In 3 days her attitude changed completely
Q. Why would a girl that was really into you for weeks beforehand suddenly loose interest in barely 3 days. She went from being as giddy as a school girl, to wanting to only be friends, to not wanting to talk to me and asking for some space for a whil...
A. 24 March 2009: Well if she has had a crush on you for a while she may have built you up into this perfect guy in her head.
Then she meets the real you and you are not like she has imagined so she is put off you.
Accept that you did nothing wrong and she wa... (read in full...)
She wants a break for a week and I now realise I have been a fool
Q. I met my girlfriend on the internet a year ago we have met 5 times , we are 500 miles apart , i love her so much , i am a jealous and paranoid person and i have accused her of all sorts , i have treated her badly , the problem is now she wants a ...
A. 24 March 2009: Gosh, I bet you are REALLY paranoid now you are on a break. What could she be getting up to?
If you pester her now she will just think this is you being jealous again.
Are you really sorry, or do you just not like the idea that you don't know s... (read in full...)
I have some fake friends on Facebook
Q. I have some fake friends on Facebook.There are some who rarely talk to me, some who have never spoken to me at all,even though i have sent them messages,and i'm really getting annoyed !. It feels like they just add you to be nosey and see what you'...
A. 24 March 2009: I had a friend cull at the beginning of this year.
They don't get told when you defriend them, so just get on with them.
Half of them probably created their account, added a lot of people and then just abandoned it.
It's not like you are... (read in full...)
I think he's gay and I want to break it off! How do I end this?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a month now and I have always suspected he was gay. Here's why: 1. He likes to get manicures and pedicures. 2. He knows nothing about cars or sports...I know way more than him. 3. He talks about how his male frie...
A. 24 March 2009: I don't think this is anything about his sexuality.
But if you feel smothered and don't want to be with him then you need to break up with him.
Just sit him down and tell him that you feel suffocated. It's only been a month and he's talking abo... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have family in room when I give birth...im not so keen..
Q. Hi, im preganant and baby due in august. Me and my husband are both thrilled but theres 1 aspect im not happy with.... I am having a hospital birth and so far a vaginal birth which is all good but my husband wants his parents and possibly som...
A. 24 March 2009: I think your best bet is to make them aware that they can be there but you will not be happy about it and you just want them to know that they will be making your labour much more stressful, and if that causes complications then you will hold them ... (read in full...)
What can I say to my daughter's boyfriend to make him feel more secure?
Q. My daughter, 17 (18 in July) and her boyfriend (19)have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years. All they do is fight. Her boyfriend is very insecure and thinks that she is going to cheat on him with every male friend she has. They do love each ...
A. 24 March 2009: I was going to say exactly what Annalisa said.
If you daughter has asked you to have a word then tell him that he should feel bloody lucky to be going out with your daughter and he can stop being a stupid little arsehole of a boy, and grow up.... (read in full...)
Opinions on women going braless
Q. Well I have been doing some research and I keep finding out that it has never been proven that bras help keep breast firm, or stop them from sagging. I've been thinking about this issue, and what bras mean in the bigger picture, and I just don't ...
A. 24 March 2009: If you are lucky enough to have a small chest then go for it. Enjoy the fact you are able to bounce.
If you have big boobs then it is a simple fact that gravity will have an effect on them because they are heavy and your skin will stretch.... (read in full...)
My b/f touches me in intimate places whenever he feels like it! Normal?
Q. Hello there, My boyfriend of 7 years likes to come up to me and touch my breasts and private area whenever he feels like. When I tried to tell him stop because I am in the middle of something, he would ask me if I would be happier if he di...
A. 24 March 2009: If he touches you and you don't want him to then technically it's sexual assault.
No this is not normal and the fact that he threatens to stop touching you completely is just blackmail.
He sounds like he has no respect for you and wants to con... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend back or is all lost?
Q. I want to know how I get my girlfriend to go back out with me.... I started seeing this girl a year ago just after I left my wife, it was the most perfect relationship ever....Never argued about anything, agreed on everything, had great fun, good ...
A. 24 March 2009: Sorry mate, but I think she means what she says. She does not want you as a boyfriend.
We girls can get incredibly close to a guy and be very intimate and it can mean absolutely nothing.
It's the same as a guy being able to have sex with a ... (read in full...)
Will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"??
Q. Just curious... will having anal sex ruin you or stretch you out in "that area"?? How long does it generally take to work up to being able to actually have anal sex without it hurting so much?...
A. 24 March 2009: Lots of anal sex can stretch you out permanently in the same way the childbirth or lots of normal sex can stretch out your vagina.
Your anus is not designed to have things shoved up there like your vagina is so you should be careful not to do it... (read in full...)
