Confuse on what to do, birth pills question
Q. I have a question on birth pills. I just started it a week ago. My period started on Tuesday, then I took the pills on the Sunday (end of the week) following the days on the strip. I had sex exactly a week after (the following Sunday) and no cond...
A. 10 April 2009: No problem!
Hope everything is ok in the end, I'm sure it will be.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my mother again after all this time?
Q. I am 27 years old and have not spoken to my mother since I was 16. She married my step father when I was 10 and he began molesting me shortly there after. After 6 years of molestation and rape I finally found the nerve to tell my mother what was ...
A. 6 April 2009: I am so glad you went and even though I feared this is what would happen I am glad you kept your cool.
It sounds like you have some kind of closure on this now, even if it's not the happy ending you may have hoped for.
You have found that blood... (read in full...)
Circumcision issues.
Q. I love my penis in every way, except that I wish that I still had a foreskin.. Unfortunately I was circumcised at a young age (4), partly because of cultural reasons and partly because I had a tight foreskin which made it difficult to retract all ...
A. 1 April 2009: If it'll make you feel better then they do say circumcised men last longer in bed as it's not as sensitive.
But I think you need a man's perspective on this.
As a woman I will never understand why you all get so excited and put so much pride in... (read in full...)
What's he waiting for?
Q. Ok so i've liked this guy for a while and i think he likes me. We flirt alot, he asked me who i would prefer to go out with out of 3 other guys and him i said him and he said that out of all my friends he would probably choose me. He asked me what ...
A. 1 April 2009: Why don't you ask him again?
"Who would you ask out out of all my friends? I won't include me as I know you're never going to ask me out."
Either that or just ask him out yourself.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
G/f depressed because she's obese
Q. My girlfriend is depressed because she’s obese. She’s tried quite a lot of diets but nothing seems to work as she gives up after a couple of weeks. Generally I’d say she eats about the same amount that I do and if anything I’m underweight. What can ...
A. 1 April 2009: You really need to try and get her on those anti-depressants. Tell her that you aren't worried about lack of sex and will never leave her or cheat on her.
They will not solve the problem but they will allow her to think clearly and do somethin... (read in full...)
Is it true that 45% of women hate having sex?
Q. is it true that some woman dont have any sexual feelings?? as some men off course my wife doesn't like sex she is sexually dead. i am afraid i couldn't find a better word. the problem is that i love her, i am not naif and i know how to turn ...
A. 1 April 2009: Well she is lucky to have a husband who loves her so much.
Good luck with the therapist.
Try Relate marriage counselling. They may be able to advise.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Ex lovers can rekindle?
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend went out for about a year. We were young but both had things for each other for 2 years and were each others first everything. He was my very best friend as I was his, and one could easily argue we were two people living in ...
A. 1 April 2009: If he wanted to be with you he would be. He wouldn't be leading this other girl on and shagging her the moment you leave.
Plus, why would he want to get back with you when you keep having sex with him? He's getting what he wants and can go and h... (read in full...)
Do I just see where this goes or try to resist the chemistry?
Q. So I've gotten myself into a mess, I've fallen for an older guy, I'm 22 and he's 37. We work together in a job that requires close teamwork and having to have each other's backs. That is difficult when we're going the physical training side of the ...
A. 1 April 2009: If he has a partner hun then no matter how much you want him, he is still off limits.
You can get him but you have to be strong and a bit hard about it.
For now, you need to do NOTHING. You don't need the added pressure of office gossip an... (read in full...)
He's fallen out with our daughter and now loves to walk around in the nude!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 16 years this year, very happy mostly all of that time, except for the last 4 years, he's just turned 48, he had a big falling out with his daughter at that time, bacause she lied, and she also had a young ...
A. 1 April 2009: Oh dear, this sounds like a mid life crisis.
He's trying to prove to himself that he's still sexy and adventurous, and not an old man.
I know 48 isn't old but he can see the big 50 approaching and that can't be great.
I think what he needs... (read in full...)
Maybe it IS me and she just doesn't want to be my friend any more...
