I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 21 February 2009: You hit it right on the head, just try and relax and be yourself, go with the flow.
If you ask her out then it's best if you pay. It's one of those traditions that has not faded unfortunately for you
Just be a gent and let her get to see your ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 21 February 2009: Yey!
Jut remember what I said about asking questions if you get nervous.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 13 February 2009: Yey!
Well done, I hope you get the reply you want.
She may have noticed that it is Valentines and be waiting till after the weekend to reply to avoid that whole day being an issue.
I hope she does get back to you though.
Good Luck!! x... (read in full...)
My fiance lies to me about watching porn!
Q. I have wrote on here before about my fiance being really into porn. we broke up twice over it last night was the third time! He don't have the internet on his phone no more cause he said he took it off so I could stop thinking he was doing it! So ...
A. 12 February 2009: It sounds like he actually has a problem here rather than just likes it.
He's lying about this a lot, and he's risking his job.
You say you have broken up last night and I think you did the right thing. Stay broken up with him and leave him to... (read in full...)
He acts like he is embarrased to be seen in public with me!
Q. Ok so Iam just so lost and confused I am in love with a man 10 yrs my senior. he has a very stessful job and refuses to talk to me about anything he refuses to go anywhere or do anything but sit in the house and play on his commputer. He knows th...
A. 12 February 2009: You went to a "professional" who said you should be glad he doesn't slap you?
A professional what?????
Any man who says that you should be GRATEFUL that you are not getting beaten up is either living in a very backward third world country or... (read in full...)
He said he'll change but will he really? SHOULD he really?
Q. Okay so here's the deal, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and it's online but we were pretty much inseperable. I know I love him but when I finally went to see him in person I realized some things. I realized what I really want in a ...
A. 12 February 2009: It's young love. He's never experienced it before so he will think that connection you have is the only one he'll ever feel.
I don't think a break will help at all. He'll just be hurt for longer as you'll be dragging it out.
Tell him you ... (read in full...)
Should we try again with some councelling or am I kidding myself that this would ever work?
Q. My husband and I seperated 6 months ago after I found out he had been having an affair for 3 years. He had stopped the affair but when he lost his business and the pressure of a new baby and my father dying he started it again to "escape". He has ...
A. 12 February 2009: Put a time limit on it.
Try with everything you have to fix your marriage till Christmas, or 6 months time.
This is going to be a hard one to do but there is no harm in giving it a go for a little while as long as you are realistic.
If... (read in full...)
He said he'll change but will he really? SHOULD he really?
Q. Okay so here's the deal, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year, and it's online but we were pretty much inseperable. I know I love him but when I finally went to see him in person I realized some things. I realized what I really want in a ...
A. 12 February 2009: That's the thing with online relationships. You very rarely get to see the person as a whole - only the bits they chose to show you. So annoying habits etc will only ever show up when you meet them.
If you have found you don't like him now you'... (read in full...)
He's accusing me of cheating and I would NEVER do that!
Q. My boyfriend of one year has been accusing me of cheating on him on a daily basis (this is not an exaggeration, no matter how badly I wish it was). As of lately, it has felt as though there is some chemical switch in my brain that causes me to ...
A. 12 February 2009: Your thoughts are normal because they are a response to his actions.
His actions are not normal and they are pretty much torturing you so it's no wonder you are freaking out.
Ask him why he is so paranoid? Is he taking drugs? Is it part of a ... (read in full...)
How can I throw him out of my life?
Q. My emotional affair ended with the married man! I miss that time and very upset..need counselling? i m 27 and had an emotional affair with a married man with 2 kids for the last 1year. i trapped in his emotional talks . initially i never beleive ...
A. 12 February 2009: You need to change jobs hun. You need to get away from him.
Once you have some distance you will find it easier.
It is clear that he didn't want to be with you if you weren't going to have sex with him. That is not love.
Try hard to be ... (read in full...)
Should we keep this as just a fantasy?
