Are these symptoms of OCD?
Q. Im constantly biting my nails and the skin surrounding it.. also im constantly checking my face for any bumbs, pimples, blackheads.. and i do my boyfriends face too! Are this signs of OCD?...
A. 26 March 2009: OCD means you get anxious to the point of panic attacks thinking that something bad will happen if your routines are not in place.
You just have a bad habit or biting your nails and you're a bit anal about clear skin.
Try buying some of t... (read in full...)
This really hot looking girl has asked for my phone number... but I have a girlfriend albeit I'm not crazy on her.
Q. There is a girl surveying our building at work and I guess she is there for a week or so. The last few days she has been making eyes at me and smiling and I have been reciprocating. I've never had this sort of instant attraction feeling with a girl ...
A. 25 March 2009: It seems pretty clear to me what you should do.
Get rid of your girlfriend. If she doesn't like kissing you then you are not boyfriend and girlfriend anyway. You are just good mates.
When I was single, I would curl up and go to sleep with guys ... (read in full...)
Problems with son and college.
Q. I was recently told by my 17-year-old son's college lecturer that he's been getting poor grades. I asked why, and all he said was "your son's more interested in pursuing a vendetta than his grades". I confronted my son, and asked him what this wa...
A. 25 March 2009: Vendetta is a very odd word to use.
Why would the college lecturer tell you something so vague in such dramatic prose?
Either way, leave him to it. It's his own life.
Good Luck!! xx
PS. If this is the resident dearcupid faker then th... (read in full...)
I don't understand what's going on, was he just using me?
Q. I meet this lad a few month's ago on a night out, we exchanged numbers and that was it, He was texting me for a while after but I started to back off as I had just come out of a realationship and he was getting a little too serious for me, telling ...
A. 25 March 2009: You had your fun together, but maybe he just decided the history and the feelings of being rejected were too much.
Or maybe he's a psychotic murderer and you had a lucky escape.
Either way, he's hardly the man of your dreams. He was just one ... (read in full...)
Pregnant in a foreign country..what do I do?
Q. I'm pregnant in a foeign country. (exchange student) What do I do? I don't want to tell my parents neither the guy.. is there a way I can abort withut them knowing? and after the abortion., do you need to like stay in bed? ..please. someone ...
A. 25 March 2009: I have no idea what country you are in so it's very hard to advise you since the laws and attitudes in different countries differ so much.
Is the father from the country you are in?
If so then your best bet is to talk to him. He has to know u... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm a gold digger?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a great 4 month relationship, he wanted me to move in, even talked marriage. But then this happened.. 1 year before I met him, I had great trauma - bad abusive bf (left after 3 months) but a man from a different state ...
A. 25 March 2009: Then you just have to talk to him and find out what the hell is going on in that brain of his.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
I really just want him to grow up and behave like an adult instead of a child running away and sulking and hiding.
Q. When my boyfriend gets angry over something I did he does not show his anger he internalizes it. A few days after he makes more out of it and says he needs space to get over it. He makes mountains out of molehills. His friends all say he is a great ...
A. 25 March 2009: Hello again.
I see Gina recognises the repost too. You keep getting advice here so why not follow it rather than coming back and rephrasing the question.
You seem desperate for someone to agree this is some kind of commitment phobic response.... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm a gold digger?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a great 4 month relationship, he wanted me to move in, even talked marriage. But then this happened.. 1 year before I met him, I had great trauma - bad abusive bf (left after 3 months) but a man from a different state ...
A. 25 March 2009: Have you offered to post the ring back to this guy who stalked you?
He would have no way of knowing where it came from so you would be safe but your boyfriend might get over this silly complex of his.
You have to talk to him and find out wha... (read in full...)
Can I go on like this for another 20 years?
Q. My husband is driving me crazy. I don't know what is wrong with him. He says he loves me, but I don't feel it. He is not looking at me with desire, and he never wants sex. He is impotent, but not medically. He can have night erections, but not able...
A. 25 March 2009: Well if you are seriously considering leaving I think you should tell him that and it may make him consider therapy a bit more.
Men sometimes will hide from a problem and say things like "trust me" and "it'll be fine" because they want it to be fi... (read in full...)
Sex in an elevator????
Q. My boyfriend is about 10 years older than me. I really like sex a lot and the fact that I'm young he loves the fact that I love to have sex all the time. I want to try having sex with him in an elevator but I think he's too scared to do it, how do I ...
A. 25 March 2009: Do it at your workplace so if you get caught then he's not the one that gets in trouble.
Then just tell him how sexy it would be.
If he doesn't want to do it then you can't make him though
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Cheated on ex, he found out, made out with one of my friends
Q. I'm 18, and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years. I've had a history of cheating on him, but he always forgave me. Lately I had been having different feelings about him and havnt been feeling the same about him. There was no spark ...