Q. Ok about a year ago my friend told me she likes this boy in one of our classes. He also happens to be the boy I liked the previous year. I told him I liked him on valentines day via a card and he gave me one back saying he was flattered but he had a ...
A. 1 April 2009: She's acting like a 13 year old girl.
Unfortunately she is crazy in love with this guy and not mature enough to handle it.
There is a good chance that she will be a bad friend through all this because she hasn't learned that boys come and go... (read in full...)
Anyone's been in my situation??
Q. Ok usually i dont ask for help but I guess we could always use some good advice, so heres what i got, I guess you could call it a love triangle, thers this girl that's friends with my ex girl friend and I was friends with her ex, we dont really talk...
A. 1 April 2009: Well if both your exs are out of the picture and there is no old feelings anywhere then just make a move.
Tell her you think she's beautiful and put your arm round her. See what happens. If she thinks it's weird then she'll make an excuse to escap... (read in full...)
Is he still physically attracted to me?
Q. ex broke up with me about 6 months ago when i see him i usually have a convo with him cos im still friendly with him because thats the type of gal i am but after stuff that he told my best mate i decided i had enough of making an effort with him so ...
A. 1 April 2009: Well he's obviously physically attracted to you in that he didn't throw up during sex.
As for if he wants to get back together with you is another question entirely.
He's messing you about and that is never good. The fact you also allow yours... (read in full...)
Stay at home mom depressed, no motivation! What to do?
Q. Please help! Im stuck in a rut and dont no wot to do. Im an at home mum of a 9 month old. I feel really depressed, one min im happy, nxt im down and i get really snappy at my boyfriend. I love him and my daughter very much, and hate takin it out on ...
A. 1 April 2009: You need to go back to the doc.
These are all symptoms of depression.
He put you on the pills but if they are not doing the trick you have to go and try and different pill or something different. It's exactly the same as anti-biotics, yo... (read in full...)
22 and NOT horny!
Q. I am 22 and have been with my partner for 5years. He is 50. When the relationship started the sex was amazing. Now, i dont feel horny towards him anymore. Dont feel horny towards any male really. is there something wrong with me? what can i do to ...
A. 1 April 2009: Well it could be that your feelings have faded from love into friendship.
Many people find that initial feeling of love fades after 3 to 5 years.
The fact you don't feel attracted to ANYONE though may mean you are going through a period of chan... (read in full...)
Could I still have sex if on my period? And what could happen to me?
Q. well my boyfriends birthday is coming up and his gift i want it to be a night alone. and well been a night alone with your boyfriend things might happedn. the thing is that for that day i might be on the last days of my period. or maybe even a day ...
A. 1 April 2009: Periods are messy smelly horrible things.
So for him to have to finger you to turn you on and then get it all over himself... well it's hardly a romantic first time is it?
Just do something for him instead and enjoy the closeness you ge... (read in full...)
Am I fat?
Q. hi i just wanted to know , im 5"4 tall and i weigh 165 pounds !! am i fat ?!!!!!!!...
A. 1 April 2009: Your BMI is a little higher than it should be.
If you need help with a healthy eating plan then hit google. There are a million billion sites out there that can help you.
But in general:
Eat less crap, eat only good stuff and eat only when ... (read in full...)
He's had affairs, hit me, said horrible things..is this love?
Q. My husband had been caught out having affairs since then we have been trying to talk things through but always end up rowing with him lashing out he throws things somethimes he hits me threatens to kill me,he gets into such a rage i dont think he ...
A. 1 April 2009: You are such a classic case of this.
He does not love you.
You say you will not be able to make it on your own. But you give no reason for that and I'll tell you why.
The only reason you think you couldn't "make it" being single is because ... (read in full...)
Could this pain mean I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi, four days after I ovulated this month I had a pain in my ovary! I've been trying to get pregnant for few years now and this is the first time I have had a pain in my ovary after ovulation. Could it be something related with pregnancy?...
A. 1 April 2009: Ok, you are married and I'm guessing you are more at the 21 end of of the 18 to 21.
I just had an image of you going round shagging boys trying to get pregnant from 16. Phew!
Well if your doc said it was ovulation then it was most likely ovul... (read in full...)
This texting lark is doing my head in. Should I dump her?
