Are we ready?
Q. okay here goes I'm 18 years old and will be 19 in june. I have been with my partner for over a year, we have been living together for 10 months and we adore each other. We both have stable jobs and have the option to overtime if we wanted. e...
A. 14 February 2010: This update made my day.
Have a great holiday and tonight when you are having a big glass of wine, take a moment to consider how you've not had to get poo on your hands, and how nice and quiet it is in your nice house.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why is she still contacting me after 3 years??
Q. I was interested in this girl three years ago. It appeared to be mutual; she was very flirtatious. In fact she lead me on and went out with another guy and has been with him ever since. That's fine BUT SHE KEEPS GETTING IN CONTACT WITH ME!...
A. 23 March 2009: I'm glad you don't want her back. That makes this much easier. I know you hinted at this in your original question, but we get so many people who come here and then get upset because "I stil LUV HIM!!"
I can also understand that you don't want to ... (read in full...)
Bleeding alot, different than usual..anyone know what it could be?
Q. Firstly, can I ask that nobody judges me or comments on what I am about to say. I'm asking for advice on my problem, not my method of contraception. I've been having regular unprotected sex with my boyfriend for about 2 months. About 3 weeks ag...
A. 22 March 2009: Call NHS Direct. They should be able to advise you if it was pregnancy and miscarriage or anything like that.
Or call a different doctor.
Since you are choosing to risk pregnancy, and pregnancy is a dangerous and messy process then it could be... (read in full...)
We want slightly different things from life
Q. Hi there, I'm looking for some advice on my current situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. However, we've recently realised that we want slightly different things from life. Neither of us wants kids or marriage b...
A. 22 March 2009: Can't you compromise?
Go travelling together for a year and see the far east or Europe or somewhere, and then come back, establish yourselves and move in.
He may well be adventurous but that doesn't stop him from moving in and then going off e... (read in full...)
Has he got some sort of double personality?
Q. Dear Friends, I am really interested in hearing your opinion in relation to this; I have been with my ex boyfriend for almost 3 years. He always looked serious and he wanted me to dress concentionally ( classic outfits) and he was always critical ...
A. 22 March 2009: It could be that he wants to be with a respectable girlfriend that he can make love to in a conservative missionary position....
But that sexually he wants a disposable "slutty" girl that he can do what he wants to.
Some guys cannot accept th... (read in full...)
After all this time I still don't know if he loves me
Q. I've been i a relationship for 6and a half years now and i still don't know if this man loves me. We have a family now i have 2sons he has 2sons and a 4 month old together.He never tell me he love on his own its always when i say i love you then he ...
A. 22 March 2009: He's not changing but you are not willing to leave as you love him too much.... but you are willing to cheat?
That doesn't make sense at all.
I think the reason you can't leave is because you are scared. You are scared of being alone after 6 or... (read in full...)
I screwed up and they are all fine without me!
Q. 14 yrs we were together, she was the nicest most caring person you could meet, so why...why would i ruin it all,, i have/had 3 gorgeous children as well to make the perfect relationship,,,, so i had an affair with some blonde bimbo who i fell for!! ...
A. 22 March 2009: To be honest, I think you are very sorry that you got caught, but I don't quite think you are sorry for what you did.
It's not enough to say "I don't know why I did it" for 16 MONTHS!
You can't punch someone in the face and then say "sorry,... (read in full...)
I'm a monk serving everyone but me
Q. I married my wife 17 years ago. She became pregnant we were in grad. school. We've built the trappings of an amazing life...a son, careers, great house, pets, and so on. We are supportive of each other...we are great friends...but...there is very ...
A. 22 March 2009: I think in this situation, you are damned if you do and you are damned if you don't.
If you stay you will be miserable but loved, and if you leave then you will be hated and I don't think you could stand that (especially from your son) and you'... (read in full...)
My gut instinct is that he is no longer interested in me
Q. I have been with my 35 yr old boyfriend in a LDR for just over 18 months. Things started off amazing. He was really into me, and proudly introduced me to all his family and after 6 months he started mentioning moving in together. I felt it was ...
