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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 7 years and have two children together i was young when i got with him and he was very controlling of me so i lost alot of my friends, anyway i found out he was cheating on me and he promised to stop, coming with all the tears, but then a few months after the girl looked me up and started sending me really nasty messages, anyway basically they were still seeing each other and its all just really complicated, i feel ive already given him a second go and need to get over him but because he wont leave me alone for a day i cant, even though he has hurt me bad i do still love him and i need to know how to get him out of my head and get him to understand he needs to give me some space which i have told him but he just shows up anyway or rings me Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 March 2009):
Jezebel has got it right:
Tell him to piss off.
When he calls answer and say "is this about the kids?" and if he says no then tell him you don't want to speak to him and hang up.
If he shows up tell him that it's not a good time and he has to leave. Don't let him in the house.
He should get the message and if he doesn't then set pre-arranged times for him to see the kids and tell him that you will get a restraining order if he contacts you other than that.
Be strong and show him that you can't be bullied and controlled any more.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): First of all, I applaud you for getting out of a controlling relationship and one where you get cheated on. At least you know you are better than that. But the reality of this is that until you stop seeing him all the time you weill not be able to get over him! You need to process this break up and move on with your life. Stop taking his calls and tell him that he is not permitted at your place unless its something to do with the kids. Tell him you have no desire to speak to him for anything else. Although it may hurt, you will just have to be blunt with him. Threaten to change your number. Whatever you have to do. Because until you do this he will still have some control over you. Please keep in touch so I know how its going for you.
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