Q. My husband and I have a fantasy we want to act out. I want him to go out and sleep with another woman and then come home and talk dirty to me about it. Should we do it or keep it fantasy?...
A. 12 February 2009: I think it's too risky. If you were 100% ok with it then you wouldn't be here so you must have doubts.
Why not just get him to go out with his mates for a boys night and then come home and make up a load of stuff about how he met some girl in ... (read in full...)
Cold and heartless
Q. I left a message telling my ex that my mother died of cancer after we broke up. She never replied to say anything that might show any sympathy or compassion. Can someone be so heartless???...
A. 12 February 2009: She may care about your mother and I am sure she is very sad about it but she is your ex for a reason.
I take it you two are not friends any more and if not then why would you want her rushing to give you kind words? Why would she want to come and... (read in full...)
Is she trying to tell me to leave her alone?
Q. Hello, I have been dating a girl nearly a year. We both went off to college this fall. While our relationship has suffered somewhat, we did go on some dates when we could (and were both back home). I last had contact with her on Jan 26, when she...
A. 12 February 2009: You just have to keep trying... Keep calling her from different people's phones to see if she answers when it is not your number and ask her what's going on.
If you still can't get in contact then send an email saying that you take it you have bee... (read in full...)
My husband is mentally abusive and I just don't know what to do anymore!
Q. I have been on here before looking for advise about my mentally abusive husband. I will not list all of the horrific details again, even if I had the strenght to go through it one more time, I just don't have the will. This has been going on for ...
A. 11 February 2009: Great news!
I am glad you could do it and I hope the future for you is looking brighter.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get through to him that I am leaving!
Q. I recently caught my boyfriend in the act of watching porn. And, confronted him about it, he denied it. Even though I do have proof, he asked what the proof was deleted it and said I was a liar. I just can't seem to get it through to him that I am ...
A. 11 February 2009: Just go... he'll realise you were serious once he comes home and all your stuff is gone.
If he admits to it that won't change anything and won't stop him from doing it again so just go.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Do men appreciate valentine's cards or is it just women?
Q. Do men like valentine's cards or is it a bit tacky?...
A. 11 February 2009: I think anyone would like to get a card telling them someone likes them.
Depends on the bloke though.
Send it anonymously and then nothing bad can happen.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
My b/f ignores me & flirts with other girls
Q. I am going to make this quick because I cba to type the full story. Ma bf and me been out since the begining of October. He had myspace b4 I did and on his b-day in November I was the first one to say happy birthday literally as soon as it hit ...
A. 11 February 2009: Sounds like he doesn't want to be with you but he's to immature and stupid to actually say that to you so he's just hoping that you'll be the man and end it for him.
Tell him it's over as you just don't get the feeling he wants to be with you any ... (read in full...)
What is the coolest, easiest way to make friends in a small town?
Q. I'm getting fed-up. I'm trying to widen my friendship circle and its hard. I'm 25 and live in a small town. I have a lot of friends but I feel we are growing apart slightly and I want to make new friends. Because I live in a small town I know alot ...
A. 11 February 2009: Ah facebook. I got a lot of people from school trying to add me and I really don't know why since we weren't friends at the time.
Have a facebook cull and delete people who are just there for the sake of it but you wouldn't go over and chat to ... (read in full...)
I like him a little too much to just forget about him, but I need to, please give me suggestions?
Q. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with my last boyfriend. He constantly called me fat and treated me like crap. I was scared to break up with him because he had horrible anger problems; and since he knew where i lived i thought he'd hurt ...
A. 11 February 2009: Why can't you get back with him?
I don't really understand why you were being "unofficial" when you blatantly were girlfriend and boyfriend.
I also don't understand why it ended.
Just talk to him openly and ask him what he wants. If he wan... (read in full...)
Why did it hit me so hard to discover wife had slept with ex again before we really hooked up?
Q. I've been with my wife for about three years. We were married about 6 months ago. When I first met her she had come to the tail end of a relationship with a guy that she had dated for about two years but had never committed to her. I was attracted ...
