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writes:Right I have a boyfriend who really likes me, and i don;t really know why i said yes to seeing him, i don't think I've ever had strong feelings for him, but we've been with each other for 3 months, we don't live near each other and maybe see each other on weekends. but recently I've been going out with him and his friends and have fallen for one of his best friends, who apparently used to fancy me, and was going to ask me out a while ago. I don't think i want to be with my boyfriend anymore as i don't have feelings for him and also i can't stop thinking about his friend. But I'm afraid i will seem a bitch if i finish my boyfriend because i can't stop thinking about his friend, and i don't even think anything will happen between me and his friend, as his friend will be doing right by my boyfriend! I'm confused, help!
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reader, Green_Glaze  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Hey,if you really really like this guys best friend.. i say you go for it. yea i know its not as easy to do as it is t say. but actually it is. just tell your boyfriend that he is a very nice guy but yu think youd be better off as friends and since you guys. when you get involved in a relationship you guys become not just boyfriend and girlfriend but you also become friends, and if he is a good enough one than he will understand..if he isn than just go for it anyways girl! you cant waiste your time, life is short!! you just cant ask ut this guy right away.. just hang out with him for long time and eventually you guys will kiss or something and you can start building from there.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 March 2009):
Unfortunately you have learned that if you go out with a guy just because he is there, then you are stuck with him.
You've been using your boyfriend which is very selfish. You maybe don't realise you are doing it but trust me, you are keeping him around because it's easier for you, and that means you are lying to him that you really like him.
You need to split up with him. It's not fair for you to keep leading him on.
As for the friend, he will probably not want his mate's sloppy seconds. Sorry.
But you will at least learn from this that it is much better to be single than to be with someone you don't like just because he is there.
Good Luck!! xx
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