Q. need advice girlfriend is texting 3 married men and its driving me mad sometimes its just conversation other times it has sexual references we have been going out over a year and are just about to build a house thing is she goes mad if other i even ...
A. 1 April 2009: She's certainly got you where she wants you!
You can't have a relationship where she can flirt with other men but you can't talk to other girls.
You either have to have 100% only each other and live like monks... Or you have to trust each other... (read in full...)
What does "you are so sweet" mean?
Q. Can someone please give some input into this scenario? Especially can someone please advisie on what is meant by "sweet" I am from continental Europe and wondered what definition was meant by this? I've been chatting to this girl at the gym...
A. 1 April 2009: She meant it was really lovely of you to ask her and you are a really nice guy.
She was reassuring you that she's not rejecting you because she doesn't like you, she thinks you are lovely, but she's just not in the market right now.
Carry o... (read in full...)
Can I play sports with this condition? Does anyone have this?
Q. Hi i have recently been diagnosed with vasovagal syncope its basically low blood pressure...before i began 2 faint with this alot sports was my world i played all the time..but now after 8 months of waiting for an answer as to weather i can play ...
A. 1 April 2009: Hun, you can't trust what people on the internet say over what your doctors say.
I know you want it to be wrong, but they know what they are talking about.
I had low blood pressure for a long time but it's gone up since I put on weight.
Tr... (read in full...)
My parents are religious anti-lifestyle nuts who looked down on my deceased beloved sister
Q. My best friend committed suicide two days ago and in her note, she said it's because she was in love with me but she knew I came from a Christian family and she didn't want to create a rift between my parents and I. So she kept quiet about even ...
A. 1 April 2009: Unfortunately we live in a free world.
If they want to believe that a big sky man wants them to be miserable, and he sent his son down to spread peace and love (but only to white middle class straight people) then that is their choice.
Jesus h... (read in full...)
An explosive geyser or a dribble?
Q. Men and Women: What is the most you have ever ejaculated in one sex session? What do you think contributed to the amount of ejaculate you had?...
A. 1 April 2009: I was watching a documentary about this last night on TV.
They were saying how porn had affected our perceptions of what was normal and getting teens to spoon out how much they thought a man should be coming and how far it should be going.
... (read in full...)
What do I do about porn in the workplace?
Q. Ok...i have had heaps of issues with my hubby and porn over the past 8 years. He has finally dealt with it through counselling talking etc... Everything is great with us now. Now my problem is at work. See my boss has been visiting porn sites...
A. 1 April 2009: If he is looking at porn discretely and it's just online then it's none of your business.
If you are on his computer and they are there to see then just laugh shout "EWWWWWWWWW!! LOOK AT THIS!!" and show everyone in the office.
If he wanted ... (read in full...)
Can we even be friends? I don't know what to think!
Q. This guy and I were friends for about a year and we always got along, we flirted on and off with eachother, but nothing ever really came about. As time went on, I noticed that he started doing little things that seemed like he liked me--but he never ...
A. 1 April 2009: It could be that he never wanted you as a friend, he only ever saw you as something more.... But he didn't have the balls to tell you or make a move.
If you were really his friend then he would have replied and kept you around.
If you were a... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with my mother again after all this time?
Q. I am 27 years old and have not spoken to my mother since I was 16. She married my step father when I was 10 and he began molesting me shortly there after. After 6 years of molestation and rape I finally found the nerve to tell my mother what was ...
A. 1 April 2009: I think if you don't see her and she dies then you will always wonder about whether it would have helped you to talk to her.
I would go, meet up with her. But do not expect ANYTHING from her.
She may still not be sorry, she may still think she ... (read in full...)
Could this pain mean I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi, four days after I ovulated this month I had a pain in my ovary! I've been trying to get pregnant for few years now and this is the first time I have had a pain in my ovary after ovulation. Could it be something related with pregnancy?...
A. 1 April 2009: It says you are 18 to 21. So I hope you haven't been trying for a baby for a few years if that is true.
If you are having troubles conceiving then go and talk to a doctor though.
He can take a look at all the factors and give you better advic... (read in full...)