A. 25 March 2009: You treated him like crap and she has had to watch you wipe your feet all over your relationship and then listen when you complained that you weren't happy.
She probably just felt sorry for the poor guy! Perhaps she was a bit jealous that you coul... (read in full...)
Should I move back home if I'm jobless?
Q. I moved to a city to get a job and now in my third month of living here and have no hope left. I am qualified and have not had problems getting a job in the past but in the current climate its not looking good. Im about to go through a break up and ...
A. 25 March 2009: I would go home if I were you.
It's rent free, cosy, you have friends and family around you and will allow you to get over your boyfriend and not have to suffer a long drawn out breakup for no reason.
You can get any old job in a shop or as a w... (read in full...)
Why is he punishing me in this way? Is he just scared of commitment?
Q. My boyfriend and I have taken a 2 week break which I really need to sort out my thinking. First I love him and do want to be with him but here is the dilemma... He is very emotional and when he gets angry he runs away and goes into his man cave ...
A. 25 March 2009: Any one who said that I needed to be "taught a lesson" or "punished" would not see me for dust.
It's disrespectful and patronising.
It seems that this is who this man is. Sulky, childish and happy to talk down to you and put you on the naugh... (read in full...)
Why can't I get away from him and get over him?
Q. Let me start off that i am 20 and this guy in my life is about 25. I have known him about a year and a half and I fell completely in love with him. I belived he felt the same. He started doing heroin again when i moved outta state for a couple ...
A. 25 March 2009: Then you are just weak.
You are like a child who's angry with it's mother but wants a hug from her at the same time.
Or like a dog who needs to have someone to tell it what to do.
Grow up and find a way to get stronger or accept that ... (read in full...)
Teen mums!
Q. I'd just like to know your opinions on "teen mums". If the legal age to have sex (in the UK) is 16, why do parents age 16-20 get frowned upon? Also what age do you think is appropriate to be a grandparent? ...
A. 25 March 2009: The age of consent is 16 in the uk, but that doesn't mean that a 16 year old is not a child.
And a since having a baby is such a terribly difficult thing to do, we don't trust children to do it right.
Also, what 16 yearold is working enough t... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mum I want to lose my virginity?
Q. should i tell my mom that i want to loose my virginity?...
A. 25 March 2009: Yes you should tell your mum.
Then she can tell you that at your age it's perfectly normal to crave sex and crave growing up.
But she can also tell you what a BAD idea it is and how you will feel worthless for the rest of your life if you do i... (read in full...)
PMT or just plain emotional?
Q. hi guys, this isnt really a relationship question but since you all give really good advise i thought it was worth a try. My doctor advised me to take 3 months of my contraceptive pill without a break due to antibiotics intefearing with...
A. 25 March 2009: Yep, you are overdosing on hormones.
If you are taking them none stop then it's going to have side effects.
One of them will probably be crying your eyes out about everything this week.
Lock yourself away with a good book and some chocolate ... (read in full...)
Really need some help!
Q. I have been with my partner for 7 years, I was 16 when we got together, now I'm 23, and I am starting to feel that I want to go and explore life. I think I still love him, but I feel I've missed out on a whole part of my life. We seem to have les...
A. 25 March 2009: Unfortunately between the ages of 16 and 23 you have grown up and that means you are a different person and want different things.
It's coming up to the end of the year for you so rather than pour a load of stress on to both of you by trying t... (read in full...)
What's causing my unhappiness and how can I change?
Q. Hi, i just need a bit of advice so if anyone can offer some that would be great? Been with my boyfriend 3 years, love him, thing is we had history we went together for 6 months, broke up for a year then got back together been back together three ye...
A. 25 March 2009: Why isn't he happy you are going on holiday? Is it that he doesn't trust you?
Also, as you have found, SAYING that he's going to fix something doesn't actually do anything.
I think deep down you want to split up with him and you are just loo... (read in full...)
She is unsatisfied in sex with her husband
Q. how do I know a woman i am looking for sexual relationship is also interested because she is unsatisfied in sex with her husband...
A. 25 March 2009: Well if she is married, then don't have sex with her.
Simple.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Why can't I get away from him and get over him?
Q. Let me start off that i am 20 and this guy in my life is about 25. I have known him about a year and a half and I fell completely in love with him. I belived he felt the same. He started doing heroin again when i moved outta state for a couple ...
A. 25 March 2009: Because you are weak and you are addicted to the drama of the relationship.
If you walked away and didn't have all this DRAMA AND WOE to fill your day and bore your friends with then life would be pretty boring, huh?
The thing you have to real... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always makes me jealous
Q. So my girlfriend is always making me jealous..and she knows it. I hate that feeling i get, she knows i don't like it, yet she keeps doing it..i don't want to keep feeling this... And i've never made her jealous before.. What can i do? If anything....