A. 22 March 2009: There is no telling what is going on in his head. Any of the things you have suggested are possible.
Either way, you have tried talking to him about it, you have tried saying that you feel like he doesn't want you... and it seems like nothing ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new g/f but still talks sex to me!
Q. Hi everyone at cupid, Ive got a question, my ex and i split in november he got rid of me for his ex that never worked out in the end, anyway we was still having sex together untill 17th jan when he got his new gf, anyway, we stayed friends but had ...
A. 22 March 2009: He does this because he's a horrible bit of work, and he's keeping you on as plan B.
He knows he can talk to you in this disrespectful way and treat you like a prostitute and you'll be there and take it and not cause trouble.
If you lie on... (read in full...)
Should a good boyfriend accept you for the way you look?
Q. In your opinion, a good boyfriend that really loves you should accept you for the way you look? Even if you feel fat or ugly? ...
A. 22 March 2009: Well if he's your boyfriend, then surely this is already your answer....
He wouldn't be your boyfriend if he wasn't attracted to you.
If he's got with you and then is telling you that you are ugly then that's abuse and bullying and you should d... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant from anal sex?
Q. Can you get pregnant from anal sex? Just wanted to know...
A. 22 March 2009: Well technically yes you can. But more generally no.
Go and look up a chart of your digestive tract.
If you are having anal sex then he is sticking it up where your poo comes from. There is no way that sperm can get from there into your vagina... (read in full...)
How easily can women change their attitude towards you so drastically after you have popped the big question?
Q. Hello. Here's a little question for you. Is it possible that an experienced woman in her early thirties might develop a crush on a guy, but realise that this is a crush and therefore try and focus her energies elsewhere so as to forge a relationship ...
A. 22 March 2009: Well I think you are being a bit vague about exactly what question you popped and what you said.
No it's not normal to need calming down unless you said "We've been a flirting a while now, if you don't marry me and have my children I'm going to... (read in full...)
My friends and boyfriend don't care
Q. i went out to a town centre that i havent been to before with my friends and my boyfriend and they abandoned me. i sat down and got out my phone and when i looked up again they were gone. i walked around for an hour no clue were i was going and i ra...
A. 22 March 2009: Dump your boyfriend and find some new friends to hang out with.
If he doesn't put you above what his friend's want then he doesn't care much about you.
As for your friends, just start hanging out with some other people.
It was cruel of them ... (read in full...)
Does it mean anything if he calls me baby?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks but he still hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend. We act like a couple and he calls me baby all the time. I asked what exactly our relationship was and he said that he didnt know but he likes me and likes ...
A. 22 March 2009: Hi Hun, I call everyone hun and sweetheart.
I think you are clinging at straws here.
Set yourself a time limit for him. You have to only have a limit of patience or you are just getting messed about.
If you give him another week and then as... (read in full...)
I've called the wedding off because of his ex! Help me, I'm going insane!
Q. I'll start by telling you that I was meant to marry him on Thursday! All this happened the day before. We're both students and he lives in university halls. We have known each other for 3 nearly four years and been dating for 2 years. Now so...
A. 22 March 2009: I'm sorry hun, but it sounds like he has led you on here for the romance of it but was always going to go back to her.
If I caught my boyfriend with his ex naked on a bed and then HE DARED so that HE was with his family and wanted to be alone as... (read in full...)
Can I walk up and say "I've been thinking of you"?
Q. I'm in love with an older guy I never met. (I'm 18, which is the age of consent so there are no legal issues to my knowledge.) I've talked to him a few times, but only passing comments, if that makes sense. I think he might like me too but I have no ...
A. 22 March 2009: Try "Hi, How's it going? We've never really been introduced, I'm Emily."
Take it from there.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why does he text but never follows through?
Q. I had this guy come on to me and flirt a lot. I told him we could start off as friends and he wanted to see each other. I agreed and saw each other once. We were suppose to see each other again but he kept saying he was to busy and we only ...
A. 22 March 2009: Sounds like he just wanted someone to flirt with and hasn't got the balls to go through with anything else.
This could be
a) because he's shy and just wanted a text buddy
or
b) because he's married!