How do I put my family back together after all the heartache this girl has caused?
Q. Hi this is going to be an essay sorry. My son met a girl in Aug 2007 just before he joined the army, then in March 2008 she said she was pregnant,twins they got engaged and we had a family celibration party all was well baby due Nov 28, she was ...
A. 1 April 2009: I think you have to just go through the courts.
This girl is clearly mentally ill to have gone through something like this.
You have to finally call her bluff and not believe anything she says until it is in writing with proof.
I don'... (read in full...)
At 27, I like girls but I'm also scared of them
Q. i am 27 and i am a virgin, this is not a religon thing its a scared thing, in fact i have never even kissed a girl. i dont know why i like girls alot but im afraid of the reaction im gonna get. i have good looks and a great job and have probably ...
A. 1 April 2009: All I can do here is kick you up the arse.
GET THE HELL ON WITH IT!!!
If the situation is right and she is throwing out signs that she wants to be kissed then stop being a little boy! Be a man and do it.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Is it true that 45% of women hate having sex?
Q. is it true that some woman dont have any sexual feelings?? as some men off course my wife doesn't like sex she is sexually dead. i am afraid i couldn't find a better word. the problem is that i love her, i am not naif and i know how to turn ...
A. 1 April 2009: The 45% is wrong, you cannot seriously believe that half the female population of the world have no feelings that way. The human race would have died out!
I'm not sure what the heck is going on with her but she is certainly not normal. And it's... (read in full...)
Do younger guys like older girls?
Q. is wrong to fancy a guy of 27 yaers old and i am 29 years old.its just a question.do younger guys like older girls.2 years is probably a huge age gap. i suppose younger guys don,t like older girls....
A. 1 April 2009: 27 and 29 is nothing. It's not like you're 2 years above him at school.
Age stops mattering after 25.
Go for it!
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Hes sleeping on the couch..leaving at the end of the week, and I don't want him to go!
Q. Your Open QuestionShow me another » Serious boyfriend troubles? I need some help please. I've been with my partner for 4 years and at the weekend we had a big row and now he is moving out of the house. He is currently sleeping on the couch and wi...
A. 1 April 2009: You have to give us more information.
This can't just be about one row. This is something he must have thought about doing for a while.
Crying and pleading is not going to work.
You have to get strong and let him go. The old phrase is true. ... (read in full...)
Should I take her to the prom to please my parents?
Q. My parents want me to go to my senior prom with a family friend's daughter. She is cute and friendly but I don't really know her that well so I am not that comfortable with the idea. If I don't take her I won't have a date and I will go to my final ...
A. 31 March 2009: Don't have your friends around.
Just ask them to give you a sec and dash over and do it.
Smile! You are going to have fun.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I went into his myspace account and found out he's cheating
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girls so i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access) and he is cheating i want to end it now b...
A. 31 March 2009: Excellent news!
The fact that you are strong enough to do this means you are going to be able to stay away from all the guys that will ever try and hurt you.
Being a strong woman is the best thing you can be.
Never settle for anyone who do... (read in full...)
Does having a simple, tiny "crush" on the same sex, even though you are definitely straight, make you bi?
Q. I know, I know. Some of you might respond with "EWWWW" or "GROSSS" etc., but I just wanted a little input. I didn't mean for this to happen. I've always been straight. Boyfriends, the whole deal and what not, I've been through it.. but recently ...
A. 31 March 2009: Why would anyone think it's gross? It's just human nature.
You are in your teens and still going through hormonal changes. So nothing you feel now means anything really.
This may be the last time you ever feel this, it may be something that c... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend to bits but I just can't picture her in a sexual way...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I've got a question. My gf and I have been togehter for a long time like 2 years and I love her with all my heart. I'm going to see her in a little bit and it's just gunna be me and her at her house. Her parents trust me and we're ...
A. 31 March 2009: Are you sure you don't just love her as a friend?
You don't HAVE to have sex for many years if you are happy as you are.
You are very young and a lot can change so don't worry and just stick to kissing.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Does smoking effect the way the pill works on the body?
