you think she'll take it and ...
A. 21 February 2009: Prom is very important to girls and if you basically say she can't go because she'll be the one who's boyfriend doesn't even care enough about her to put up with 3 hours of something he doesn't enjoy... she's going to be gutted.
Either.
Stop... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suddenly stopped talking with me a month ago
Q. Well it was almost a month since my boyfriend stopped talking to me. We didn't get in a fight or anything; we was supposed to go out and we was talking as normal and we didnt follow up to our plans because something happened with his car. So the ...
A. 21 February 2009: What a fruit cake!
File a missing persons report and when the police go knocking on his door to check if he's ok and hasn't got temporary amnesia / been kidnapped by terrorists, then he might be adult enough to pick up the phone.
If he is just... (read in full...)
I have spots on my penis!
Q. Hello, I'm 15, I'm a virgin and I have these spots on my penis where they were only at the bottom but now all over. They are the same colour as my normal skin. I don't think they are genital warts. They aren't huge. But I haven't had sex yet so I ...
A. 21 February 2009: My hubbie is a medic and says "does it look like th last chicken in Tescos?"
If so they are harmless little hair folicles, it's probably your body sprouting pubes.
If you are still worried you can go to the doc. He sees these things EVERY day... (read in full...)
Will I lose weight on this diet?
Q. I have started a new diet where I eat nothing the except food supplements 'echinacea' and exercise 3 hours a day on my treadmill at 6.5 km per hour. I have been on it for two days now and feel fine though I was just wondering whether this would lose ...
A. 21 February 2009: No you won't lose weight. Your body will think you must be facing a period of starvation and will cling to every bit of fat that it has. When you do start fainting and smash your face up on the treadmill (boys love a broken nose!) and have a nice ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 21 February 2009: Yey!
Jut remember what I said about asking questions if you get nervous.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 13 February 2009: Yey!
Well done, I hope you get the reply you want.
She may have noticed that it is Valentines and be waiting till after the weekend to reply to avoid that whole day being an issue.
I hope she does get back to you though.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 11 February 2009: Hun, you've already been on a date. You took her for coffee. You said yourself that there were nerves and tension on both sides - i.e. it wasn't just meeting as a friend, it was something more.
Just call her, take the bull by the horns, take a d... (read in full...)
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