Either way, I have a very short patience w... (read in full...)
How can I make him emotionally attracted to me?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a couple weeks now. It has been fun and all but I feel that he is only physically attracted to me and not so much emotionally. He wants to get physical a lot and says that he is always horny when Im around lol I know ...
A. 22 March 2009: Unfortunately, you can like his as much as you want but:
a) he is distant and doesn't talk to you
b) you don't feel a connection
c) he won't even be your boyfriend!!
You aren't exactly asking for marriage here, you just want a boyfriend an... (read in full...)
Doggy style...did I lose my virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I, are/were both virgins. I'm 13 and He's 15. We did "doggy style" tonight for the very first time, No protection was used. So did I actually..lose my virginity? That's the thing I'm confused about....
A. 22 March 2009: Ok, so your parents don't want you to be safe and haven't told you where babies come from....
YOU HAD UNPROTECTED SEX.
This means that yes, you have lost your virginity at 13, well done, and also you may now be pregnant.
Go and ... (read in full...)
Anyone knows the dating age difference in France?
Q. what are the dateing age diffrences in france? i might be headed there this summer. i thought maybe you could tell me just how big the age diffrences are between men and women there? ...
A. 22 March 2009: Sorry hun, but if you are asking if you can get away with finding a hot 14 year old then you are out of luck.
If you want to go and hook up with a very young girl then try Thailand, but as Gary Glitter found out, they do tend to put you in Priso... (read in full...)
What can I do to get on the better side of her parents so that I can date her?
Q. I thought nothing could go wrong, she was really all over me, she liked me as much as I liked her, then when I go to ask her out, I get told indirectly as soon as I walk in the door that she doesn't think it will work out because of the age gap and ...
A. 21 March 2009: Well that's the idea!
He has to know that you are scared of him so you'll treat his daughter right and never try and have any kind of sex with her.
You could talk to her, but she might be freaked out by the idea.
I's just go for it but then ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get on the better side of her parents so that I can date her?
Q. I thought nothing could go wrong, she was really all over me, she liked me as much as I liked her, then when I go to ask her out, I get told indirectly as soon as I walk in the door that she doesn't think it will work out because of the age gap and ...
A. 21 March 2009: I think you'll have to do this the old old school way.
Pop round and ask her dad for permission to take her out on a date.
Be super respectful and acknowledge the fact that he can break you and bury your broken body somewhere in the woods.
... (read in full...)
Belly button hair, and I hate it!
Q. Hi, I'm an 18 year old girl, and I have belly hair! Thankfully it's pale, but it's still noticeable when you look. I know it shouldn't really matter but I've never seen it on other girls and my ex pointed it out once which has made things even ...
A. 21 March 2009: You've never seen it on other girls because it's completely not noticeable.
I really worried last week because I realised I wore the same pair of jeans in to work for 3 days.
Then I realised that I couldn't recall what any of the other girls ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's just scared and will come back?
Q. Hi, I'm 4 months pregnant with my ex's baby we had been together 4 years and this was planned. We started going through a rocky period recently, during this time my ex slept with someone else and ended up finishing with me for her. I got in touch ...
A. 21 March 2009: I wholeheartedly agree with the anonymous person below!
Not much more I can add really.
Except to make sure you have his address, call him and ask for it (plus date of birth nat insurance number etc) and tell him you need it to go to the CSA, a... (read in full...)
My sister has told me to get rid of my boyfriend and called him a scumbag!
Q. Here goes, I'm 22 years old and have been in an on off relationship for a year and half. My boyfriend is ten years older and has a child, none of this bothers me but I have not yet told my parents about him because they come from a well to do ...
A. 21 March 2009: Gosh, if that one comment from your sister has stopped you from sleeping and eating, then you are either a nervous wreck, or you must have had a pretty chilled out life so far and this is the first real issue you've had to face.
Either way, not... (read in full...)
Are we ready?
Q. okay here goes I'm 18 years old and will be 19 in june. I have been with my partner for over a year, we have been living together for 10 months and we adore each other. We both have stable jobs and have the option to overtime if we wanted. e...