A. 11 February 2009: In my mind, my husband has never really had sex with another girl. The idea of him being as intimate with someone else as he has been with me is just horrible.
Of course I know he has had girlfriends and one night stands and all kinds of things, ... (read in full...)
Should I just stand back and let her carry on?
Q. well im not really sure what i sohould do about my freind, we have been best freinds for 9 years now. me my family and my boyfriend have been so good to her over the years. me and my boyfreind put a roof over her head when she didnt have know where ...
A. 11 February 2009: This poor girl hasn't had a great life by the sounds of it so it's no wonder she is vulnerable to guys who want to use her and control her.
All you can do is let her know that you know something is not right with her and that you will be there if... (read in full...)
Flirting advice needed!
Q. Ok heres the deal i came out of a long term relationship back in september last year. Im finding it really hard to flirt again, im not sure what to say, ask or do... Any advice on flirting would be a great help, iv met this girl got her number a...
A. 11 February 2009: The first think you need to do is chill out and be yourself. Forced flirting is just NOT good.
Just chat to a girl, but throw the odd compliment in there. Raise an eye brow, smile in THAT way.
90% of flirting is body language so just relax an... (read in full...)
What I could do to make it up to him?
Q. in year 7 i asked this guy out and it went horribly wrong...i knew that he didnt fancy me...anyway i didnt really talk for like ages and then we were talking again (we werent properly going out cause i didnt want anyone thinking i was desperate to ...
A. 11 February 2009: It was 2 years ago.
If you still fancied him then he wouldn't be your friend as he would be able to tell and you would be all jealous about his girlfriends etc.
It sounds like you are over him now and that is great that you are just friends.
... (read in full...)
We have been dating for the past weeks but I don't feel attracted to him, what should I say?
Q. I recently started going out with a guy who I have known for a few years and who has always been a great friend of mine. A few weeks ago, he asked me out, and it sounded like a good idea to me becuase I have always really liked him. As we have been ...
A. 11 February 2009: Oh this is a horrible situation.
You are going to hurt him as he must like you as more than a friend to have asked you out.
You just have to bite the bullet and do it. The longer you leave it the harder it will be for both of you.
Wait til... (read in full...)
Sometimes his negativity is hard to deal with
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little past 2 months and I'm definite I'm satisfied. Sometimes though his negativity is hard to deal with since he always claims that I am "too good" for him which I don't believe and I constantly mention ...
A. 11 February 2009: Sounds like he has a touch of very mild depression. The first symptom of which is just this incredibly sure feeling that you are utterly rubbish and useless and people would be better off with out you.
It's pretty common at your age as your hor... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer blondes over brunettes?
Q. do most guys perfer a pretty blonde to a brunette. any guy i have known always went for the blondes heavy or thin. do guys not like brunette are we not good enough or pretty enough like the blondes...
A. 11 February 2009: Yes, buy a wedding magazine and you will see that no brunette girl has ever had so much as a boyfriend. In fact we all die virgins.
Just look at Angelina Jolie. She's brunette and no man on earth would want to be with her..... oh, hang on, wait... (read in full...)
He acts like he is embarrased to be seen in public with me!
Q. Ok so Iam just so lost and confused I am in love with a man 10 yrs my senior. he has a very stessful job and refuses to talk to me about anything he refuses to go anywhere or do anything but sit in the house and play on his commputer. He knows th...
A. 11 February 2009: You say that you 41 - 50, so I doubt it's that he doesn't want to be sneered at for having a girl on his arm who is too young. At your age, a 10 year gap is not that much any more. (That sounds nasty and I don't mean to say that you are old, just ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to be single forever?
Q. Am I destined to be alone forever? I am almost 20 years old and have never had a stable relationship. My longest was about 6 months on and off with a player type guy. The players seem to be attracted to me and vice versa but I only kiss them (at...
