I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 25 March 2009: If she was in a vulnerable state and he was an arsehole, then it's no wonder that he was able to shark back in there.
I just hope that she has the strength to use him as rebound and then when his true colours come out, she'll leave him too.
... (read in full...)
My family freaked out when they found out my guy is bi!
Q. Hi im 22 years old and I am bi sexually. When I was 19 I told my parents and they were totally fine with it. Last year I started dating a guy "Josh" my parents LOVED him. But they didnt know that "Josh" was also bi. We have experimented in our ...
A. 19 March 2009: So you didn't take any of the advice you were given here?
As I said, the emotional strain of being told you are having a baby could be enough to push them to say a load of stuff they probably don't mean.
As far as they know, you are still an... (read in full...)
She slept with me 1st night we were together, does that mean she sleeps with every guy the 1st date?
Q. So I have one more problem, well more of a question. After 7 yrs of being friends we have finally started dating. She has dated alot of guys in the past and being her roommate I got to hear alot of their sex life. She is very aventures in bed...
A. 15 March 2009: Unless she gets to know every other guy she has dated for 7 years first then no, I very much doubt she sleeps with everyone on the first date.
She probably assumed she could trust you enough not to lose respect for her or think she was a slut or ... (read in full...)
Husband works all the time, no interest/desire for sex
Q. My husband works as a radio presenter, and in the radio industry as well. For the past few weeks he's been spending far too much time at work well past working hours. It's not like he's been working for a promotion or anything, as he's been promot...
A. 15 March 2009: You've pretty much named him here so it's good to know when I listen to your hubbie that his wife is happy to shame him online. Anyone in the UK would be able to work out who you are talking about and I think you've done that on purpose.
Also,... (read in full...)
We met, had sex, and now he doesn't call
Q. hi i met this guy and we talked on the fone all the time 4 a couple of months before we met, then we met up he came 2 mine we had sex. then we met up the other nite i went 2 his, its jus he dosent call or text me that often like he used 2, does he ...
A. 15 March 2009: If you had sex with him the first time you met him he's going to assume that that is all you wanted.
He's also probably lost respect for you as men have MASSIVE double standards about this kind of thing.
Leave him to it and if he doesn't call ... (read in full...)
He called me the biggest slag in town!
Q. i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called ...
A. 14 March 2009: Don't worry about it!!
We just want to know that you haven't messed up your life and understand that sex can really really mess things up.
I know it's horrible for a boy to say something like this to you, but really it's just because he's ang... (read in full...)
Breaking up because I'd like to join the national guard?
Q. i graduate in 3 months and i've decided to go the army national guard. my boyfriend of two years doesn't think it's a good idea but i really want to go. we had a huge fight and we broke up. recently i met someone and i think i fell in love all over ...
A. 14 March 2009: If you are going into the army or anything like that then you should be single.
You'll be going off for basic training and probably being sent far far far away for a long period of time.
I think your deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan are ... (read in full...)
He called me the biggest slag in town!
Q. i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called ...
A. 14 March 2009: How do you know?
You might still have his chlamydia though, you still need to get checked out.
No condoms = big stupid risk and getting checked out.... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex. How to make him wait?
Q. I just started seeing this guy about a week ago. He is a sweet guy but he always wants to make out and do other stuff. I told him that I dont have sex without a commitment, as he still hasnt asked me out yet but he keeps pushing for it. Sometimes, ...
A. 14 March 2009: You say you are not going to dump him so there is no point me really advising you.
If you can't see that this guy only wants you for sex and will never be your boyfriend then really, there is no helping you.
He's not even asked you out yet and ... (read in full...)
Crush on a female whose boyfriend is abroad
Q. Last year I got a location transfer in my company and met a beautiful young lady at a company workshop. We were in same team and got along well. She was perfect in a lot of ways for me. It was kind of love at first sight (or first meeting) I kept...
A. 14 March 2009: It sounds like she really likes you as a friend since you get on so well, and since she is lonely and sad with her boyfriend being away, she is leaning on her male friends (you) for support.
This is all well and good for her and when her boyfrien... (read in full...)
Girlfriend and I becoming distant and now we're going on spring break
Q. My girl friend and I have been on rough terms lately. We got in a fight b/c of something she did then I needed time to think and didn't talk to her for a while. She said she was drowning that week and she blames me for it b/c she thought of me as ...
A. 14 March 2009: Unfortunately all we can do here is listen to your problem.
The problem basically is that you don't know where you stand.
And the only person who can tell you the answer to this is your girlfriend.
You have to sit her down and say that yo... (read in full...)
Sex once or twice is OK?