A. 21 March 2009: You moved in together really quickly. Have you ever tested your relationship? Spent time apart? Had sleepless nights and money worries?
How do you know that it isn't just all too easy at the moment?
Most relationships last about 3 years so... (read in full...)
Odds I'm pregnant?
Q. I have been having protected sex always. there wasnt once where we did not use a condom, yet I am fiv days late, and this is vry unusual. the maximum tht happend was that one time when he pulled out, the condom 'stayed' down there and he had to p...
A. 21 March 2009: Well no form of birth control is perfect, but you sound like you've been pretty safe.
Go out and have a good laugh, it could be stress that is delaying your period.
If it still hasn't arrived in a week then it may be time to take a pregnancy... (read in full...)
Hangover advice.
Q. Well, I need some advice... I'm so damn depressed so I have decided to go and get drunk on Monday morning after my first lecture at university, I won't be driving and will be with a sober person, I need to know how to get rid of the hangover by 3pm ...
A. 21 March 2009: If you drink something that basically works on your body like a poison then you can't pick and choose the symptoms you get. Dizziness, disorientation, vomiting, dehydration. You pick one, you get the lot.
The fact that you have PLANNED to dramatic... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's newest job is moonlighting at a night club
Q. Is it ok for my boyfriend to work at a night club? I have told him it bothers me because I don't trust the situations that could easily happen in that environment. Also, we now get very little quality time together because he is so either working or ...
A. 21 March 2009: I don't know what nightclubs you go in but the ones I go into the staff are working very hard for their cash.
They are running round and serving drinks.
How you think that is going to lead to him cheating, I am not sure.
You seem to hav... (read in full...)
I think I am attracted to both male and female
Q. today i was sitting on my computer around 6:30, and i started crying but i didn't know why and i was properly crying on the floor in my school stuff i suddenly realized why, i finally acknowledged, i might be a lesbian or bisexual because up until ...
A. 21 March 2009: Hun, this happens to millions of teenagers all the time.
Put "I think I might be Bi" into the search box at the top of the dearcupid.org homepage and you will see hundreds of other teens with the same problem as you.
Read them and the advice t... (read in full...)
Why is she still contacting me after 3 years??
Q. I was interested in this girl three years ago. It appeared to be mutual; she was very flirtatious. In fact she lead me on and went out with another guy and has been with him ever since. That's fine BUT SHE KEEPS GETTING IN CONTACT WITH ME!...
A. 21 March 2009: She could just like you as a friend and hopes that you are over her now.
She could love her boyfriend but she just wants an ego boost from you.
She could be going off her boyfriend and wants a plan B.
Either way, your best bet is to just... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am bisexual?
Q. Can anyone who is bisexual tell me how they first realized they were bi? I definitely know that I am attracted to guys and I have had a bf. I have always assumed I am straight but my really good guy friend thinks that I am bi because we alwa...
A. 21 March 2009: It's a bit of a process to be honest, and it'll take you a few years to figure it out. Many people think they are gay for a while before realising they are Bi.
The thing is that there are not just 3 options: Gay, Straight, or Bi. Think of it more ... (read in full...)
Why do they always come running back crying to get a second chance?
Q. Maybe someone can help me understand this. why is it that when men want to end a relationship they act like jerk/assholes to make you leave them. and when you do and have moved on without them, they always come running back crying to get a second...
A. 21 March 2009: It's because none of these men have respect for women as they are used to their girlfriends just taking their crap.
When you stand up to them and tell them to bugger off and never speak to them again, then suddenly you get promoted to some kin... (read in full...)
I think he wants to trap me!
Q. Help plz!! Today was the first time I had sex with my boyfriend. He didn't use a condom. He said he wasn't going to nut inside of me. I gave him a rag to use when he pulled out. So he claims he used the rag. But when I was cleaning up the room I ...
A. 21 March 2009: Well if you think he is trying to trick you or trap you then really, you should run away from him.
He's obviously got issues if he's trying to impregnate you so you can't escape.
Talk to him seriously and tell him if he EVER has sex without ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend refuses to wear condoms!
Q. my boyfriend refuses to wear condoms and I'm afraid i might get pregnant if he doesn't my friend told me about different woman condoms would you suggest woman condoms if not what can i do...
