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writes:Hey guys, I'm looking for some help! Me and my partner of about 2 years recently broke up. It was really her decision over some small things that I don't quite understand, like attention and so on. When we spoke about it at the time of the break up she gave her 'side of the story' but when I tried to give her mine about my concerns, she would not address them. We still love each other but recently she has been twisting the story into it was my decision to split up, not hers and claims I am the person looking for somebody else. She has been seeing her friends a lot recently and having a good time and I ask myself - does she not care about my feelings? Is she not sad about the situation as I am? I told her I was upset and felt left out but that only made the situation worse and changed her into anger. Recently I have tried to meet up with her to talk but she says she has plans and I should go to her. I feel as though she doesnt care - should we just go our seperate ways?Thanks!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 March 2009):
The way she is acting says to me that she is trying to be strong and put you off. She wouldn't do that if she ever wanted to get back with you.
You said that at the end you tried to raise concerns so that could well have come accross as you putting in MORE reasons to break up.
It's always polite to say it was a mutual break rather than telling people "I dumped him because he was rubbish." So she is trying to be civil at least.
Just leave her to it and carry on with your own life. Work out where you can go and what you can do now you are single.
I don't want to destroy your hope and with space and time she may decide she still loves you and misses you.
But you have to give her space and time and protect yourself by trying to get over her form today.
Good Luck!! xx
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