Q. I'm taking the pill and have been for nearly two years. However last year I started smoking. I am on the last few pills for this month and I am going on holiday in a couple of days. I was planning on missing the gap between packs so that I won't be ...
A. 31 March 2009: Well in a way...
Smoking makes you stink. So boys won't want you, so you won't need to worry about the pill.
Always use condoms.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Another question about anal sex!
Q. Does the majority of women like or dislike anal sex... and would a woman leave her man because of it??...
A. 31 March 2009: I think if I were serious about a guy and wanted to be with him for life and he had a thing about anal sex then I may rethink our relationship.
It's just not something I could ever compromise on.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
What did he mean by his statement?
Q. Dear Cupid, Robert and I were best friends for two and a half years and then we decided to be more than friends. I waited on him to figure out what he wanted for four months then we dated for two months, I didn't talk to him for three months and we ...
A. 31 March 2009: It sounds to me like you just texted emailed and talked on the phone.
Did you even ever kiss this guy?
I think whatever it was, it's over and you need to move on. Get out and have fun with your friends.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I take her to the prom to please my parents?
Q. My parents want me to go to my senior prom with a family friend's daughter. She is cute and friendly but I don't really know her that well so I am not that comfortable with the idea. If I don't take her I won't have a date and I will go to my final ...
A. 31 March 2009: You seem to think you have disappointed them by not getting a date.
That is not true.
They probably just thought it would be nice for you to have someone to go with, and have you thought that she may be really upset that she couldn't get a d... (read in full...)
Confuse on what to do, birth pills question
Q. I have a question on birth pills. I just started it a week ago. My period started on Tuesday, then I took the pills on the Sunday (end of the week) following the days on the strip. I had sex exactly a week after (the following Sunday) and no cond...
A. 31 March 2009: If you've taken the pill correctly as it told you to on the instructions then no you should be protected.
If you are worried then go to the family planning clinic and have a chat with them about how to take the pill right and everything else.
... (read in full...)
I am just not sure what to be doing at the moment
Q. Hi Me and my Boyfriend have had an on off relationship I suppose...We get on and have a great laugh. The problem is every now and again he will call to pick an argument with me and split up with me and then a week down the line we will be back ...
A. 31 March 2009: You could start by getting some self respect.
Is this all you really think you deserve?
A guy that is there when he can be arsed but just dumps you when he fancies shagging someone else guilt free, then rolls back to you because he knows... (read in full...)
Do antibiotics affect contraceptive pill? Could I be pregnant?
Q. another "could i be pregnant" question, sorry. I know you guys get a lot of these but i have read through a few and not found any like this, so here goes. Im on the contraceptive pill but have been taking antibiotics for over a week now, Will t...
A. 31 March 2009: Yes you could very well be pregnant.
The pharmacist AND the doctor should have warned you about that.
It says you are 18 - 21 years. But since you mention you being young, is that not right?
If you are underage then they may have assumed yo... (read in full...)
I went into his myspace account and found out he's cheating
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girls so i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access) and he is cheating i want to end it now b...
A. 29 March 2009: He's cheating on you and won't even have the decency to admit it.
If you meet up with him and believe his lies then you are going to end up going out with losers and liars for the rest of your life.
You learn what to do in relationships wh... (read in full...)
I went into his myspace account and found out he's cheating
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 months now and recently had suspicions of him cheating/flirting with other girls so i went on his myspace account to look at his messages (the ones only he can access) and he is cheating i want to end it now b...
A. 29 March 2009: Why do you care about if he knows you snooped?
He'll be your ex and he can think what he likes.
Tell him you know he's cheating and it's over and then cut contact. It doesn't really matter how you found out. Just tell him you know about him a... (read in full...)
G/f depressed because she's obese
Q. My girlfriend is depressed because she’s obese. She’s tried quite a lot of diets but nothing seems to work as she gives up after a couple of weeks. Generally I’d say she eats about the same amount that I do and if anything I’m underweight. What can ...
A. 17 March 2009: Well the problem with diets is that you have to stick with them.
And it's not about how MUCH she eats, it's WHAT she eats.
All she has to do to lose weight is eat healthy things and exercise. She has to burn up more calories every day than s... (read in full...)
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