My ex was hurt pretty badly in an accident..what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Its been over a year since i had anything you could even call a relationship, my previous girl friend tore me up pretty bad by cheating and basically compromiseing my morality and self image. I recently learned that my ex-girlfriend wa...
A. 24 March 2009: Send her some flowers.
If she hasn't seen you in a long time then she might not want you to see her bruises and stitches.
But if you have done this well in not contacting her then why ruin it now.
You obviously can't forgive what she did so ... (read in full...)
We are both history professors and I hate to ask but I need tips on how to pusue this beautiful, intelligent woman!
Q. I have never been the most confident or the most attractive male and at this point in time. I actually hate to admit that. I am 32 years old, single, have only had three girlfriends in the past, and only had sex with two of them. Now, I know my ...
A. 24 March 2009: You are a smart man. I assume you have come across enough reference material to know what makes a romantic situation. So your first aim is to get her in one.
Take a chance. Ask her out to dinner. If she seems unsure then you can say it will jus... (read in full...)
I want to make it work with her, without sounding needy or desperate! How can I do that?
Q. My ex girlfriend and I split on January 10th. We had been together for a little over a year. We lived together 5 months of this period but both moved back in with our parents temporarily to get our finances back on track, then I was going to buy us ...
A. 24 March 2009: So this is how the whole thing went from her perspective.
You moved out again and she found she didn't miss you / you didn't miss her. She had not guarantee you were coming back apart from the fact that YOU wanted to buy a house and she could co... (read in full...)
I just want her to be direct. How can I get her to talk?
Q. I told her that since she lives a few states away from me, when I move, I'm not going to see her until I'm out of school and have a car. She took this as I'm breaking up with her. We've been talking still, but I can't get a word out of her. I can't ...
A. 24 March 2009: Just tell her that you weren't breaking up with her but if she doesn't want to speak to you then you have to assume she's happy it happened and she must want to break up with you.
Tell her to email you if you are wrong about this but you have to ... (read in full...)
If you knew the girl you were dating had a few one night stands would it put you off her?
Q. Guys, if your dating someone, is it a turn off to know the girl has had a few one night stands? and a 'friends with benefits' relationship? or is it not that a big of a deal?...
A. 24 March 2009: Why would you know?
It's always best not to know because men seem to have massive issues with the fact that all the girls they meet aren't virgins.
This question is asked so often.
If you want a virgin then go and find one. If you find a ... (read in full...)
Last week I was cleaning and I found women's underwear and a huge stash of condoms which weren't ours.
Q. I just recently moved across country with my boyfriend of 2 years. Everything seemed perfect and I can't picture my life with out him. Last week I was cleaning and I found women's underwear and a huge stash of condoms which weren't ours. I felt so ...
A. 24 March 2009: A possible "I told you so" or a miserable relationship?
Hmmm tough choice.
Call your parents and just mention to them that you feel you can't come home because they will say "I told you so" and you may be surprised that they are not as child... (read in full...)
Why would he even what to try for a baby knowing I would be her dealing with it alone?
Q. I married my high school sweetheart and he is the love of my life, he joined the army shortly after we graduate (a few yeard later we got married). He knows that he will be going overseas before summer. I don't want him to go and have expressed ...
A. 24 March 2009: Could be either of the 2 people below's answer.
a) he wants a family to come home to
b) he wants a son in the world in case he doesn't come home
or
c) he wants you pregnant and tied to him while he's away so you can't leave him / cheat
... (read in full...)
Opinions please... How true can it be for a woman to have sex with another woman, but not call herself lesbian or bi?
Q. How true can it be for a woman to have sex with another woman, but not call herself lesbian or bi? For 7 years now I been lovers with a very hot and sexual woman. I give her oral sex all the time and we have hot make-out sesions. I lust after her, I ...
A. 24 March 2009: She's clearly Bi.
She just says she's straight so you'll know she's never going to be with you and it gives her an excuse to go out and cheat on you.
I know you've tried but the only way you will be happy in life is if you get away from her.
... (read in full...)
Should I transfer to be with my boyfriend?
Q. Should I transfer schools,leave my family and friends (birthplace) just to live with my boyfriend that is in the Navy?...
A. 24 March 2009: And if it all goes horribly wrong, could you move home again, re-transfer yourself in work and at uni? In a hurry?
Would 2 changes in college really have no effect on your degree?
If it's love then you'll cope with the distance. You ju... (read in full...)
How to get real results with exercise, diet?
Q. Hello there! I 'm trying to lose some weight, and I exercise a lot more than I used to. I got a rowing machine, and I go on it everyday, I also go for walks,but I don't seem to lose weight at all, maybe even put some on. With the exercise program ...
A. 23 March 2009: As the other person said, you are probably building muscle.
But also, if you are not eating a lot then your body probably thinks it's starving and is clinging to every gram of fat it has so you can stay alive a bit longer.
