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writes: My life is full of tragedies, sadness and crises. Not caused by me. It's the kind of things what just happens to you, without you causing it... One bad luck, after the other. I'm not even trying to complain on this any more, but I'm just really interested to know, what is the norm on suffering?I was wondering is it common to suffer from life's cruel intentions? Or is it ususally not an every day thing when everything goes wrong? I mean sometimes it's hard to know, because when I look around, everybody seem to have just a normal amount of bad stuff. Like break ups, kids don't like to do homework etc but my life is burning in hell compare to these things. So what is the truth, do we all suffer or do some of us suffer more?Gracias Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.Smith  +, writes (24 March 2009):
Mate, its all just a roll of the dice, yous pays your money and yous takes your chances, i could likely go toe to toe with you on who's had more heart-break, saddness, and pain in their lives, and then when one of us lost another one could come in and whip the winner hands down. Everyone suffers some and everyone doesn't can you truely say that you have never ever found a single momment of happiness in your entire life? I would doubt it. But there is a trick to living in pain and misery... don't, just refuse to let it hurt you, find one thing that brings you joy or at least a happy medium and then hold onto it. Weather its the first rush of that first morning cup of coffee, or the whisper of fingers just before a guitar's chord is struck, or somthing that when you here or feel or taste it makes you feel alive and use that as your sheild and sword. It's not the cards that life deals you which determine the game, but how you choose to play those cards.
Cheers,
Smith
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2009): HiEveryones life is unique...all i can say is it's not so much WHAT happens to you, but HOW you deal with it. SINK OR SWIM. via con dios
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reader, Allisseo  +, writes (23 March 2009):
I think that this is a question everyone asks themselves at some point. My answer is that it may seem although you are experiencing more grief than the average person, but actually, I think that the coming of it all at once is what is making it extra hard. Also, some people (including myself) are extra vunerable to this pain. It's not a bad mark aginst them, it's just that they find it harder to cope than some.
You must trust in the fact that things will get better in time. You may not be religious, but I find just spilling out all your feelings to God helps. Even if he doesn't answer. He'll then know what you need help with.
I really hope this helps, and I'd love to hear from you again.
Love and best wishes,
Agony Aunt
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 March 2009):
Well you can get religious on this:
a) Were you an axe murderer in a previous existence?
b) God Must Hate you.
c) you keep hurting other people so Kharma keeps biting you back
Or you can accept that life is a random collections of happenings and if you life sucks then it's just your bad luck.
My advice is to figure out which bits of your life you can change for the better and then get on with it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): hun, i know how you feel. my life is pretty crappy at the moment and has been for a while. when i was feeling down i turned to god. now this might not be your thing but try it. i urge you to maybe keep a diary of thoughts, talk to someone about how you feel, get a hobby to do in order to lift up your spirits a bit etc. we all suffer at some points and we just need to deal with it. all wil be fine in the end :) x
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