A. 25 March 2009: She's doing it because she enjoying having the power over you to do that.
It's a control thing and it's not very nice.
Tell her that you REALLY hate it when she does it, and if she does it then walk away. Don't give her the satisfaction of ... (read in full...)
What's after the 'honey-moon' stage?
Q. What is a relationship suppose to feel like after the initial "honeymoon" stage?...
A. 25 March 2009: Like it's over. Or it needs some kind of shot in the arm to liven it up again.
I don't ever want to be with someone where the honeymoon stage ends completely.
There is a a point where you just feel comfortable with each other etc. You stop wo... (read in full...)
How can I find out more about his rehabilitation?
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. Only until recently, approximately 2 months ago, my boyfriend sobered up. He use to drink and smoke marijuana. He is currently checking into rehab this week. He realizes he has a problem and I am ...
A. 25 March 2009: Call the clinic and ask them to send you out some pamphlets. They will know a lot more than we do.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
He wants to take it easy and go with the flow
Q. I have been seeing a man since last Nov. He lives 1 1/2 hours north of me. I knew him for about 2 years prior but we only saw each other every 6-8 weeks and never got involved, timing was wrong. So Nov things were different. We were great ...
A. 25 March 2009: I think he thinks that he's got you now, and so no more effort is required.
Unfortunately if he's that kind of guy then you don't find that out till after the romance and after you've started falling for him.
But it seems like it was the thril... (read in full...)
Why push for a ring and then back out?
Q. Why would she push for an engagement and then break it off? I have been dating this girl for over three years living together for over two. She really pushed for a ring. We went to jewelry stores and looked for awhile then I purchased one. She ...
A. 25 March 2009: Ah engagement and marriage. It all sounds so romantic and the answer to all your problems.
Then you met a priest who told her "actually this is more about a cake and a dress, this is a legally binding life long contract, and it's F*****G serious!... (read in full...)
To wait or not to wait?
Q. I have been on and off dating this guy for about a year. When we started dating I was not 100% on board-- hence we were off and on. I was the reason we did not ever end up staying together long before because I could not decide what I want. Truth be ...
A. 25 March 2009: To be fair, it's no wonder he's hurt. If he loved you and was willing to give it a go and you ummed and ahhhed over whether he'd be worth the hassle then he's going to feel a bit rejected.
Even if you have finally said "Oh go on then!" it's sti... (read in full...)
She says she's interested in me but wants more time... is she stalling?
Q. Hiya, I'm having a problem with this amazing girl who I have been intrested in since December but she, for some reason wants more time even though she has said that we will be together. She says she's intrested in me but she keeps stalling. Should I ...
A. 25 March 2009: She's probably a bit scared, and there is being supportive etc etc etc and then there comes a point where you just have to kick the bay bird out the nest and force it to fly.
Tell her that you don't think she'll ever be ready and you are really s... (read in full...)
Teacher Love?
Q. ok...do i hear anybody? *tests mic* ok...good. Listen please, i really need help. My teacher said i'm sexy and i'm only 13, he's 29. i love him, and i know all the risks i'm taking if i do love him. (The whole teacher can loose his job thing) Yea...
A. 25 March 2009: Well since he didn't do anything more than a cheek kiss, he probably won't be arrested so by doing this, you've probably saved him from being registered as a sex offender.
Well done! xx... (read in full...)
I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 25 March 2009: If she was in a vulnerable state and he was an arsehole, then it's no wonder that he was able to shark back in there.
I just hope that she has the strength to use him as rebound and then when his true colours come out, she'll leave him too.
... (read in full...)
I've never had a boyfriend but I've fallen for this guy at work. I need advice.
Q. I am a 25 year old female who has never had a boyfriend and who I suppose if I'm honest I'm a bit uptight when it comes to opposite sex due to my upbringing. I have fallen for this guy at work who seems interested in me but I don't think he wants a ...
A. 24 March 2009: If he has a bit of a reputation that means he has told people about other girls and he will tell people about you. He may tell people you were amazing in bed but do you really want anything out there about you?
I'm a bit of a lady about these th... (read in full...)
What should I do about my halitosis?
Q. I developed halitosis ( bad breath ) a year before. What do you think should I do?...
A. 24 March 2009: Here is some advice from Wikipedia:
1. Gently cleaning the tongue surface twice daily is the most effective way to keep bad breath in control; that can be achieved using a tongue cleaner or tongue brush/scraper to wipe off the bacteria... (read in full...)
I feel like I am at this point in my life where I am missing out on things and it breaks my heart he does not want to be there with me.