Try eating more, but... (read in full...)
My life is full of tragedies, sadness and crises. Do we all suffer or do some of us suffer more?
Q. My life is full of tragedies, sadness and crises. Not caused by me. It's the kind of things what just happens to you, without you causing it... One bad luck, after the other. I'm not even trying to complain on this any more, but I'm just really ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well you can get religious on this:
a) Were you an axe murderer in a previous existence?
b) God Must Hate you.
c) you keep hurting other people so Kharma keeps biting you back
Or you can accept that life is a random collections of happening... (read in full...)
Where can I find a serious woman?
Q. Ok, Well these days and times everyone is into scandalous dating and non-serious relationships around my age group(18-22). I myself am 18 and I've looked far and wide to find someone who wants to have a serious relationship. I've been told by girls ...
A. 23 March 2009: Well unfortunately not many girls will commit to a long term relationship up front because they don't know you and they might decide they don't like you after 3 weeks.
This is why you date people. You go out, you get to know eachother. Some tim... (read in full...)
My does my cousing keep touching my bum?
Q. Hi, so for quite a while my male cousin who has a girlfriend has whenever he sees me touched my bum, or grabs it slightly. So I saw him in a club and he touched it every now and then and I've never said anything or reacted in any kind of way because ...
A. 23 March 2009: He may be your cousin but he's also being a perv.
He'll stop if you turn round next time and gave him a clip round the ear.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it ok for them to share a bed?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend's friend who is female is staying at his house... Before I met him I met him through her they were really good friends.. She used to tell me that she used to stay at his house and they shared a bed but didn't do anything. She ha...
A. 23 March 2009: No in my opinion it is not ok for her to share his bed.
I have shared a bed with guy friends when I was single, and nothing happened. But it was still a pretty intimate thing to do.
As soon as I got a boyfriend, I would stop sharing their be... (read in full...)
Can't get a job and feel worthless!
Q. Hi. I lost my job to the recession and credit crunch in September and I have been unable to land another job. I've applied for hundreds of jobs. I've had one interview and the rest never bother getting back to me. I even tried to get a job at a ...
A. 23 March 2009: Men are far more affected by job loss than women and the NHS has been ramping up it's budget for mental health because what you are feeling is completely the normal reaction for someone in your position.
What you are feeling is depressi... (read in full...)
My husband allowed me to have sex with someone else
Q. My husband allowed me to have sex with someone else. Could he love me?...
A. 23 March 2009: You had sex with someone else.
Could you love him?
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I've fallen for his best friend
Q. Right I have a boyfriend who really likes me, and i don;t really know why i said yes to seeing him, i don't think I've ever had strong feelings for him, but we've been with each other for 3 months, we don't live near each other and maybe see each ...
A. 23 March 2009: Unfortunately you have learned that if you go out with a guy just because he is there, then you are stuck with him.
You've been using your boyfriend which is very selfish. You maybe don't realise you are doing it but trust me, you are keeping ... (read in full...)
I'm holding on to a shred of hope
Q. I really dont know how to get through this on my own any more, and none of my family or friends seem to know how to help so if anyone out there can tell me something, anything that will make this hurt a little less it will mean the world to me. m...
A. 23 March 2009: You sound like you are having serious mental illness and I think although your ex is the focus of this, he's not the actual problem.
The actual problem could be a physical illness within your mind.
Go and talk to your therapist again and tell h... (read in full...)
If you have no periods does it mean that you are not ovulating?
Q. hi. If you have periods does it mean that you are ovulating, i had no periods or at least one every 6 mts untill about a year ago im confused as some say yes and some no. Is it possible to have them and not ovulate?x...
A. 23 March 2009: It means something is up with your body and you need to see a doctor.
You have never thought this could be a problem?
It could be that since you have left it this long it may be some serious hormonal / growth disorder and your fertility will p... (read in full...)
Should I transfer to be with my boyfriend?
Q. Should I transfer schools,leave my family and friends (birthplace) just to live with my boyfriend that is in the Navy?...
A. 23 March 2009: Nope.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is 30 years old, OLD?
Q. is 30 years old ,old? because i think its old. ...
A. 23 March 2009: I hope not as I'm 26 and I haven't got my pension fund high enough to retire at 30.
If you have then you are very lucky.
Now stop moaning and go out and have some fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mate from soccer about her behaviour with this other guy at work?
Q. Hi. Difficult situation at work. One of my mates from the after work soccer team is dating a rather attractive women who works in my department. He works around the other side of the building. When her boss is away I increasingly see her spending...
A. 23 March 2009: She's talking to another man... TALKING!!!???!?!?!?!?!
Well this is definitely the proof you need that she's a dirty slut.
For God's sake, just because you fancy her doesn't mean everyone does.