A. 11 February 2009: You've been an adult for 2 whole years and you've not found your perfect guy.........
Yeah. You know that you are just feeling sorry for yourself.
Of course there is a bloke out there for you who is attractive and funny and will treat you l... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out but have never been on a date before. Advice?
Q. Sometime before Christmas (11th December)I attened an informal meal and get together hosted by one of my friends. Anyway, I started talking to this girl while I was there. She left quite early, but in the time we did talk we got along ok. So I t...
A. 11 February 2009: Hun, you've already been on a date. You took her for coffee. You said yourself that there were nerves and tension on both sides - i.e. it wasn't just meeting as a friend, it was something more.
Just call her, take the bull by the horns, take a d... (read in full...)
Bipolar boyfriend I need help!
Q. Hello all Agony Aunts, I once again need your advice, and thank you in advance for taking the time to read my question. I think I may be in love, I've been friends with him for 4 years, we've been friends with benefits for a year, because he is af...
A. 11 February 2009: Bi-Polar disease is an absolute killer to any relationship.
You've seen the worst of him and when he's fixed you'll know that you'll hardly ever see the best of him as he'll mostly be somewhere in the middle.
The thing is that you need to get ... (read in full...)
What signals to guys give when they like a girl?
Q. Hi, How do you know if a guy likes a girl? Hey guys what signals do you give to girls? Thank you...
A. 11 February 2009: They stare at you, they talk to you, they ask you out, they kiss you.
Normally when you are chatting then you can pick up some kind of tension there.
Also check his pupils. If they dilate (the black bits get bigger) when he looks at you the... (read in full...)
What to get a guy when for V-day when you just started seeing him?
Q. What do you get a man for valentines day - whom you have only just started seeing? We have liked each other for a long while, however it has only become more within the past two weeks. Would really appreciate your suggestions!! ...
A. 11 February 2009: If it's only 2 weeks in then going overboard may freak him out. Don't spend too much on an object.
It depends very much on the nature of you and him.
Would he be happy with more a little token object that's sweet and silly? This is ideal if... (read in full...)
My wife is leaving me because I cheated
Q. My Wife of 2 1/2 years is leaving me because i was unfaithful on more than one occasion. I realized I messed up and want to fix it, but she just keeps saying no. no matter how much i beg and plead that ive changed and will get better, she doesn't ...
A. 11 February 2009: I very much doubt you have a chance to be honest.
Right now she is very angry at you, as anyone would be, you have also shown her that you are not the man she thought you were and that is going to be the hardest thing to fix.
As you have d... (read in full...)
I quit smoking but have put on 2 stone! HELP!
Q. hi i have put on 2 stone since packing up smoking i am now 16 stone i feel out of breath all the time my clothes dont fit and i might have dibetas now the nurse said. can you please help me all i want to do is eat cause i am not smoking june i ...
A. 11 February 2009: Just make sure you have something to eat with you at all time that is healthy. Chopped carrots, fruit salads, celery, sounds boring but it really is just the comfort action of eating you need, not the food itself.
As well as that the key thing is... (read in full...)
Fooled around with a married man what do I do?
Q. There's this really cute guy at my work that we flirt with each other a lot. Anyway we made out and did others things at his place. To a very long story short I found out hes married and of course he didn't tell me and I completely regart it. Does ...
A. 11 February 2009: Plexi had it perfectly right.
You sound like you've worked very hard to make a go of yourself rather than just saying "oops I'm pregnant, well that's my life over!"
And you've probably had to work so hard on making a living, getting a decent... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me and has done nothing to get my trust back, help me!
Q. People think I am doing great because of what I portray for people to see. It is really hard to leave personal issues at the door when it affects my family. I still love my kids dad despite the horrible things he have done to and upon me. We've wo...
A. 11 February 2009: I always think that it is a privelege for a man to be with a woman, not a right.
You are going to get a lot of advice here saying OMG DUMP HIM!!