Q. Is there something wrong with wanting sex more than once or twice a week? I find that sort of frequency EXTREMELY difficult, but on asking for help on here I've sort of been told that it's not that bad....
A. 14 March 2009: Everyone is different. Some people don't like sex at all, some people want it every single day.
The trick is to find a partner who has a similar sex drive to yours and then it'll be perfect.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He called me the biggest slag in town!
Q. i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called ...
A. 14 March 2009: Right well you didn't use protection so first off you need to check for pregnancy and stds down at the family planning clinic.
You also might want to ask them where babies come from as you don't seem to understand that when you have sex YOU USE ... (read in full...)
Guys are so nosy. Why are they like that?
Q. I work as a contractor in an airbase. 2 years ago I became friends with a GI that left after wards, been in touch since. Each time the communications are more often and familiar. The thing is he sent me a picture of him in his honor guard unif...
A. 14 March 2009: Hello again.
He's not being nosey, you are just proving a challenge to get into bed.
If you went out and slept with him then he would no longer give a toss about the guy on your phone, or anything else about you.
The guy you have a crush on ... (read in full...)
My break up with my boyfriend is still eating at me!
Q. I dated this one guy for a year and three and a half months and he would physically abuse me on a weekly basis and verbally abuse me on a daily basis. We broke up April of 2008 and a week later, I started dating another guy; that relation...
A. 14 March 2009: It's called rebound.
It was an ego boost that you want after you split up with someone. You suddenly have all this freedom and want to see if you are still capable of attracting someone.
Stop thinking about the past and start thinking about t... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people talking about religion in a bad light!
Q. I'm really tired of people talking about my religion in a bad way. I'll be sitting at school and the someone says something about how my religion doesn't celebrate any holidays. They say stuff like "that's really stupid" and they don't even know ...
A. 14 March 2009: The problem is that kids are ignorant and will pick on anything that's different.
Just change the subject or say "Can we not have another religious debate? I know you're obsessed with it but it's getting boring."
There must be more to you than... (read in full...)
How can I cut off my friend without hurting her feelings?
Q. How can I cut off a friend without hurting her feelings? My friend is annoying and I really do not want to be her friend no more. I have already told her why I felt this way before but she always tells me we can make it work, but I do not want...
A. 14 March 2009: Just stop taking her calls, stop replying to texts and emails, block her from the internet.
You've told her that she's annoyed you in some way so just cut her off.
It's your loss as you will have one less friend.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He still hasn't given me an orgasm
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month and he still hasn't given me an orgasm. After a couple of weeks I brought it up and he got kind of offended. He then talked about how he didn't want our relationship to be about sex. I told him 'no ...
A. 14 March 2009: Rather than talking to him about it, take the lead in this situation.
If he stops the foreplay and tries to go inside you then just say "not yet" in a sexy voice and take his hand and show him what to do.
He sounds like he's just a bit cluel... (read in full...)
How do I let her down gently?
Q. Okay I am only 18 so don't accuse me of being some pedo old man lol, but I was on my way home back from college and it was raining really heavily, but I saw this school girl walking by the side of the road - and there was steep grass banks either ...
A. 14 March 2009: Don't let her down, just leave her be.
If you contact her and make out that you have something to let her down over then it will look like something did happen.
Also be aware that she may have said she was 16, but she probably wasn't. All girl... (read in full...)
Will he think I'm cheap for sleeping with him? Was that all he wanted?
Q. hey people i split up with my boyfriend of one year 3 weeks ago on my terms as we argued all of the time and he wasnt very nice to me. Im quite happy about it. 2 weeks ago, i went out and met a ver attractive boy. We kissed and he asked for ...
A. 14 March 2009: You had sex on the second date... that's pretty soon, so he may have lost interest. He also wasn't great so may be too embarrassed to call.
Men are still pretty old fashioned deep down, no matter how much you click together and get on at the time... (read in full...)
Farting contest stinks up the family!
Q. Our family go down to my parents' every other weekend. For the past few weeks my husband, son and father have been having "farting contests", and over-eating in an effort to fart in the house. The stench is usually unbearable and me and my mum have...
A. 13 March 2009: I would take along the cheapest most horribly flowery air freshener that you can buy in the cheapest shop in town.
Then every time they start, spray it ON them. Not in the area of them but at them so it gets on their clothes.
I think you'll fin... (read in full...)
I realise they are only friends but am I the only one who finds this a bit weird?
Q. hiya, yesterday my boyfriend came to see me from Manchester. We have a long distance relationshop as I live in London. We were going to spend most of the day, playing with each other and generally being a bit naughty. However every few minutes, one ...
A. 13 March 2009: The fact that she was texting him is not a big thing. She's probably bored and on a train and texting all her mates.