She may be talking to him about anything. Have... (read in full...)
Why am I so selfish?
Q. Im 22 and I have been in a relationship for a little over two years, but lately i have started to realize that i am being selfish. My boyfriend is beginning to get fed up with me...he pointed out today that i dont do anything for him, simple thin...
A. 23 March 2009: Well while you are figuring out your own psychology, make some bloody effort!
Make him cups of tea, offer to pay for dinner, do some housework at his place, give him a back rub without asking for one back.
You say it's little things so DO som... (read in full...)
He sneaks downstairs to watch porn when he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I am having several problems with my fiance. Distance lying and now porn. When we first got together we would watch it every now and then as a couple and we have done that for almost 4 years. Well in the last 2 weeks since I have discovered all the ...
A. 23 March 2009: The only person who can answer this is him.
Talk to him, say you know what he is doing and want to know why. Stay calm, don't let it turn into a row. Make him talk till he opens up and have it out.
If you are having all these problems, is thi... (read in full...)
Unusual bleeding...
Q. Wow, I'm pretty glad I found this site. This is really embarrassing, sorry but I'm not sure what to do. I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about a month now; we always use condoms and I am also on the pill. But for the past few days my ...
A. 23 March 2009: It's most likely an irritation from something and you've scratched and caused it to bleed.
Could be anything from a lacy thong to new washing powder.
However, it could also be something medical which is why I recommend making that appointment... (read in full...)
In 6 months I have only been with him alone once
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for six months and we are seemingly the 'perfect couple'. We both come from good backgrounds(private schools etc) and our parents have doing alot to keep us from being alone. In 6 months i have only been with him alon...
A. 23 March 2009: I agree with the people below. If all you really want to do is talk then why not ask your parents to let you go to a restaurant... table for 2.
Your parents can always get a table on the opposite side of the restaurant if they want to check yo... (read in full...)
Why is she still contacting me after 3 years??
Q. I was interested in this girl three years ago. It appeared to be mutual; she was very flirtatious. In fact she lead me on and went out with another guy and has been with him ever since. That's fine BUT SHE KEEPS GETTING IN CONTACT WITH ME!...
A. 23 March 2009: I'm glad you don't want her back. That makes this much easier. I know you hinted at this in your original question, but we get so many people who come here and then get upset because "I stil LUV HIM!!"
I can also understand that you don't want to ... (read in full...)
What's going on with this guy?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a while now, we have gone away to the most beautiful places and met up every week and each time just experienced the most amazing sexual experience each time, every time. One day he said he didn't want to have a weekly ...
A. 22 March 2009: Why would he lie?
If you were fine with just meeting up going away and having great sex, then why would he make up a load of stuff that could freak you out and scare you off?
If he is falling for you and you don't want him long term then you sh... (read in full...)
Would you want to know if I masturbate?
Q. There is this boy i really like that constantly asks me if i masturbate in a jokey but serious way...well i do a lot for a girl of my age (i think) but i awlays say i don't. I just wanted a males opinion or anyones opinion actually, to know if i ...
A. 22 March 2009: He's just taking the piss out of you.
He's asking you because he knows it bothers you, and also because he's an immature boy and he find the whole idea of a vagina just too exciting to stay quiet about.
Tell him to grow up.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I thought these people were my friends but why would they do that ?
Q. My wife and I got married over christmas. A few weeks ago I went out of state to celebrate my best friends birthday I messed around with another girl. I told my fiend and she was vey upset but choose to forgive me. Friday night my wife and I we...
A. 22 March 2009: That wasn't a very nice thing of them to do to your wife.
But then I get the feeling that they are your friends more than hers, and since you don't seem to respect her, why should they?
If you treat her like crap by cheating on her months into ... (read in full...)
Bleeding alot, different than usual..anyone know what it could be?
Q. Firstly, can I ask that nobody judges me or comments on what I am about to say. I'm asking for advice on my problem, not my method of contraception. I've been having regular unprotected sex with my boyfriend for about 2 months. About 3 weeks ag...
A. 22 March 2009: Call NHS Direct. They should be able to advise you if it was pregnancy and miscarriage or anything like that.
Or call a different doctor.
Since you are choosing to risk pregnancy, and pregnancy is a dangerous and messy process then it could be... (read in full...)
Why is she still contacting me after 3 years??
Q. I was interested in this girl three years ago. It appeared to be mutual; she was very flirtatious. In fact she lead me on and went out with another guy and has been with him ever since. That's fine BUT SHE KEEPS GETTING IN CONTACT WITH ME!...
A. 21 March 2009: She could just like you as a friend and hopes that you are over her now.
She could love her boyfriend but she just wants an ego boost from you.
She could be going off her boyfriend and wants a plan B.
Either way, your best bet is to just... (read in full...)
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