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writes:I was seeing this guy for a while now, we have gone away to the most beautiful places and met up every week and each time just experienced the most amazing sexual experience each time, every time. One day he said he didn't want to have a weekly girlfriend, I was confused but I didn't get upset and was totally ok with it. We then met up again, and all he could say is that he couldn't stop thinking about me and missed making love to me. The time we spent that evening was probably the most romantic out of the entire time. He said that the reason he had to stop the regular outings was because he was falling in love with me and knew that we wouldn't be able to continue it. It got me all confused, I was perfectly fine with our situation but should I actually think that he was really falling in love with me and missed making love to me or is he just being a typical guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, salvadda +, writes (22 March 2009):
 This is a hard question to reply too. It kind of leaves things to read between the lines. You didn't say why only during the week? If you have contact with him during the weekend? Do you where he lives, have you called him at home? Do you have his home phone number. Have you met his friends, some of his family ect?
You seem very easy going, which is great. Tho I hate to think of negitive thoughts a few things come to my mind by what you stated. If he is not married or involved with someone else..*sorry* it does seem that way what to me from what you wrote. This is one way I look at it. Tho it may not be so because of the lack of info you wrote.
I will give you both thoughts to be fair. The other is that he may not be ready. He doesn't want to commit, and is afraid he might have to if he is falling in love with you. He has given wonderful times which is good and in his favour of treating you well.
Maybe you can answer this question. Why would a man NOT want to continue a relationship that makes him happy? Why would he not want love his life instead of just outings?
I don't want to bring you down. I do know if you ask, if you think about your situation you will be able to figure things out. I do not have all the details which which is why I don't dare second guess anything.
As from what I read you kept putting the word *sexual* in your statement. You didn't say there was more.
I can say however you both having been seeing eachother enough to be a in a relationship, the type of relationship is unclear to me.
I am sorry I could not be more clear, but you have left much unsaid. I do however feel you know the answer.
I'm sorry I couldn't have been more help. All I wanted to put in front of you is what you already know.
Even tho you didn't state you love this man, I'm guessing you do. It is clear to see that you are hurt, unsure, and I feel that maybe you feel you have been a bit used.
If I am wrong about a few things, I suggest you get the answer right from the *horses* mouth. Be kind, be honest, and by how/what you wrote I know you will be fair...
Take care & good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 March 2009):
Why would he lie?
If you were fine with just meeting up going away and having great sex, then why would he make up a load of stuff that could freak you out and scare you off?
If he is falling for you and you don't want him long term then you should let him go, he'll just get hurt otherwise.... and if he is being a typical guy and trying to say what he thinks you want to hear then you'll be rid of him, and teach him that he shouldn't assume you are an idiot.
I'd take him at face value on this, even if it means setting him free to find a girl who wants to settle down and play happy families with him.
Good Luck!! xx
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