To be honest I really think that being chucked out may be what he needs. It doesn't sound li... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't like me but in fact I think he does?
Q. okay like i seriously like this guy he is so perfect and i have cared about him for years now!!!!!!!! he is sooo mean to me though he acts like im not important and his friends treat me like crap. he is always watching me and smiling and acting l...
A. 10 February 2009: Well what do you want me to say?
That if you keep letting him perv on you / keep wasting money on gifts for him / keep following him round looking desperate, that he will eventually respect you and want to be with you?????
It doesn't work lik... (read in full...)
Is this fat?
Q. i am 9 and a half stone, 5 ft 4, and have size G boobs. Is this fat?...
A. 10 February 2009: Here is a link to a BMI calculator:
http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx?r=1&rtitle=Interactive+tools+-+BMI+tool
Go and fill it in and read the site and it will tell you what you want to know.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I discovered the man I date does porn for a living! Should I confront him?
Q. I have a really big delma that i can only ask you guys about. Ok, so I've been dating this guy for 5 months and i just learned from searching him up on google, that he does porn for a living. I he's really nice around me and consideret i mean he ...
A. 10 February 2009: If I worked in porn it wouldn't be the first thing I talked about with my new partners as it would scare them off!
Just start asking him about what he does for a living in detail and he may "come out" to you once he thinks he can trust you.
... (read in full...)
What do you do when your bf chats to girls on sex sites?
Q. What do you do when you find out the boyfriend you have had for a year is using sex sites to chat to girls everyday...
A. 10 February 2009: You kick him out so hard he doesn't even feel the computer monitor landing on his head afterwards.
If he wants you back he can beg and plead and you can decide if you want to forgive him or not.
If he doesn't come back on hands and knees then y... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea in order to miss school one day?
Q. whats the best way to make yourself feel unwell the next day, for example, if you need a day off school?x...
A. 10 February 2009: You sort out your problem at school so you can go. Then you don't have to do anything stupid to fake illnesses.
Or you could lick a toilet in the boys room and that will make you feel ill, and probably poo none stop for the next 48 hours.
... (read in full...)
How to work out my differences with my boyfriend?
Q. hi everyone.. i have an issue, thought i should get some opinions on it to help clear my head a bit. i'm 18, i've been with my guy for just over a year now. seems young but im sure that im in love with him, he really does mean the world to me. howe...
A. 10 February 2009: You are right that this can be a deal breaker, and although you love him, you may just have to accept that he is not the one for you long term.
It's up to you whether you stay with him for now or whether you'd rather not be with someone just as ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always has to masturbate before sex!
Q. My girlfriend that I have been with for about 2 years has recently started masturbating before we have sex. I find it completely odd. This is how it usually plays out... I start doing stuff with her and getting "fresh" haha but after we start ...
A. 10 February 2009: You say you have brought this up before and nothing has changed but since you are happy to have sex with her after she is done, she may not think you are seriously upset.
So you may have to show her. Next time you start and she starts doing th... (read in full...)
I distrust my husband with his work colleague as they flirted before, what can I do?
Q. Hi, I found my husband had been flirty texting a work colleague from another office while we were going through a bad patch which is now truly resolved. He was full of remorse and promised he told her it had to stop and has proved with his mobile p...
A. 10 February 2009: That sounds like the type of email that he would send to lots of people, not just her. Are you sure it was just to her?
The fact she hasn't responded says to me that she is keeping her distance and is no longer interested.
I think there come... (read in full...)
My husband is mentally abusive and I just don't know what to do anymore!
Q. I have been on here before looking for advise about my mentally abusive husband. I will not list all of the horrific details again, even if I had the strenght to go through it one more time, I just don't have the will. This has been going on for ...
A. 4 February 2009: You must have some relative, friend. or someone you could go to with some kind of spare room. It doesn't matter if they are far away, sell your jewellery if you have to.
Get the kids, get on a bus / train / plane and go.
You cannot stay wher... (read in full...)
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