The fact that he was keeping a conversation going with her and ignoring you to text her is not on.
If I text a mate and they se... (read in full...)
Could I ask my ex if I can stay at his apartment, he has a new girlfriend!
Q. I would appreciate some advice and feedback on this one. I am going away for spring break and will be in the city that my ex returned to four years ago. I have a place to stay for three nights but note that there is no train on the day I want t...
A. 13 March 2009: Call him and ask.
He may say his girlfriend won't like it, he may say he's busy, or make an excuse, or he may say it's fine.
You say you have moved on, you say he has a girlfriend and it's only a night or two. You never know, you may really l... (read in full...)
I'm looking for information on alternate, non-hormonal methods of birth control. Any suggestions?
Q. My partner and I would like to experience increased intimacy during sex by replacing condoms with another birth control method. We are monogamous and disease free. For health reasons, I do not want to use anything hormonal. Would a contraceptive ...
A. 13 March 2009: Put birth control into google or wikipedia. There are lots and lots of websites with comparisons out there.
You may want to try the coil.
That is none hormonal, very effective, and won't affect your sex life unless your husband is rather large ... (read in full...)
Does the fact that I love giving oral sex make me look bad?
Q. i love performing oral sex on men. it makes me extra hot and ready. does this run guys off? like do they look to me as a whore for doing it? ...
A. 13 March 2009: There is a saying that all men want "a lady in the street and a whore in the bedroom."
It's a bit victorian, but it still holds true.
If you go round telling everyone that you love giving head and flaunting it then yes, it'll look bad. If you... (read in full...)
My family freaked out when they found out my guy is bi!
Q. Hi im 22 years old and I am bi sexually. When I was 19 I told my parents and they were totally fine with it. Last year I started dating a guy "Josh" my parents LOVED him. But they didnt know that "Josh" was also bi. We have experimented in our ...
A. 13 March 2009: This is a toughy.
They are trying to use tough love, trying to stop you from being with a horrible guy that's going to cheat on you and probably knock you about. They want the best.
A lot of parents get told their teen is bi-sexual, and t... (read in full...)
I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 13 March 2009: It's guys like you that prove there is hope out there. You sound great. You know you have a problem and you know you are going to fix it.
So that's the first thing sorted. You aren't here saying "she over reacted, it's not like I would ACTUALLY... (read in full...)
Possible for 2 people who have feelings for each other to just be friends?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. and all of a sudden, the guy i dated before him starts talking to me again and admits he still has feelings for me. i have to admit, we never got our closure, so there's a part of me that's always ...
A. 13 March 2009: No.
It will make him even more desirable and every time you have a fight with your boyfriend, you'll be imagining him instead.
The rules are that once you know someone has feelings for you, they can no longer be the kind of friend that you ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this temptation of having fantasies with hot guys who are not my boyfriend?
Q. So I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. Before I got into this relationship I was pretty promiscous. I have never cheated on my boyfriend and do not intend to, but the problem I have is the temptation when other guys look at me with ...
A. 13 March 2009: Fantasies can be just fantasies... but it's the intention behind them and the reason for them that can be the problem.
Think hard. Do you ACTUALLY want these other guys? Or you would you run a mile if one tried to put his arm round you. If the m... (read in full...)
I've put my name down for a charitable game... But I'm nervous. Is it a good idea?
Q. Hi, My university is holding an event for Comic Relief tomorrow. This event requires some volunteers who will then stand in line while people place bids to go on a date with them, with the funds going to charity. I thought it would be fun so ...
A. 12 March 2009: I find that if I am scared that people are going to think I'm silly, then I'll ACT extra silly and then they are laughing with me, not at me.
Go along in a fireman's outfit, or some of those Borat style Mankini pants.
It's going to be a gr... (read in full...)
Everytime I pee after an orgasm It stung a litle. Is this puberty?
Q. Hey guys, Im 18 and since I can remember, Everytime I pee after an orgasm It stung a lil, Is this just puberty? Or do you think I should go see a doctor?...
A. 12 March 2009: If you go STRAIGHT AWAY after an orgasm then you are probably going to be a little raw and sensitive, and since your pee is full of urea and salt and other fun stuff then this can sting.
Go and get and STI check up anyway. It's always good to ... (read in full...)
I cheated and he broke up with me does that mean he never loved me?
Q. So I cheated with my ex when my boyfriend an I were broken up. He broke up with me 2 weeks after christmas with no explanation, he wouldnt talk to me at all. Now 3 months later I built up the courage to tell him because i cant keep things from him.. ...
A. 12 March 2009: He probably did love you when he thought you loved him and didn't want anyone else.
When he found that you'd slept with an ex it changed the way he thought about you.