A. 20 March 2009: Any guy that REFUSES to wear condoms obviously doesn't give a crap about you.
And you'd be very sad and stupid if you have sex with a guy that doesn't even care about you.
Tell him that he's a loser and will end up with diseases and 19 ... (read in full...)
What was he REALLY saying?
Q. Last night my best friend (and crush) and I were watching the movie Crank. There was a scene where the guy was high and his girlfriend didn't even notice so I commented that she was not a very good girlfriend to not notice the change in her ...
A. 20 March 2009: Sounds like a flirty but off the cuff comment to me.
If you want to be his girlfriend then kiss him and see what happens.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I think my teacher is sexually attracted to me & I don't know what to do about it
Q. Last year I had an amazing chemistry teacher named "Sean" who is in his early forties. Not only was he amazing at teaching chemistry, but we had chemistry too. Sean is also the youth minister at my church. I'm only thirteen years old, but I know...
A. 20 March 2009: Well it sounds like you have it under control and are being really sensible about it, that's great to know.
Don't dwell too much on what might have happened though. We can all have little day dreams of "what if" and they are fun but don't think an... (read in full...)
I want to work in a strip club!
Q. Hello, I am a bartender and I want to work in a strip club (as a bartender). I'm afraid to apply though. I'm 5'5 115 pounds, am in great shape however, My breast size is a 34 c and my butt isn't the biggest. I won't find a job in a strip club. Do ...
A. 20 March 2009: They don't want the men in strip clubs to look at the bar tenders too much. They want someone who looks ok, and can serve a great beer double quick.
In strip clubs they want the eyes of the men focused on the dancing girls as this is where th... (read in full...)
8 years and STILL not engaged... tells me "not to worry about it"
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 8 years. We met and began dating in high school and stayed together through college and beyond. We moved in together about 6 months ago and both absolutely love living together. Everything about our ...
A. 20 March 2009: Simple.
Tell him that you are leaving. Pack a bag and say you are off your your friends / mothers / sisters place for a few days and then you can sort out the flat etc after that.
Tell him you are sick of the fact he won't commit to you, a... (read in full...)
I think he wants to trap me!
Q. Help plz!! Today was the first time I had sex with my boyfriend. He didn't use a condom. He said he wasn't going to nut inside of me. I gave him a rag to use when he pulled out. So he claims he used the rag. But when I was cleaning up the room I ...
A. 20 March 2009: Take the MORNING AFTER PILL from your nearest family planning clinic RIGHT NOW.
And while you are there, get some condoms!
If he won't wear them then he doesn't get to have sex with you.
Simple.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Will a dildo do it?
Q. Okay um where to start... I started masturbating about a year ago and I mostly like the clit stimulation. But lately I have been craving something in me. If you know what I mean. I am a virgin and I really want to, no WILL stay that way until I'm ...
A. 20 March 2009: Hey, you are aware that a dildo will take your virginity in the traditional sense?
If you are waiting for marriage for religious reasons then you might want to take that into consideration.
I know we all get the feeling of wanting a guy up... (read in full...)
I really like my friend, what do I do?
Q. I fancy my friend. Hey all. I'm 16 and I have always fancied my friend. She knew how I felt before but she was going out with someone at the time. Afterwards we talked about it and she said she doesn't want to go out with me because she doesn't want ...
A. 20 March 2009: It's not fair of her to lead you on like this.
Tell her you like her as more than a friend and you thought it'd be ok this time but you still feel the same. Tell her it's too painful to spend all this time with her wanting someone you can never ha... (read in full...)
I think my teacher is sexually attracted to me & I don't know what to do about it
Q. Last year I had an amazing chemistry teacher named "Sean" who is in his early forties. Not only was he amazing at teaching chemistry, but we had chemistry too. Sean is also the youth minister at my church. I'm only thirteen years old, but I know...
A. 20 March 2009: I'm not going to say this is all in your head as sadly teachers do sometimes fall for their pupils, even if they are married and know it is wrong.
Here are some examples:
http://www.ka... (read in full...)
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