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*reg_dean
writes:My wife and I got married over christmas. A few weeks ago I went out of state to celebrate my best friends birthday I messed around with another girl. I told my fiend and she was vey upset but choose to forgive me.Friday night my wife and I went out with a huge group of friends, to announce that we ae excepting ou fist baby and one of the other couples (who had been with me on my out of state trip) said "lets hope Gregs, swimmers werent that stong in Vegas" then contined to laugh about the fact that I messed around while away.My wife was humilated as would I. I thought these people were my friends but why would they do that ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): ok what does 'messed around mean' light flirting? kissing? sex? Let's not all jump to conclusions. in terms of your friends i'd say - pick your friends better & also don't DO anything you'd be emarrased about. If you're a slimeball at least have the smarts to 'don't get caught'.
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reader, schristinar85 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 You're a pig. My heart is breaking for your wife. Whether she says she forgives you or not, this is something she will never really be able to forget. I hope eventually she has the courage to kick you to the curb and find a real man that will treat her like she deserves to be treated and will also teach your child how to be a respectful, caring Human being. Since you're obviously not capable. And as for your friends, sounds like you guys deserve each other. Your all disrespectful assholes. Hope that nasty vegas pussy was worth it. Karmas a bitch, you'll get yours.
xoxo bitch
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): you messed up and YOU are upset at your friends. you broke your marriage vows, you cheated. They did not humiliate your wife, YOU DID. You just wanted your sex in Vegas to be a secret. your poor wife and now she is pregnant. she doesn't deserve this. priorities man, where are they, do you have any?how about respecting your wife a little. You, that is her husband. and you allowed your friends to disrespect her too. when you love someone you always try to protect them from any hurt. well, you just compounded her hurt and pain. wow, man....so inconsiderate of you, let's just hope that your "swimmers were weak in vegas" and that you didn't bring anything else home with you - like what, LIKE STD'S for example. Get yourself checked asap. You wouldn't want your wife to catch it as well. WHAT HAPPENS NOW IN YOUR LIFE?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): They properly lost a bit of respect for you but really, expect jokes like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): I agree with all the previous answers! You need to get your priorities straight. You should thank God that your wife forgave you! And as for your friends...to disrespect your wife like that, I would have nothing further to do with them! I hope you spend the rest of your life making up for the shitty way you treated your pregnant wife!
I hope you appreciate that she must be a saint to forgive the pain you have caused her!
You will have to do everything in your power to regain her trust! It won't happen quickly. Be understanding when she seems to mistrust you. It is your doing that has caused it! As said previously...it's consequences!
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reader, sometimes ( Iwish)  +, writes (22 March 2009):
 You cheated on the person you just married and are having a child with; and the problem you see right now is your social friends acosting you in public!. Bud, it is time to man up on your life. Do this soon before the reward is too to dull to want. (A little vulgar here: don't shit where you eat.)If you have to be an adultarer be considerite still. Remember that when you cheat on a woman, you actually cheat on every woman you know. Think about that. People respect you by your actions! If you still want your life with who you married now is the time to decide if your driving, or along for the drive. Don't ever let anything ever humiliate your wife. People do stray when they are scared, it's ok, but get back in your head and stay faithful to her if you want that. Babies change every aspect of living for the better. Turn your other cheek, and take this one quietly. Be the true man you are. Your wife and soon coming child will RESPECT you honestly.Take care manRegards,
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (22 March 2009):
 Well then they arent youre friends. They are right though, even if they shouldnt have said that and joked about it the way they did. Yu should never have cheated on your wife. And now she's pregnant?! She can't trust you at all. If you wanted to see/ mess around with other women then why did get married!!! You care about being embarressed, but I feel worst for your wife. You will be lucky if you stay together. Thats not right. Im sorry to bash you, but you really need to man up. If you can't you have a wife, you are lucky to have her. If you dont realize that, then you shouldnt be togther.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (22 March 2009):
That wasn't a very nice thing of them to do to your wife.
But then I get the feeling that they are your friends more than hers, and since you don't seem to respect her, why should they?
If you treat her like crap by cheating on her months into your marriage then they are going to assume they can do it too.
They maybe just thought you told her about it, or that the marriage was a sham anyway.
Since you'll need a sofa to sleep on when you wife kicks you out then you can go round to the person who said it's house and he can make it up to you by feeding you and putting up with you till you find a place of your own.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): It's called "consequences".... you're wife and friends mught be saying or thinking the same thing, i.e. "Why would he do that?" Your friend was rude, and you're a cad. At least he said it to your face. Won't be the last time you and your wife will be humiliated --- "Hey, remeber that weekebd in Vegas when...?!?" Get used to it.
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