Q. My husband and I have 2 children together (8 years old and 18 months old). I am due in June with our 3rd child. I am a stay at home mom for the most part, running two businesses from home aside from being a super mom, maid, cook and wife. My husband ...
A. 24 March 2009: I think your husband is going to carry on telling you that you are responsible for your own happiness because at the moment he is perfectly content.
So take him at his word. Go out and make new friends. Male and Female.
And when you go out ... (read in full...)
Situation with teacher and me and I don't know what to do.
Q. I haven't spoken in a year (to my teacher) had a bad time with him, I am leaving school in 4 weeks and I somehow want to talk to him and ask why he never spoke back to me when he promised he would never ignore me when he did so harshly. I want to...
A. 24 March 2009: You just have to accept that he used you. He's had his fun and now he's bitter about it because he got caught.
He NEEDS this job. There is a recession on.
You will only understand and get your answers when you are older and have seen how me... (read in full...)
Does he want more from me?
Q. My boyfriend just fingered me and it was really good. I just want to know will he want more now and want to have sex? I mean we have talked about how we are going to want a little bit but he is always all over me and was just wanting to know if he ...
A. 24 March 2009: Of course he will WANT more.
He is a teenage boy and their hormones mean that they want nothing but sex all the time.
HOWEVER, luckily for you, he also has a brain and he knows that sex is a bad idea and he knows not to push you or do anythi... (read in full...)
Teacher Love?
Q. ok...do i hear anybody? *tests mic* ok...good. Listen please, i really need help. My teacher said i'm sexy and i'm only 13, he's 29. i love him, and i know all the risks i'm taking if i do love him. (The whole teacher can loose his job thing) Yea...
A. 24 March 2009: You can either carry on and then you'll have to be interviewed by police when he gets sent to prison.
Or, you can take control and tell him it's not right and it has to end.
He won't just lose his job. He will be named in the local paper, hav... (read in full...)
Just want to be friends...
Q. Sigh...well here it goes... This girl at my school asked me if I liked her while we were txting and I said ya cuz I really do! Anyways before I even asked her out she told me she just wants to be friends... That was like a month ago and now she comp...
A. 24 March 2009: You just have to leave her be.
She knows you like her so she knows she will never be able to be a good friend to you without leading you on, or having you want her all the time.
She is a smart girl and knows being close to you will hurt you.
... (read in full...)
Men:- Why do some guys say one thing in a text and do the opposite in real life?
Q. Men:- Why do some guys say one thing in a text and do the opposite in real life? - Why can't men just be straight with us women? Do men always mean what they say in a text or do they just hide behind the words?...
A. 24 March 2009: Again, don't generalise.
"Men" don't do it. YOUR ONE SINGLE bloke does it and he probably does it because he's a knob.
Maybe his mummy didn't love him enough, or maybe too much.
I bet he has some kind of excuse.
Anyway, just accept to ... (read in full...)
Stay? Take a break? Or move on?
Q. Any advice. My boyfriend of over 2 years does not give me the attention he used to. He was in rehab and as soon as he got out we got back together. We were insuperable always together and so in love. Than he got a new job new friends and got sponsor ...
A. 24 March 2009: Tell him once more and then if nothing changes then dump him.
It might be the kick up the bum he needs.
But it could just be the case that he is rebuilding his life. He's moving on and you remind him of the bad times before rehab.
If tha... (read in full...)
Men:- Why do some guys say one thing in a text and do the opposite in real life?
Q. Men:- Why do some guys say one thing in a text and do the opposite in real life? - Why can't men just be straight with us women? Do men always mean what they say in a text or do they just hide behind the words?...
A. 24 March 2009: Ok, so we have cut past the massive generalisations now.
We are not talking about all men, are we?
Your real question is:
"My man is really lovely in texts but I know he's messing about with his ex."
The answer is, texts are easy and he... (read in full...)
In 3 days her attitude changed completely
Q. Why would a girl that was really into you for weeks beforehand suddenly loose interest in barely 3 days. She went from being as giddy as a school girl, to wanting to only be friends, to not wanting to talk to me and asking for some space for a whil...
A. 24 March 2009: Well if she has had a crush on you for a while she may have built you up into this perfect guy in her head.
Then she meets the real you and you are not like she has imagined so she is put off you.
Accept that you did nothing wrong and she wa... (read in full...)
I lost my temper, she ended things..I want her back!
Q. I recently realized how bad my temper can be. I have a very short fuse and I blow up. I came to realize this when I scared the girl I wanted to propose to, the love of my life. I didn't harm her in any way, or touch her in any aggressive way. I was ...
A. 13 March 2009: It's guys like you that prove there is hope out there. You sound great. You know you have a problem and you know you are going to fix it.
So that's the first thing sorted. You aren't here saying "she over reacted, it's not like I would ACTUALLY... (read in full...)
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