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Is 30 years old, OLD?

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Question - (23 March 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2009)
A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

is 30 years old ,old? because i think its old.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

90 is old my dear. I didn't like turning 30 it felt depressing but thats because my life was not how I wanted it. I think that is the key - you feel old if life is not good. I'm 37 soon and I am looking forward to my 40s and beyond.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (23 March 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntI just turned 57 and I wouldn't be 30 again if you paid me, well maybe if you paid me...

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A female reader, desirewhitefire Austria +, writes (23 March 2009):

desirewhitefire agony auntNo, 30 isn't old. It just sounds old. :)

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A female reader, bethevans United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2009):

bethevans agony auntnooo, 30 .. is like nt even half your life.. your young.. your free ;) make the most of it :S x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

I guess 30 is old if you're aged 20, and very, very old if you're aged 7.

Now here's the truth - if I could select a time in my life to start again it would have to be at around age 40. Life really does begin then. The kids have hopefully fled the nest and you're free to do whatever you want with your life. Hopefully the mortgage will be just about paid off and is peanuts by that time. Your money will be your own apart from the usual bills, and life gets much sweeter all round. When the grandchildren come to visit you can hand them back again. After you've cleared up their mess you can relax and watch the box without interruption. Sex gets better too. No more saying "Quiet!, the kids will hear us!" Dealing with moody teenagers is hopefully a thing of the past.

Oh yes, 40 is a good time in a person's life. A very good time!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

I'm 20 and I fluctuate between wishing I was in high school again to enjoy all the possibilities I only now realise I had and wishing I looked much older to get the accompanying respect and not getting carded all the time when going to the pub; it all depends on my mood, so yeah it's definitely all in the mind :)

Life sucks that way, but whatever, just have to live for enjoyment and not think about it too much.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

It would be of help to know why you feel old and if you are in a relationship or looking for one?

Your post reminds me of a film scene where this playboy falls for his last conquest, despite of the age difference. He asks her if she thinks he is too old for her when they had not long met and she hesitates: "Oh no, I collect antiques... or I aspire to." This doesn't seem funny at all at first sight, I'm sure, but think that in the same way many women are attracted to older men as in this case, the revearse situation is just as plausible. There are many articles out there that give out a few tips to men on how to be attractive to older women. Why do you think many men are interested in reading them? And why not, you can find someone closer to your age.

Surely you are older than a 20-year-old, but this is not to mean you are old, but presumably more mature than that. You probably wouldn't have made the above blunder because you are shy and feel cornered by a more direct question. You are not old, just "older" and your experience should serve you well. If you don't have much experience on the dating scene, this can also be attractive. For every need, there is a perfect provision, so keep looking!

In the film, this line didn't sound like a blunder but rather the lack of skill of a shy young lady which in the right scenery actually came across as funny. What you can do is go back 10 years ago and see how much wiser your experiences, joy and hurt, have made you become and in which specific departments you have improved, this exercise should make you feel better. Don't compare yourself to other younger women but yourself when you were of younger age, because you know yourself best and the stages you have been.

Don't insist on negative thoughts, just look forward to all that pleases you, make time for your favourite activities and add some more, new and useful that make you feel you are in shape. Not only sports, but also fulfilling and meaningful conversations can make you feel in shape, give ear to the news to be informed of all that's new and exciting, interesting to you, and plan a good daily schedule that you are happy with, this way you have resources to talk to people regardless of age and entertain each other, maybe you should find new ways to interact with people, too.

Don't think of age as anything more than just a number, in this way you maintain a healthy point of view and avoid thinking you are too old to do this and that. Don't impose unnecessary limits upon yourself and you'll triumph.

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (23 March 2009):

Honeygirl agony auntHell no - thirty is still so young!! I am 46 and loving it! Age is all in the mind!

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2009):

I hope not as I'm 26 and I haven't got my pension fund high enough to retire at 30.

If you have then you are very lucky.

Now stop moaning and go out and have some fun.

Good Luck!! xx

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