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writes:ive been married to my wife for over 20 yrs. She was engaged to a guy before she met me, she also went on the pill for him at the age of 16. This is crucifying me after all these yrs. Can someone help me? Is this a normal age to go on the pill? I fel so stupid, but I cant help thinking about the thought process over her big decision at the age of 16.
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reader, triedit  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Im in your age group and even "back then" it was quite normal for a 16 year old girl to go on the pill.
It doesn't really matter now though. She is who she is, and you fell in love with who she is! Let it go and don't let it ruin your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Yes,it's normal.I started when I was 12,and I'm now 13.I'm taking it for a medical reason.It can be taken for other things besides preventing pregnancy and doesn't have to be taken for just that reason.
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reader, Aunt ~ Em +, writes (7 March 2009):
 I started on the pill at 15.And most of my friends were on it by 16/17.It's just a precaution and some women take it to ease menstrual pains etc. So, it doesn't mean that she was having sex from that age, perhaps she just definitely didn't want a child as a teen...Wouldn't worry about it x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): thank you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): Thank you for that, its very much apreciated.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (7 March 2009):
 At 16 it's legal and normal to be sexually active, so going on the pill is perfectly sensible, secondly the pill isn't just contraceptive it also can control all the nasties that go along with periods, mood swings, migraines, pain, heavy bleeding etc. So she may have been on the pill for that.
I really think you are reading too much in to this.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 March 2009):
Going on the pill is often NOTHING to do with having sex.
It can clear up acne, it can stop period cramps, it makes your boobs bigger, your periods get lighter or stop.
The pill I am on at the moment has helped my skin no end and I very rarely get the migraines I used to get for 2 or 3 days every months when my hormones went into over drive.
A few girls I know went on the pill at 15 and younger because their period pains and awful PMT was keeping them off school when they were trying to do GCSE's.
She has been with you for 20 years. She loves you.
The past is the past and I am sure you were no whiter than white when you met her.
She is the woman she is now because of her past. The woman you love.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, loving arms +, writes (7 March 2009):
Simple answer YES. Your wife showed a maturity at her young age to protect herself against an unwanted pregnancy. Sometimes people merely go on the pill to control irratic periods, to control bad period pains and sometimes they calm acne. Many many reasons. Then there are all those young girls who do not go on the pill and end up young unmarried mums.
Not sure what your concerns are. You nor your wife can change the past. So there really is not much point on dwelling on it. You guys have been together for 20 years, concentrate on the next 20 and leave the past where it belongs.
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