Also, he may still love you but be unable to forgive. If I had a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
I'm a nymphomaniac
Q. Okay so im 17 yrs old and i just recently found out that im a nymphomaniac and in this serious relationship but dont really know how to tell my partner that i have it ive known for about a week 1/2 now and im pretty scared on the reaction ill get ...
A. 12 March 2009: You say you have just found out... you don't give any details to how you know though. Who diagnosed you?
At 17, it's possible that you are still overdosing on hormones from the end of puberty and that is what is wrong.
If you are in a serious... (read in full...)
G/f invites me over and less than an hour later tells me to leave?
Q. My girlfriend is being really weird to me lately. She invited me over to her house the other night and I was there for about 40 mins and she told me I needed to leave. We weren't fighting or anything.I usually stay for two to three hours but ...
A. 12 March 2009: You say asking her starts a fight, but it will only turn into a fight if you fight back.
Calmly sit her down and ask her if she wants to be with you any more.
You have to STAY calm with her so no matter how worked up she gets, it won't turn i... (read in full...)
We have a great sex life but he still watches porn without me
Q. I am very active sexually. In fact, I just sucked my husband off this morning before we left for work. I probably give it up to him 3-5 times a week. So please, someone tell me why he has to sneak around and watch porn? I am one of those wo...
A. 11 March 2009: What you need here is an answer from a man. Since all you have so far is people agreeing with you and that is not helpful.
Go and search for husband and porn in the little search bar at the top of the site. We get SO MANY angry wives and girlfrie... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why I can't get a boyfriend.
Q. I just don't understand why i can't get a boyfriend, not been big headed but everyone tells me how beautiful Iam and how well i present myself, but the trouble is it's getting me down, no man ever chats me up, is it because i look to what some say ...
A. 11 March 2009: Well where do you go to find a guy and what signals do you give out?
What signals do you give out?
If a guy is looking at you, and you like the look of him, what do you do?
It could be that you are giving out massive "GO AWAY!" body signals ... (read in full...)
My LD girlfriend doesn't seem to understand that I need "friend time"
Q. My girlfriend is currently going to college 200miles away, i asked for two days off in a row from work everyweek so i can drive down to visit her for 2 days a week and drive back, i also work 10hr days and as soon as i get home i call her to see how ...
A. 11 March 2009: Ah bless, she's got you wrapped round her little finger.
They say that you don't have to use specific words on dogs, just tone of voice and you can control them.
If her tone of voice changes then I think you are perfectly entitled to say ... (read in full...)
He treats me like shit but I'm head over heels for him
Q. All right, where to start..? I guess first off let me start by saying I am crazy about him and don’t want to loose him… My man and I have been going out for a half a year now, but he still doesn’t consider me his girlfriend. He told me from the begi...
A. 11 March 2009: Well you have 2 options:
Give up your friends, family, life, good times, self esteem, self respect, sanity and dignity.... and then you'll be with him (hooray!) but he'll still make you feel like something off the bottom of his shoe.
OR
G... (read in full...)
The Loved And Lost
Q. Hi everyone. Im new here and I need some advice. Okay, here we go. I am in love with a girl I have known for a while. We have been close friends ever since we met and the day I started having feelings for her I told her. She said she felt the sam...
A. 11 March 2009: She just likes you as a friend hun, it's sad but that's the way it is.
All you can do it try to get over her.
Get out with your other friends, spend some time away from her, just try and accept that it won't happen and try not to be in love wi... (read in full...)
Semen on fingers - could she get pregnant?
Q. Hi,im 15 and my friend, also 15, is really worried that she is pregnant. Her period hasnt come for 2-3 weeks now. She told me she never has irregular periods, but her mum is never on time. She had been with a guy for a while and she had some sex...
A. 10 March 2009: Get her a pregnancy test.
Take her to a family planning clinic if you can't get one from the shop.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
How do we know when enough is enough?
Q. if two people are in love but cant seem to get they're shit together how do they know enough is enough?...
A. 10 March 2009: A good clue is that they come on the internet and ask vague questions like this one.
You know when you've had enough. Tell him if it's not sorted by Friday then you are off.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 10 March 2009: You need to go to your welfare officer and talk to him.
Your husband might have thought you may not take it seriously because it was over the phone. The army will always tell you this kind of thing in person and not over the phone.
He may ... (read in full...)
Curious: how long do guys in LT committed relationship hang out with their best friends?
Q. how often do guys in long-term committed relationships hang out with their best friends? and for how long in a single time?...
A. 10 March 2009: We live quite far away from our friends so my hubbie disappears off for a few days at a time.
But it doesn't really matter what my husband does. What matters is the fact that you aren't happy with something so you should tell him you are not happ... (read in full...)
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